If you disappear what do we think

[cardgame]

I'm pretty sure I already disappeared for about two years and I don't think anyone noticed. Around 2014?

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

I'm pretty sure I already disappeared for about two years and I don't think anyone noticed. Around 2014?

I didn't notice...probably because I was disappeared at the time too.

 

[Synobun]

Y'all got Thanos snapped but it's cool now since you're back.

 

[Bamspeedy]

I disappeared for 6 months or so. It was right after the Obama election and I lost a bet, so some may have thought I was trying to hide from paying my debt (change avatar to Obama for a month). That had nothing to do with it, but when I returned I had an Obama avatar for years, so I more than paid my debt. Didn't think anyone missed me, but did get some appreciated "welcome back" posts.

Oddly, the two posters I'm most curious about "whatever happened to them" are two I hated the most. Have a pretty good idea what happened to one, but the other I have all sorts of guesses, but no clues. Could be dead (he was rather old), but I hope not. Wouldn't wish death on anyone, even though with him gone my blood pressure returned to normal.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Are you the kind of person that would just take a turn in your real life, lose interest, and never post again...not even a goodby in the designated thread? If so, this is a chance to say so, because maybe some people here think of you as a friend and would wonder. Maybe even worry.

If you just stop posting what should we think?

1. Computer trouble.

2. Busy, either with NaNoWriMo (I will probably be posting in A&E but nowhere else), or on other sites (RL politics has finally driven me to Facebook to make my displeasure known to my local representative; she's a real piece of work).

3. Somebody pissed me off to the point that I decided to take a break - could be a few days, or even months. But if I ever decide to leave CFC forever, I will let people know.

4. Hospital and no access to a computer or too sick to use one.

5. Dead.

I should try to come up with a plan. Unfortunately, I don't know anyone in RL who's into forums. The only computer-literate people I interact with fairly regularly are on Twitter or FB and have no idea how forums work.

This is a timely topic (no pun intended). Yahoo closed their groups, and I spent the last 3 days downloading files and photos from one of the groups I was in charge of and discovered some sad facts: The group was most active in the years before I was even online, and somehow I must have missed posting even once (I came to this particular fandom via a different route). The last time anyone posted was in 2012, and at least one of the people who was active died several years ago. But I'm still in touch with the person who owned the group before I did (he didn't want to run it anymore and made me the owner since he knew I cared about preserving this content). So I've got some emails to send out, to let folks know that it's safe.

I've had the experience on two different forums I own/admin of members dying and not finding out until later. In one case the person was very sick, so in hindsight it wasn't a huge surprise. In another... we were wondering, "what happened to _____, we haven't seen him in a long time". Someone did some searching and discovered his obituary in the online newspaper in his city. He'd committed suicide. And now I'm wondering what's happened to the actual forum owner, since nobody's seen her in over 3 years, on any of the sites she was known to be active on. At this point I have to assume she's died as well, as wild horses wouldn't keep her away for this long a stretch.

The Cheezburger site wasn't the same after someone in my circle of friends died. In her case, her husband kept the rest of us updated; she had cancer. She was always thinking up themes and events for the rest of us to use as inspiration for themed lolpics or ongoing visual storytelling.

There have been too many people I knew on TrekBBS who have never come back because they died. In some cases we found out because they did have a plan - a spouse would let us know. In other cases, a friend posted the sad news. Or someone did research and finally found an online obituary. And then there are people who just disappear and we're left to wonder, because it's not normal for them to be gone for such a long time... years, in the case of one of my friends there. At this point I'm wondering if something happened to him, as he wouldn't have voluntarily quit without saying goodbye to somebody.

There have been a few people who left CFC who PM'd to say goodbye. I appreciate being one of the people they trusted with that.

I've disappeared a few times, and each time I hope I never see this place again either because life's gotten good enough or life's over. But I end up here again after a while every time so neither wish ever comes true. I've been here 13 years and spent probably at least half that time "disappeared."

If I suddenly stop posting or become inaccessible, it's probably better to think "Good riddance." instead of any worry.

Nope.

There are people here who notice when you're gone, and we do worry.

Largely, no one would notice if I’m gone from this side.

You are incorrect. I have certainly noticed your absences.

If I disappear, the world will end.

I remember more than a few years ago, when you disappeared. I remember wondering where you went, and then you surfaced with a new name. I recall being slightly annoyed at the name change, since I'd finally learned how to spell your old one. But as Shakespeare put it, "a rose by any other name...".

I tried to leave - actually had left, a year and a half ago.
Probably shouldn't have returned.

I blame OCD. I mean I had dled and erased EUIIIDW something like 20 times... And back in the day I had bought and destroyed the CivIIGE disk almost ten times.

Don't forget that I duct-taped you to the forum. You CAN'T leave.

 

[Arakhor]

But who would replace a Dremora Courtier?

I'm sure you could find some other irritating smart-alec in the end.

 

[AmazonQueen]

If I disappear it would probably mean an interesting game with lots for me to obsess about had come out. Maybe VtMB2 or CK3.

 

[Zkribbler]

BTW. A, 8.6 killer quake hit southern Mindanao today. We felt nothing.

 

[Kyriakos]

BTW. A, 8.6 killer quake hit southern Mindanao today. We felt nothing.

That is pretty strong, though a quick googling says it was closer to 6.8...

 

[Synobun]

Where is @haroon?

 

[Kyriakos]

Where is @haroon?

Iirc he was in Indonesia, not the Philippines.

 

[Synobun]

I know, but he hasn't posted since October.

 

[Lohrenswald]

I mean I kinda still think of myself as OT regular, but that's like demonstrably not true
I've essentially dissapeared several times already and I don't think anybody commented on it so I kinda figure like
some people would maybe think of me every now and again, but they'd move on

I remember some very like prominent posters like Borachio and Antilogic and they're gone and like I'm nothing compared to them in regards to this forum and everybody have already gotten past them so I figure there'll never be a climactic thing or whatever

 

[caketastydelish]

Perhaps you might miss me. There are a couple of others that might, but I can count on more than two hands the number of people who would think "Good riddance." That's actually OK with me, as I would expect it.


It would take something drastic to get me to leave. The guillotine would be that drastic, yes.

I hope you don't consider me to be one of those people. I enjoy reading your posts.

 

[Kyriakos]

But as Shakespeare put it, "a rose by any other name...".


Don't forget that I duct-taped you to the forum. You CAN'T leave.

 

[MaryKB]

Where is @haroon?

I miss haroon

 

[Zardnaar]

Dead due to drinking dodgy Russian beer.

 

[r16]

renditioned by the boys from Langley ? No , nobody ever likes me , except the Klingon Spacemarine chicks , some of them whom now command battalions ...

 

[TheMeInTeam]

I'd be surprised if I was missed a great deal here. I did mostly leave CFC for a while, not even as a conscious decision but just because my interests fell elsewhere and tapered off here.

I was far more active in Civ 4 days and did get a few PMs upon mostly disappearing for a while in Civ 5 era.

If something bad happened PolyCast crew would likely find out pretty quickly, within two weeks most likely. And by extension that info would find its way to CFC.

 

[civvver]

Hobbsyoyo might be like hmmm civvver hasn't posted a recipe in a while, but I think that's it. I do go on extended breaks when I go on vacation and stuff, not sure anyone notices. I don't really post anything of substance, just used this for entertainment, like discussing movies and cooking and holidays and such.