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You're going to have to pick one of these.
Whoah, whoah, whoah, #notallmen bro
You're going to have to pick one of these.
She could have, but she didn't. Again, the reasoning for this particular word choice is explained here:Then she should have called her a hypocrite and been done with it.
You are ignoring this part (or at least not explicitly commenting on it), which is why I make certain conclusions:Her use of the word was intentionally vile and scandalous to equal the vileness of the literal concentration camps this administration has set up to "handle" immigrant families. Bee's use of the term was unfortunate only inasmuch as it has given people writ large the license to ignore the larger point.
Your position is valid and legitimate, but you can also admit that there is more nuance and context to this situation?Y'know what? I'm more than tired of people telling me what I said and what I mean, when I am capable of knowing that for myself.
Ok, but that's not the point? The point is that a rich white man from America holds more social capital and power than an immigrant woman from a poor Eastern European country.Even mail-order brides get to say "no".
So every rotten government policy is met with the "c-word"?She could have, but she didn't. Again, the reasoning for this particular word choice is explained here:
Don't you mean I'm just not parroting the American nuance and context? Or maybe just not the male nuance and context?Your position is valid and legitimate, but you can also admit that there is more nuance and context to this situation?
Yeah, it is the point. At some point in the wedding vows, the bride is allowed to say no, if she really doesn't want the marriage.Ok, but that's not the point? The point is that a rich white man from America holds more social capital and power than an immigrant woman from a poor Eastern European country.
I never said she wasn't under constraint to remain in the marriage. She's probably tied up into a financial pretzel if she initiates divorce proceedings or refuses to do anything he tells her (I can just imagine that she was pushing it in the early months and people were remarking at what an absent First Lady she was and how indifferent she was to her new duties), and for sure she would never see her son again.Given Trump's track record (like today's comment that he has the right to pardon himself), it wouldn't be far-fetched to assume that Melania might be literally threatened to stay married to Trump. It could be like those mafia girlfriends who can't leave these mafia relationships because the mafia would ruin their lives. Thing is, we don't know what we don't know. I don't feel too bad for Melania, but she is definitely the least despicable person in the entire Trump family.
Don't you mean I'm just not parroting the American nuance and context? Or maybe just not the male nuance and context?
I look at this situation from a Canadian viewpoint and from a woman's viewpoint.
Yes, because spousal abuse is trivial.
We don't know that she's been abused, this is pure speculation.
Of course, because all men here know much more about women than women do. I really despise mansplaining.I honestly don't think you are much better qualified to provide the "general woman's viewpoint" or "general Canadian's viewpoint" than you are the "American" or "male" viewpoint. I would suggest that you stick to the Valka Viewpoint.
I'm more qualified to give a woman's viewpoint than you.
Since they supposedly sleep in separate beds, I think she has more power in the relationship then some give her credit for. Unless he likes sleeping alone with his cheeseburgers.
And some of you wonder why there aren't more women in OT... I'd invited someone yesterday, but I'll have to send another message and say, don't bother. Misogyny is alive and well on CFC.
Kathy Griffin posed with Trump's severed head in a photoshoot, which is a little more graphic and shocking than the c-word.So every rotten government policy is met with the "c-word"?
Why do you say it's male nuance and context? Samantha Bee is not a man. The opinion piece I posted is also written by a woman.Don't you mean I'm just not parroting the American nuance and context? Or maybe just not the male nuance and context?
Well, the argument I posted from that Medium article narrowly applies to the Bee/Ivanka case, so no, I am not arguing for the widespread use of this insult towards women.I look at this situation from a Canadian viewpoint and from a woman's viewpoint. I may despise everything Ivanka Trump appears to stand for, but she does not deserve to be called that word, and admittedly one of my reasons is because when people accept that it's somehow okay to apply it to her, that makes it okay to apply it to all women who do or say something that somebody disapproves of.
I am sorry you have been called that, and I also don't really expect CFC to be radically different from other male-dominated spaces.I've been on the receiving end of that word. It's not okay. It doesn't inspire any kind of good will at all, and I despise the people who have used it. I'm also disgusted with the people on this forum (CFC) who have said it's okay.
I don't understand what all of this has to do with my original post. I simply said that out of the entire Trump family, Melania is the least despicable person, and I sometimes feel bad for her. I can simultaneously judge Melania for bad life choices AND feel bad for her.Yeah, it is the point. At some point in the wedding vows, the bride is allowed to say no, if she really doesn't want the marriage.
I never said she wasn't under constraint to remain in the marriage. She's probably tied up into a financial pretzel if she initiates divorce proceedings or refuses to do anything he tells her (I can just imagine that she was pushing it in the early months and people were remarking at what an absent First Lady she was and how indifferent she was to her new duties), and for sure she would never see her son again.
What I'm talking about is walking into that marriage in the first place.
This post of yours is indeed an example of thinly veiled misogyny. You are also mansplaining in another post or two. So yeah, she is onto something here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯She's trying to play the "an insult to me is an insult to all women, and if you don't like me it means you're a misogynist" card.
This post of yours is indeed an example of thinly veiled misogyny. You are also mansplaining in another post or two. So yeah, she is onto something here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
She's trying to play the "an insult to me is an insult to all women, and if you don't like me it means you're a misogynist" card.
How nice for them. Is that supposed to make me think it's okay?I would also like to point out that in the US many offensive words have been reclaimed in the 90's and early 2000's. "Queer" is now a commonplace word, and "queer theory" is a legitimate subject, despite certain groups of people still using it as an insult. As far as I know, for the younger generation, the c-word is in many ways also a term of empowerment. The last "Vagina Monologues" I went to, women were chanting the c-word on stage, and they had fun.
That's reassuring.I am not arguing for the widespread use of this insult towards women.
In some ways this place has come a long way from when I first joined and was bluntly told, "You can't be a girl, because girls don't play computer games."I am sorry you have been called that, and I also don't really expect CFC to be radically different from other male-dominated spaces.
Did I ever say she was in any way despicable? No, I did not. I said she's rather clueless about the duties of a First Lady, but that's not the same as calling her despicable. I also said she was foolish/stupid/dumb to willingly walk into marriage with a known philanderer, but if that's what she wanted, I guess she must have thought the likelihood of not being respected was worth it.I don't understand what all of this has to do with my original post. I simply said that out of the entire Trump family, Melania is the least despicable person, and I sometimes feel bad for her. I can simultaneously judge Melania for bad life choices AND feel bad for her.
It's a typical example of his posts, and has been going on for years. That doesn't mean I excuse such garbage, nor do I respect people who post that "twist the other person's words and present the willful misinterpretation as fact" sort of crap. Unfortunately I'm not allowed to call it what it actually is.This post of yours is indeed an example of thinly veiled misogyny. You are also mansplaining in another post or two. So yeah, she is onto something here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
We don't know that she's been abused, this is pure speculation.
Is that supposed to make me think it's okay?
As usual, you don't have the first clue about why I post what I post. I never said any of that, and it's not what my posts in this thread mean.
Even mail-order brides get to say "no".
Y'know what? I'm more than tired of people telling me what I said and what I mean, when I am capable of knowing that for myself.
How's this?
My mother married her second husband, knowing that he had certain personality traits that were not indicative of good character. She walked into that of her own free will. Did she deserve what happened later? No. But nobody held a gun to her head on the day of the wedding.