Which is more painful?

[Hygro]

Which of these causes you more frustration or suffering or whatever ill feelings?

A) You want something "bad" but you have no means of acquiring it, so you can never have it.

B) You want something "bad", you know you can achieve it, but it involves going well outside your comfort zone and you don't have to achieve it to continue life as you know it.

 

[rugbyLEAGUEfan]

Ideally ?"A"would cause me no drama and "B" ? Well I'd do it anyway .

Realistically ? I think I'm old and wise enough to accept "A" , so "B"

 

[Disgustipated]

B

It's a simple enough poll question. I'll provide examples.

I don't have many celebrity crushes, in fact I have none. But I do find Penelope Cruz a hottie. But it doesn't bother me the least bit I'll never have sex with her.

And then a crush I had a couple years ago on a girl. Although I wouldn't say it was well outside my comfort zone, but it was outside of my comfort zone (my comfort zone is not to talk to women at all ). I was so frustrated and upset at myself for not having the sack to ask her out or whatever. I was beating myself up over it for a couple months. Eventually circumstances (she was going to leave my place of work) forced me into action, and I asked her out. And I still have a relationship (albeit an unusual one) with her today. The point is before I finally asked her out, I was pretty miserable because I wanted her so bad.

 

[rugbyLEAGUEfan]

As a fellow admirer of Penelope Cruz , it pleases me that you will never defile her

 

[Ramius75]

As a fellow admirer of Penelope Cruz , it pleases me that you will never defile her

Tom Cruise did...

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

Not being able to know something is far worse for me than grappling with the uncomfortable implications of a piece of information.

 

[Disgustipated]

I'm surprised at these poll results, so I'll provide another example. This example is not related to people, it's related to a career.

It doesn't bother me at all that I can't be an Astronaut or President of the U.S. It's not something that affects my day to day life.

But if it were a job/career that I was so close to getting, but couldn't obtain because of my shyness takes me out of my comfort zone, but I really wanted, then it would be painful if I could not have it.

 

[plarq]

Woman is not "something", but affairs with whom might constitute as "something".

 

[GoodSarmatian]

It's currently quite painful to wait for Mass Effect 3.
I know that I'll have it on Friday, but theres nothing i can do about it until then.

 

[Rashiminos]

My downtown fantasies have been ruined. A and B cannot compare.

 

[plarq]

My downtown fantasies have been ruined. A and B cannot compare.

You fantasized about downtown?!

 

[Integral]

Implying you don't fantasize about downtown.

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B. Always B. To be in despair not to will to be oneself; et cetera.

 

[emzie]

B by a mile.

B means that what I want is A because of my own failings.

 

[civver_764]

I think I could deal with both those things pretty well, especially recently. I'd say B is worse though.

 

[Verarde]

B, definitively. It's always worse knowing that you could or should have done something in a situation rather thank knowing that there was absolutely nothing that you could have done.

 

[Ajidica]

B is worse as I have only myself to blame.

 

[JollyRoger]

Life has been tougher since Penelope Cruz moved from A to B.

 

[plarq]

Life has been tougher since Penelope Cruz moved from A to B.

you have a shot for Penelope?

 

[JollyRoger]

Yeah, but serving time for it is outside of my comfort zone.

 

[classical_hero]

We should consider A and the Downtown option one and the same, since he is getting married.