Breaking up

[Shaihulud]

Just broke off with my girlfriend, she was cheating on me with her old bf. She is the insecure kind of girl, perhaps she was trying to make me jealous, but i am too sick and tired of the situation to care. This is not a thread to offer me commiseration, i don't need it. I am writing this to record my feelings about the situation, abit of numbness, but i can't say that i am going to be overwhelmed with bad feelings, Im going partying tonight. I know i will meet lots of girls, i am in anticipation. Btw the former bf is an infatuated and geeky but moneyed, theirs is not a lasting relationship too.

 

[Leifmk]

An insecure cheater? Yeah, you're better off without her.

Go out, get drunk, live a little. If you have to wallow in self-pity, do it while drunk and in company; it's usually over faster that way.

 

[Irish Caesar]

Cheers!



Probably wasn't the easiest thing you've had to do...

 

[Masquerouge]

I think partying is the right attitude Go get'em!

 

[Gelion]

Nothing to say here. You got things the right way up

I just realised something. Its Friday!

 

[ComradeDavo]

Me and my girlfriend might be splitting up. Difficult times at current. Not something i'm gonna discuss any further online though.

 

[Swedishguy]

@ Shahilud: How could she become your girlfriend?

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Congratulations, took me too long the last time.

Although in the ensuing 2 years, I have been on one date and she is now engaged . . .

 

[GenMarshall]

Just broke off with my girlfriend, she was cheating on me with her old bf.

I've been there (Though the only differance was that the girl cheated on my with another man who is not her old BF). The only thing I would have to say is to try to forgive her actions and dont hold a grudge against her. I know because I've been there on holding grudges against my exes who cheated on me untill recently.

She is the insecure kind of girl, perhaps she was trying to make me jealous, but i am too sick and tired of the situation to care.

More than likely she does not know what she is looking for in a mate, which adds onto the insecurity.

I am writing this to record my feelings about the situation, abit of numbness, but i can't say that i am going to be overwhelmed with bad feelings,

Trust me, you're not the last one nor the first one who went through this. Its normal that you are going to be overwhelmed with bad feelings, just don't let those bad feelings boil into grudges and wishing ill harm to your exes.

Im going partying tonight. I know i will meet lots of girls, i am in anticipation.

You still need time to heal, IMO rebound relationships are not good.

Congratulations, took me too long the last time.

It took me a long time until my first confession to get over the hurt that a couple of exes has caused me (as well as hurt from the kids from Middle School whom picked on me)

 

[Synobun]

Well, you made the right choice. Some guys still stay with their girlfriends even if they cheat.

 

[CaptainF]

Just broke off with my girlfriend, she was cheating on me with her old bf. She is the insecure kind of girl, perhaps she was trying to make me jealous, but i am too sick and tired of the situation to care. This is not a thread to offer me commiseration, i don't need it. I am writing this to record my feelings about the situation, abit of numbness, but i can't say that i am going to be overwhelmed with bad feelings, Im going partying tonight. I know i will meet lots of girls, i am in anticipation. Btw the former bf is an infatuated and geeky but moneyed, theirs is not a lasting relationship too.

Word man, good choice!

Insecure girls piss me off. Screw 'em.

 

[Narz]

Most monogamous relationships are doomed to fail.

Enjoy being single!

 

[Masquerouge]

Most monogamous relationships are doomed to fail.

I agree so much with you I'm having trouble containing my sarcasm and not blasting people who live in a fairy land where you just have to love someone and be faithful for a relationship to work, and oh marriage, if possible when young and with less that a year of common experience, is a magic tool that will make people stay together happily ever after.

Darn, I guess I did not contain my sarcasm after all.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

No, but you still managed to sound a little silly . . .

True, most monogamous relationships don't work, but that is not because it is unnatural, just because we find out what we are looking for by trial and error.

 

[Masquerouge]

No, but you still managed to sound a little silly . . .

True, most monogamous relationships don't work, but that is not because it is unnatural, just because we find out what we are looking for by trial and error.

Then I missed my point. I'm criticizing people who expect to stay with the first person they go out with, and people who expect to be happy because they're married.
That is, people who do not think trial and error is an inherent part of one's love life.
Heck, for me monogamy is working perfectly fine so far

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Oh, gotcha. No, that would be silly. Sure, it happens that some people marry the first person they date; they may even end up happy, but that takes a lot of work. For most people it is far more complicated.

 

[Shaihulud]

How could she become your girlfriend?

Normal procedure, introduced through a mutual friend. Its not the first time i broke up, the last time was and its a hundred time worse. I think she didn't expect me to break it off, now shes telling everyone that its my fault, she even called my dad . Im getting calls from her friends scolding me.

 

[sween32]

you end it more than you make it. keep truckin.

 

[Nylan]

Live and learn. With each relationship and with each passing year you understand better and better what you need...so long as you are also learning how to support the other party. You were more than justified.

and I agree with the above post. You'll only win once (truly win), but it will be worth more than all the world

 

[raen]

Well, you made the right choice. Some guys still stay with their girlfriends even if they cheat.

I would be one of those, but since she loved me, thats the only thing i need.

Normal procedure, introduced through a mutual friend. Its not the first time i broke up, the last time was and its a hundred time worse. I think she didn't expect me to break it off, now shes telling everyone that its my fault, she even called my dad . Im getting calls from her friends scolding me.

Thats stupid...ppl know about their relationships..if you beated her was on thing, but you are only breaking up for a justified reason (even if it wasnt), its between you and her no one else.