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[LucyDuke]

What's so good about an idealised belief in monogamy that it needs to be mollycoddled and protected?
I think it's a good think to destroy it early before it sticks. It's a worthless cultural construct that causes a lot of problems.

Who's mollycoddling? Monogamy works well for some people. Sleeping around works well for other people. Obviously you can't have both, but one isn't better than the other.

oh i kno good sex. i don't exactly stick to my age group.

You're fifteen? I don't think you do. It's not just his age, it's yours too. Don't take that to be condescending, because it's not a bad thing at all. Just sayin' the best is yet to come. Hell, I'm 21 and I don't think I've had the best yet.

I've really been put offthe whole sleeping around this by last week. Aka now i'm single I sleptwith a couple of girls and to be honest I didn't really feel that greatafter...in fact after the 2nd one I felt a bit horsehockey because I was doing it for the sake of sex rather than cuz I actually liked her at all.

You've got balls to admit that and I really respect it. I know some guys that would challenge your masculinity if they heard that, but I think it evidences your humanity.

Keep in mind that some girls might be looking for the same NSA sex, and they might not really like you either. Some people enjoy that, some don't. If you prefer sex with commitment, you're a rare breed and you should advertise that trait.

Girls: Do you actually appreciate unoriginal presants like flowers/chocs/jewels or demand something different?

As far as birthdays or anniversaries or the dreaded VD, flowers and chocolates and (regular, not pricey) jewelry are really meeting expectations. You know how your teachers or bosses always want you to exceed expectations? So does your girlfriend.

I can only speak for myself, but if somebody goes to the trouble to get me something, I appreciate it whether or not it's original. Of course it's nice when it's something special, but how could you demand some kind of present? Doesn't that miss the point? But if you've been with someone for a long time, and they get you something generic and meaningless for some occasion, it kind of shows you that they're not trying very hard. So I guess it depends on the situation?

As for flowers, if you're out somewhere with your girl, hiking perhaps, and you spot some wildflowers, go get 'em. Give them to her, or put them in her hair (if it's up, or curly, or some way that'll secure a flower). One of my friends does this all the time, we're not a couple, but it translates perfectly to couples. I love it.

Not to argue with GT, but not all of us like cards.

Are girls more inclined to go for guys with lots of money then good looks?

I've noticed that in my school a lot of girls prefer to go out with the rich north Indian guys from Delhi (Damn them) rather than any of the other guys mainly because the rich north Indian guys from Delhi flaunt their wealth with their latest phones, laptops, ipods, cars, and obscene amounts of money that no one should be allowed to have.

But yeah those guys aren't much to look at but they all have girlfriends.

Let's try personality? Neither money or looks is the most important factor. If somebody's a jerk, the girls he gets with his looks or his money are jerks, too. If he's a good guy, well, looks and money are nice bonuses.

Honestly, I think if you were to present me with two guys that are otherwise completely the same, both really good people, and one was loaded but ugly and the other was pretty but broke, I'd probably go with the broke one. I'm broke myself, so I can relate better. And like I've said in other threads, if he were spending the money on me, I'd feel like a whore.

If those Indian guys at your school are decent people, it's not the money that's getting them the girls. If they're not decent people, their girls probably aren't either.

 

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