I'm baffled. I thought the plot of 4 was pretty ghastly, but as a shooter/looter, it was great.
My favorite fallout 4 run, I imagined myself as a man who did wake up from cyro, but cut the family restoration story out. It was much more enjoyable imagining myself as a man from a different time adjusting to a far more violent world; I ended up living out of the basement of a Sanctuary Hills house. Very reclusive, paranoid even, next to no building(low profile), defenses obscured and intricately mined, venturing out only to gather supplies and hunt(crop farming advertises presence).
I formed a community much later, but it was via random encounters. Marcy Long, who I never recruited, is correct: a radio tower guarantees attack, but it is never attacked without this advertisement. Even then it was heavily obscured and did not rely on farming. I essentially formed an extremely reclusive, highly territorial tribe(and raiding was acceptable in times of dire need).