Of course, Calabrim. Indeed, it's ruled by vampires, but the worst they can do to you is killing you rather painlessly. It's still better than being tortured by confessors in goody Bannor Empire, or being rallied to another religious crusade... Besides, they don't always kill when they feed, and offer very good social mobility with a gift that is worth all the risks on top. The rulers are one of the sanest among all, and the society is quite open.
You are mistaken about the Vampires of Erebus. Many vampires do enjoy the taste of human blood, but drinking this is not what defines or sustains them. They my have led many even within Erebus to believe that myth, but the truth is much darker. Their feeding always kills, and not only the physical body. The vampiric ritual involves devouring their victim's very souls, robbing them not only of this life but also the next. Victims do not die painlessly, but are typically tortured for quite some time. The ritual involves the use of arcane runes (very much like those which Valledia the Even ordered Samael to use on Einion Logos's wife when she was trying to frame the Infernals for the crime and trick the Elohim into breaking their peace treaty with the demons before Hyborem could focus his troops on destroying the Amurites). These runes trap the soul within the body, allowing the victim to remain alive and fully conscious of torments far beyond what would normally be fatal. Only after the soul has become truly desperate does the vampire destroy a certain rune to allow the soul to escape into his own body and be consumed. Gifting vampirism in Erebus is not a matter of a victim biting the vampire back and drinking blood, but rather of a vampire master instructing a pupil in how to properly perform such a ritual murder.
----
I really don't think that there is much in the canon of Erebus about male dark elves being subservient to females. The Svartalfar's hero Alazkan is male, as is their greatest mage (Wode, the student of Kylorin who led the school of Shadow Magic in the Age of Magic, who I like to imagine is still active in the Winter Court as elves have great longevity and there is no mention of him dying). I believe they are fairly egalitarian as far as gender goes, although they do consider themselves racially to be superior to all others. Dark Elves of both gender live in terror of Queen Faeryl Viconia. Few would dare to oppose her, although Rivanna is considering a coup.
I don't think there is much evidence that female dominated (human) societies have ever really suppressed their men. What the Greeks wrote of the Amazons was certainly hyperbole. There are several tribes that they could have formed the basis for the myth, but they were more gender egalitarian than matriarchal.
The God of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam is not male. In Hebrew every noun must be either masculine or feminine, but that has little to do with physical gender. As a spirit, God has no physical gender, only grammatical gender. Jews have been explicit about this since long before the time of Christ. It may be worth noting that in Hebrew the word "spirit" is feminine, whereas in Greek it is neuter and Latin it is masculine. The Hebrew for wisdom (which was translated into Greek as the masculine word Logos and equated with Christ) is also feminine, as is the term for his glory or manifest presence. Several names for God have very strong feminine connotations. For example, he is likened to a mother hen and what we often translate as "God Almighty" might be better rendered as "God, My Teat" (implying that he nourishes us like nursing mother). The Koran makes a point to alternate pronouns so that we don't get in the habit of associating God with any particular gender.
