Would you adopt a child?

[El_Machinae]

I've already adopted my wife's daughter. I would not adopt another child, though I'm happy to sponsor some. My family also has foster babies.

 

[Newbunkle]

I wouldn't, unless I was adopting a son/daughter of a partner. Not to worry, there are plenty of people trying to sponge fertility treatment off the state who could adopt instead.

 

[LucyDuke]

There's so many more people wanting to adopt than there are kids available for adoption that it's never even occurred to me to join that queue since I've got a couple of non-adopted ones.

It seems like the people who want to adopt are looking for babies, not the kids that actually are available.

 

[Abaddon]

Only if I can't have kids of my own, and biologically and with modern medicine, I can't see that happening.

 

[Mathilda]

It seems like the people who want to adopt are looking for babies, not the kids that actually are available.

I live in a parallel reality.
There are less than 50 kids available for adoption in Finland / year.
More than half of adoptions are from abroad, which is not a cheap affair.
As far as I know the real need is for foster families, not for adoptive families.

 

[Bast]

I will adopt a Latin American and/or Indian child.

 

[Elear]

It is more accurate. They only care if the baby is born, not if it dies of malnutrition or lack of health care after it's born.

This is an unfair generalization. There are plenty of us who care both for the birth of the baby AND human lives afterwards. It is unfortunate that we can't take care of everyone, but I certainly do put what money and effort that I can towards it to try. Please don't blame the actions of a few on the majority of us "anti-abortion"ers.

And to say that we should terminate babies (or fetuses, if you want to call them that, they are a stage of human life no matter the terminology) in favor of living ones seems tremendously unfair to what could have been even if it can benefit those already alive.

For the record, I'm strongly in favor of adoption and I plan to adopt at least one child myself someday.

 

[Sharwood]

I will adopt a Latin American and/or Indian child.

But not a Palestinian one? RASIST!1!

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I'm pro-choice, and have no problem with adoption.I don't plan on ever doing it, or even having children in general for that matter, but if I ever did change my mind it would certainly be an option.

 

[GenMarshall]

Pro-life (with exceptions), would not adopt. I'd rather raise my own children that has part of my genetics.

 

[Ecofarm]

I'm pro-life. As far as I'm concerned, the issue is not about the woman. It's about another person involved (no, not the father) and their right to life. Just because a person is in you doesn't mean you have the right to choose to kill them. Child's right to life > mother's right to convient murder. If they don't want the kid, they can put it up for adoption or at least give it a shot in foster care. Every adopted/fostered person I've ever met is VERY happy they were not aborted.


I'd adopt.

 

[Gooblah]

Pro-choice, but I think that I would probably suck at parenting, so to spare the child, no I would not adopt.

Honestly, I prefer adoption over making another baby, since there's such a huge backlog anyways and contraceptives deserve to be used, but hey! whatever floats your boat.

 

[Ecofarm]

If someone is so "pro-choice", why don't they consider what choice the child would make. Sounds like they are anti-choice on the child's behalf. Does anyone think the child would choose not to live? Do the pro-choicers care about the choice the kid would make? Or are we supposed to pretend that a fetus is not a person... lame.

As far as I'm concerned, a woman can do whatever she wants with her body, but that kid's body should be protected by law.

Hell, if we wanna get all super-choicey, why not let the father also "choose" and force the mother to abort? No choice for the father... no choice for the kid... yea, that's REAL choicey. The pro-abortion (and don't pretend otherwise... deal with the result of the position like an adult... accept the consequences as part of the action - being pro-capital punishment is not being pro-choice for the court) movement sounds to me more like pro-dictatorship than pro-choice.

 

[Rossiya]

At this moment in time I do not want to adopt a child.

 

[Masada]

Long tradition where I come from, to adopt the unwanted children of kin. Even quite extended kin. It certainly helped in the Depression and after the First and Second World War did some serious damage to the whole region. At the Cenotaph, for a town and surrounding region of some 5000 people there were close on 300 names in the First World War. During the Depression which hit hard... with so few young men to support families you can guess how hard it hit. By the time the Second World War came round the population had shrunk to 3500-3800 and almost the same number of men fell. That accounted for two generations of young mostly married men and destroyed and stamped out a great many lines who couldn't quite deal with almost all their heirs dying two generations in a row.

I might have some conditions and I might not like necessarily to have to do it as of this moment... but yeah I would.

 

[aronnax]

Well if the State allowed a Single Male or a male couple to adopt a child.

Then Yes, I will adopt. Though that will be the choice after surrogation

 

[Ecofarm]

Well if the State allowed a Single Male or a male couple to adopt a child.

Then Yes, I will adopt. Though that will be the choice after surrogation

What if you had a surrogate and at 8 months she decided "nah, don't wanna" and aborted. Would you consider supporting her to be "pro-choice" on your's or the child's behalf?

 

[Cato the Elder]

I'm pro-life. As far as I'm concerned, the issue is not about the woman. It's about another person involved (no, not the father) and their right to life. Just because a person is in you doesn't mean you have the right to choose to kill them. Child's right to life > mother's right to convient murder. If they don't want the kid, they can put it up for adoption or at least give it a shot in foster care. Every adopted/fostered person I've ever met is VERY happy they were not aborted.


I'd adopt.

I'm a milder version of this. Abortion should still be allowed in the first trimester, but sincerely discouraged. However, to compensate, we must have an efficient, streamlined, humane, and reliable adoption service, preferably state-owned, as it covers the most basic right of the citizens of any country, being life, and that shouldn't be made any harder for poor people because it's privatised.

Oh, and of course homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt, so long as they fullfill the same requirements as a heterosexual couple when it comes to being a decent parent.

Do you agree with me here, Eco?

 

[Ecofarm]

Life begins at conception.

I would concede; however, that despite the fiscal conservative in me, I would still like to see a more compassionate (via government support) and well regulated adoption and foster system. That's a little bit of bigger government that I (and others, more literally) could live with.

I've no problem with gays adopting/surrogating. I used to shy away from that a little, considering the difficulties it may entail for the child with peers, but not anymore. If it pushes the issue in some uncomfortable ways for mainstream society, good - we need gender equality.

I'd like to agree with the first trimester thing, but I would only be doing so for political purposes; to be honest.

 

[aronnax]

What if you had a surrogate and at 8 months she decided "nah, don't wanna" and aborted. Would you consider supporting her to be "pro-choice" on your's or the child's behalf?

1) Um She cant do that... If she is the surrogate, Im the child's father, she is merely, dare I say it, the womb. Not the mother, she cannot do away with my child. Months before there we be an agreement that she bears my child and I pay her this some or she willingingly bears the child or something like that

2) No doctor will abort an 8 month old baby. No civil doctor anyway

 

[Ecofarm]

I was referring to someone taking a position such as this one, for example:

I'm totally in favor of abortion for any reason at any time.

Plus the circumstance I described. And still claiming to be "pro-choice". Personally, I find such a position and claim (especially as illustrated in the circumstance described) to be incredibly myopic and narrow-minded. To think that it is all about the mother and her alone is just beyond me.