The Very Many Questions-Not-Worth-Their-Own-Thread Thread XXXII

[Hrothbern]

Do people here like Swiss cheese?

yesss
Hard mountain cheeses like the Appenzeller that is also available abroad.
Though the French hard and semi-hard mountain cheeses are better.

 

[GoodSarmatian]

Do people here like Swiss cheese?

Sometimes.
I generally prefer French and Dutch cheeses and really like Tilsiter.

 

[The_J]

Do you remember the transition time ?

Yes, I do.
Was not nice.
Why do you ask?

 

[Borachio]

I wasn't saying that, I was just answering the question about whether or not it's possible to change by giving my own experience. By no means am I suggesting that anyone else should make that change. I was trying to give a concrete, real world example instead of just saying 'yeah you can do it'. That doesn't mean I think he should become and extrovert, I'm just trying to answer the question.

In my case more extroverted was better but that's not the point I'm making. I'm just saying you can in fact change yourself to be better, however you define that. And my example was useful here because there probably aren't many bigger personality shifts possible (excluding those associated with gender transitions) than introvert->extrovert.

Yeah. OK.

I posted in haste, and didn't really say what I wanted to say. Sorry about that.

Going from introvert to extrovert is always the one that gets mentioned, it seems to me.

Extrovert to introvert must surely happen too (I would suppose) but probably the people who it happens to don't mention it. Being too shy.

Then there's the introverted extroverts (perhaps you were one), who manage to release their inner extrovert.

So their essential nature doesn't change at all. But just gets expressed differently.

Still, I guess that constitutes change as much as anything else.
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Then there's Gruyère which is Swiss and has holes. And is tasty enough for me (not fond of strong cheese).

But you can equally get French Gruyère. And I wouldn't know the difference with my eyes shut and the label removed.

 

[Synobun]

Do people here like Swiss cheese?

It's good on a sandwich.

 

[Hrothbern]

Yes, I do.
Was not nice.
Why do you ask?

I worded badly

I mean the duration of that transition

(fishing for the small steps and small encouraging rewards of those small steps)

But perhaps you really switched ?

 

[Gori the Grey]

I like lots of kinds of cheeses. But I'm not fond of Swiss Cheese.

 

[The_J]

I worded badly

I mean the duration of that transition

(fishing for the small steps and small encouraging rewards of those small steps)

But perhaps you really switched ?

Ah...mmmhh...that depends on how you count it. Something between a half to 1.5 years.
The half year is from the decision to change, until I would say I had a sort of regular and stable life.
The 1.5 years if you count everything what lead to it and until I got comfortable with it.
The first part, which lead to it (change of country, living with other people in a student dorm, new work, new people at work, trouble and confusion at work, with life and maybe the biggest part: love sickness, and the lady in question moving out of the student dorm, and getting psychological treatment) was a half year.
The next half year was then more psychological treatment, change in daily habits (stopped wasting too much time here, and started a regular sports schedule), and hanging more out with people (just by following more invitations).
In the half year after that I stopped the psychological treatment, and... just continued. I had my first date in that time (which resulted in a horrible mess ), started dancing (I think, that might have been later though, not sure), met more people and spent more time with my friends. At the end of that period, we also had at work a major change in social relationships (that happened more or less by accident), which led to a very active social life of everyone involved.

The time was full of crying, and self doubt. At some point in life you think you're a grown up adult, and that you know who you are.
And then something like this comes along, and changes everything, who you think you are, what you like (a minor thing, but very noticable: My taste in music went all over the place), what you do, your perception about yourself. This is not easy. I thought I'd knew I was a computer playing nerd, who likes to sit at home, listen to metal music, and not to talk to people.
I haven't touched a game within the last 4 years, and recently sold my stash. Before I e.g. spent easter only playing and watching TV, straight for 4 days, only going once quickly shopping (and not even showering for that). Now there's not one day where I don't leave my house to at least do sports or dancing, and regularly meet my old and new friends, and before I changed city (again), I was also out every Friday and Saturday evening (drinking with friends, at a concert or a student party). In the last 4 years I experienced more stuff than in the 27 years before that.
If you would have told me that like 7 years ago, I'd have called you crazy.
It happened. It was painfull, but it was good. I'll continue like that .



EDIT: I didnt need much encouragement for this.
I wanted to get the lady I was in love with. I perceived her (partially wrongly) as very outgoing and active. So I decided to be more active, outgoing, and get in shape (that's why I started with sports). The change happened entirely out of wrong reasons (to appeal to someone else instead of self improvement), but hey, it worked.

 

[Hrothbern]

Ah...mmmhh...that depends on how you count it. Something between a half to 1.5 years.
The half year is from the decision to change, until I would say I had a sort of regular and stable life.
The 1.5 years if you count everything what lead to it and until I got comfortable with it.
The first part, which lead to it (change of country, living with other people in a student dorm, new work, new people at work, trouble and confusion at work, with life and maybe the biggest part: love sickness, and the lady in question moving out of the student dorm, and getting psychological treatment) was a half year.
The next half year was then more psychological treatment, change in daily habits (stopped wasting too much time here, and started a regular sports schedule), and hanging more out with people (just by following more invitations).
In the half year after that I stopped the psychological treatment, and... just continued. I had my first date in that time (which resulted in a horrible mess ), started dancing (I think, that might have been later though, not sure), met more people and spent more time with my friends. At the end of that period, we also had at work a major change in social relationships (that happened more or less by accident), which led to a very active social life of everyone involved.

The time was full of crying, and self doubt. At some point in life you think you're a grown up adult, and that you know who you are.
And then something like this comes along, and changes everything, who you think you are, what you like (a minor thing, but very noticable: My taste in music went all over the place), what you do, your perception about yourself. This is not easy. I thought I'd knew I was a computer playing nerd, who likes to sit at home, listen to metal music, and not to talk to people.
I haven't touched a game within the last 4 years, and recently sold my stash. Before I e.g. spent easter only playing and watching TV, straight for 4 days, only going once quickly shopping (and not even showering for that). Now there's not one day where I don't leave my house to at least do sports or dancing, and regularly meet my old and new friends, and before I changed city (again), I was also out every Friday and Saturday evening (drinking with friends, at a concert or a student party). In the last 4 years I experienced more stuff than in the 27 years before that.
If you would have told me that like 7 years ago, I'd have called you crazy.
It happened. It was painfull, but it was good. I'll continue like that .



EDIT: I didnt need much encouragement for this.
I wanted to get the lady I was in love with. I perceived her (partially wrongly) as very outgoing and active. So I decided to be more active, outgoing, and get in shape (that's why I started with sports). The change happened entirely out of wrong reasons (to appeal to someone else instead of self improvement), but hey, it worked.

Thanks for sharing that all !
cool

Good description.... and keep on going

EDIT
(for your edit )

EDIT: I didnt need much encouragement for this.
I wanted to get the lady I was in love with. I perceived her (partially wrongly) as very outgoing and active. So I decided to be more active, outgoing, and get in shape (that's why I started with sports). The change happened entirely out of wrong reasons (to appeal to someone else instead of self improvement), but hey, it worked.

You are and will not be the only one that got booted himself because of love
And keeping on dating (horrible mess or not) is a very good way to get to know yourself

 

[Lemon Merchant]

The change happened entirely out of wrong reasons (to appeal to someone else instead of self improvement), but hey, it worked.

No matter what your reasons, you made a positive change in your life, J. Well done!

Celebrate that achievement. Too many people give up mid journey. It's refreshing to see someone who made it through.

 

[Takhisis]

Changing sometimes requires decisions that aren't so obvious until you've taken them. Some years ago I made the decision of not eating out of hours or between meals and that effectively led to a very interesting instance of weight loss without much of a change either in my total calory intake or physical exercise.

What's Schwarzenegger's best movie?

Terminator 2

Yep.

I've tried looking at my earliest CFC posts. Oh god, why didn't you guys stop me?! Oh the horror..

You get better at it the more you do it.

 

[Mouthwash]

Lemon is a mod? I'm glad I came back now.

A dilemma: I potentially have the opportunity to date a 17-year-old. My dating life has been pretty much nonexistent since I moved here, so I'm not as picky as most. But I want to know if it is considered "creepy" for a 21-year-old to date someone that young.

(Age of consent is 16 in Israel.)

 

[Synobun]

If you have to ask, the answer is yes.

 

[Mouthwash]

Already retired? Man.

If you have to ask, the answer is yes.

I have virtually no experience with dating, so it's not surprising that I would ask, is it?

 

[Arakhor]

I have virtually no experience with dating, so it's not surprising that I would ask, is it?

Not particularly, but if you feel the need to ask, you probably think it is anyway.

 

[GoodSarmatian]

I'd say 21/17 is acceptable, but just barely. A bit creepy, but not creepy creepy.

 

[Yeekim]

A dilemma: I potentially have the opportunity to date a 17-year-old. My dating life has been pretty much nonexistent since I moved here, so I'm not as picky as most. But I want to know if it is considered "creepy" for a 21-year-old to date someone that young.

If you like her, go for it and ignore what someone might "consider".

 

[GenMarshall]

Everyone changes, pretty much all the time. Try looking back on what you did five years ago.

It's something that I don't want to look at since I'm cringing at the old just butting heads for the sakes of argument/pwning people. Which have, unfortunately, left a bad taste in people's mouths. Infact I still do regret making bigoted and homophobic posts in the past (this is looking back 5+ years ago when I was an immature wanker).

 

[Arakhor]

I'm not sure I've changed entirely in just five years, but I'm definitely very different to how I was 15 years ago.

 

[Borachio]

Lemon is a mod? I'm glad I came back now.

A dilemma: I potentially have the opportunity to date a 17-year-old. My dating life has been pretty much nonexistent since I moved here, so I'm not as picky as most. But I want to know if it is considered "creepy" for a 21-year-old to date someone that young.

(Age of consent is 16 in Israel.)

Wait until she marries.

And then make friends with the husband.