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Asking a girl out, would like new ideas on execution
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GenMarshall
High Elven ISB Capt & Ghost Agent
Been doing that my whole life (Waiting for a woman to come to me) and IT STILL HAS NOT HAPPENED!Gr3yL3gion said:
GenMarshall
High Elven ISB Capt & Ghost Agent
I dont take too well to rejection. If I get rejected, I become so upset that I shrivle up like the PC guy in the Mac comercial. I fear rejection and I fear approaching to women that I or my friends dont know.warpus said:
Shylock
Hey smiling strange
CivGeneral said:
That's never a way to do things. They won't come to you or anyone else.
Gr3yL3gion
Voice of Madness
CivGeneral said:Been doing that my whole life (Waiting for a woman to come to me) and IT STILL HAS NOT HAPPENED!
I remember that you used to have a girlfriend, what happened to her?
(Apologized in advance if this reminds you of something bad that you don't want to be remind of)
In any case, I didn't specified that you should just stand there idle and just wait for a girl to approach you. Do something about it, be proactive in some community in your area(Church, school, anything) and the chances for you of meeting someone is higher. As long as your intentions is sincere(You are at specified place to do something, not hitting on the girls), people will gladly approach you and you are likely to meet someone who really likes you.
Besides that, you're still young, why is the rush? Love and mariage isn't a race, and given time and patience, you'll find someone out there that make your happy.
Final note is that just go out and HAVE FUN! Girls are likely to stick around a happy person than a gloomy person who spends most of their time on internet.
GenMarshall
High Elven ISB Capt & Ghost Agent
Hah! That would never work. There are no single women out there, single women are an endangered speaces and are rare. Apperently I am unlucky enough to be living in an area where there are no single women!
When I go out, I do scope out with the intentions of finding at least a single woman whom would talk to me. Unfortunately, I cant talk to any girls due to the fear of rejection.
When I go out, I do scope out with the intentions of finding at least a single woman whom would talk to me. Unfortunately, I cant talk to any girls due to the fear of rejection.
I am already feeling that a quarterly-life crisis has hit me. Most of my friends are already on the road to getting married and I have no love for me. I dont want to grow old lonely and unmarried.Gr3yL3gion said:
Shylock
Hey smiling strange
CivGeneral said:
That's impossible, women are constantly switching boyfriends.
If that is somehow the case, move or use the internet.
Gr3yL3gion
Voice of Madness
CivGeneral said:
Single women as if they have a boyfriend, or a husband? There's still chance if she's just in a boyfriend-girlfriend stage, remember that the women at these stage of life still have a choice in regards to life time partner. My advice is that if you are sincere enough, go for it! Most girls just use the line "I have a boyfriend" to weed out losers or those who aren't sincere enough to begin with.
Secondly, rejection is part and parcel of life. If you can't handle rejection, there's no life to begin with. You need to outgrow yourself in handling rejections regardless where it came from(job promotion, girls, anything). Just do it repeatedly and you'll grow a very thick skin. Go out of the house now and talk to any girls that you're fancy, and sooner or later you'll grow out of these phase. It's good that a women accept you for the first time, otherwise just move on to the next target.
Finally, I can't helped but
on your quarterly-life crisis, if there's any. Do not submit to peer pressure in that if your friends have a girlfriend that you need to have one yourself. Like I said, relationship isn't a race and you don't have to submit yourself in unwarranted burden of need to have a girlfriend. Take your time and when the moment comes, everything will click by itself. Hell, by your mid twenties to thirties, your range of choices grows significantly higher as you can date girls from early twenties to thirties as well, in addition to that you're finacially assured and emationally matured to deal with anything that comes.
Homie
Anti-Lefty
BULL FEASES!gREYlEGION said:
This guy is full of belony. CivGenral, you're way better off finding a quality girl in high school or college, when they're not all taken, and some of them still have their innocense. If you wait till after college, pretty much all your left with is women with emotional baggage, definately not a virgin, and not pretty.
I know you are Christian and would probably like a nice, pretty, innocent Christian girl, well by college they're pretty much all taken. I'm in your shoes CivGeneral (the quart-life crisis) and it is a real one, of much greater significanse than the mid-life crisis. Because your life is more or less put in direction in your young years, so if you mess up there - you're screwed. All mid-life crisis is "I'm getting old...buhuu".
The bright side: Heaven is for eternity, life is but the blink of an eye in comparison. Tough it out till this crap is over. Keep the faith brotha
Ingvina Freyr
wants a Steamfree option
What's with all this talk about quarterly-life crisis or getting married? I thought the guy was 16-17 years old and asking for a good way to approach a nice girl? 
Look Shylock, when you're 16-17 years old and at school, you're supposed to have fun. Don't take life too seriously, there'll be lots of time to do that later anyway. Hurry up and ask the girl out, and if she says no, ask someone else. As I said in an earlier post; don't waste time. That is the only thing you can't make up for later.
Look Shylock, when you're 16-17 years old and at school, you're supposed to have fun. Don't take life too seriously, there'll be lots of time to do that later anyway. Hurry up and ask the girl out, and if she says no, ask someone else. As I said in an earlier post; don't waste time. That is the only thing you can't make up for later.
Shylock
Hey smiling strange
I stated on the second page that I did. I've learned long ago sitting on these things never works.
She seemed to have forgotten that I ever asked her out. She talked to me and everything, but didn't bring it up, neither did I.
I wonder if I should press the issue or just drop it and keep her as a friend. I don't have any attachment to her so I'm perfectly able to walk away from this.
She seemed to have forgotten that I ever asked her out. She talked to me and everything, but didn't bring it up, neither did I.
I wonder if I should press the issue or just drop it and keep her as a friend. I don't have any attachment to her so I'm perfectly able to walk away from this.
Masquerouge
Deity
Shylock said:
Cynically speaking, keep her as a friend - if only because she'll introduce you to more girls.
Shylock
Hey smiling strange
Masquerouge said:
That's what I'm thinking. If she can't even remember that I asked her out then she probably isn't interested.
Although she may be still thinking about it. My current strategy is to hang around and prove to her that I'm a good guy. She most likely knows dating is on the table and if she likes what she sees, I win.
Then again I haven't won this game since Febuary 2005.
Lambert Simnel
One across
Shylock said:
Urr. In my experienece women don't forget about these things, and "I'll think about it" is pretty close to a "no". Many younger people have a problem giving a direct "no" when it might hurt the other person's feelings.
She's probably wanting to just carry on as before, likes you OK but doesn't want to date, and is trying to just ignore the incident to avoid embarrassment or awkwardness. Sorry, but I wouldn't be too hopeful.
If you're really set on her, then the approach I would take is to be very upfront, relaxed and everything on the table now - I'm still interested in you, we know that, let's get on with oridnary life anyway, and let me know if you change how you feel about me. Doesn't work often....
Jawz II
Oh Dear
CivGeneral said:Been doing that my whole life (Waiting for a woman to come to me) and IT STILL HAS NOT HAPPENED!
unless youre uber handsome, rich and have a great personality, youll have to work alittle to meet girls. well not really work, just walk over and start talking to them is a good start.
if you can relax enough, it will be fun.
that's right, try to relax and be NICE. Sounds trivial but is true...
You may be just a little nervous but it can interpreted the wrong way sometimes.
You could also shape up on body language skills, helps you to tell what she is thinking and send the right signals. Most girls have god-given talent at that, they may not be aware sometimes but they see right through you...
You may be just a little nervous but it can interpreted the wrong way sometimes.
You could also shape up on body language skills, helps you to tell what she is thinking and send the right signals. Most girls have god-given talent at that, they may not be aware sometimes but they see right through you...
Abaddon
Deity
Club them over the head and drag them to your cave....
Worked for thousands of years.. who are we to argue?
Worked for thousands of years.. who are we to argue?
AceChilla
Goedheiligman
She didnt forget you asked her, she didnt brought it up and expects you to get the message.
I think you should make her more attracted to you before you ask her out. If you want her to be attracted to you, you should be: Relaxt, Dominant, Funny, Self Confident, Sensual etc.
Relaxed and self confident are the most important attitudes you should make your own through body language, pitch of your voice, smiling etc.
I think you should make her more attracted to you before you ask her out. If you want her to be attracted to you, you should be: Relaxt, Dominant, Funny, Self Confident, Sensual etc.
Relaxed and self confident are the most important attitudes you should make your own through body language, pitch of your voice, smiling etc.
Jawz II
Oh Dear
Masquerouge said:
cynically speaking, she will introduce him to more girls, even if they do become a couple.
you gotta think more with your penis and less with your, well whatever part of you it was that hatched that plan.
Shylock said:
oh friend, im sorry to tell you this, but youre about to walk into the door.
think about this 1 second, if some girl asked you out, no matter how uninteresting you considered her, would you forget it? of course not. no way in hell, not possible, specially not for girls.
sometime (pretty rare) girls do test guys. sometimes they wanna see what kind of integrity you got. like maybe she will ask you about something, for example lets say your opinion about something (about whatever) and they say something that is the exact opposite of what you said, just to see if you will backpeddal on what you said. if you do, youre screwed.
maybe her test is to see if you have the balls to ask her our again.
hanging out and being "the good guy" is the last thing you wanna do, trust me.
cause sometimes insecure girls keep hanging out with boys they know like them to constantly feed their ego.
i say: ask her in a friendly tone if she is going out with you or not, get an answer and learn to live with it. if she says no, then be friends with her only if you want to, not in hope of getting some down the road. if she dosent answer like if she wants more time to think, then its no.
and this concludes this weeks dear abby column, check back next week as i deal with child abuse and teen pregnancy!
Kan' Sharuminar
Fluffy
Abaddon said:
Sadly, that went out of style roughly around the same time as the bronze age came into play. Sorry man.
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