Life...

weimar_republic

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I am 16. I have never had a girlfriend, and if a girl were to go out with me she would be laughed out of the school. I have 1 friend who dosent even want to hang out with me. I say and do things that are.. well, stupid. but I tend to only realise how dumb it was after I do it.

anyone else have this problem here? anyone else have a life that sux as bad as mine, or am I #1?

maybe I should contect the guniess book of records...
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[This message has been edited by weimar_republic (edited April 20, 2001).]
 
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Edit: Well....actually I did make a few good friends when I moved into the big city, so it's not that bad. It will, of course, get better.

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[This message has been edited by CornMaster (edited April 20, 2001).]
 
Don't worry Weimar. Everyone goes through that at sometime in your life. I had no friends when I was in grad 6. Don't worry, it will brighten up later. Hey, we're all your friends in this forum.
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Never had a girlfriend in school, either, 'til my senior year, and she lived out of town
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I was scared to death to speak to a girl.
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My closest friends were the "geeks" and "brainiacs." Cheer up Weimar, life WILL get better. I am now happily married (almost 15 years! Not that first girlfriend either, BTW) and fairly well socially-adjusted. And yes, we all at this forum are your friends.
 
Dude, I was never "cool" in high school. I was always too shy to talk to girls. I had my buddies, but they weren't very cool either. The only pusssy I got was from petting my cat<IMG SRC="http://forums.civfanatics.com/ubb/frown.gif" border=0>!

Nowadays I'm much more confident and have a beautiful fiancee who I'll be marrying in the summer. I have a good (though kinda dull) job and social life is going fine.

What you'll find WR, is that high school definitions of "cool" are very different than the real world. After you graduate and get out of that immature world of cliques and obsessions of fitting in and peer pressure, I'm sure you'll find that things improve greatly. The puberty will stop, you'll mature both physically and mentally, and your social skills will most likely improve tenfold.

In personal experience, a lot of the kids that were considered the "coolest" in high school turn into the biggest losers. Hold out my man, you'll be fine. I always thought my time would never come, but it did....and yours will too.

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Why wouldn't a girl not want to be seen with you? You got two heads or something? Girls are people, just like you are. They like things, they want things, they can be as shy as you, and as lonely as you. Go ahead and ask them out. If they say no, so what? Your no better off now then if that happened. Are you afraid of being laughed at by other people? Forget that. The only person you have to impress is yourself. You will find that most of the rank-out guys are pathetic losers who will be pumping gas for the rest of their lives. Some girl will be impressed and flattered if you ask her out, no matter how many turn you down. The trick is not be discourged by turndowns. Don't worry about not yet having a girlfriend. If you try, and you must try, you will have one eventually. As for your 'friend' who doesn't want to hang with you, tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine, cause he isn't worth your time. This is your life! Take control of it, and to hell with the losers who try to bring you down.
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Just take time to think at that: Is it more important for you to have a girlfriend OR is it more important to have a GOOD girlfriend? I meant who isn't going to leave after 1 week.

Personnally, I'm 23 (24 in July) and I've never had a girlfriend yet. Perhaps my temper is too bad
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I think I'll meet "her" when my destiny wants me to. I'm not trying to get a girlfriend at any cost, for I'm sure that wouldn't last long. I'm planning something for my whole life, after all.

So, you're younger, you will have time to find your girlfriend. Just believe in yourself, put aside what other people say about you and <FONT size="4">NEVER</FONT s> underestimate yourself. All right?

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Heay guys, thanx. But now that means I have 6 friends who wont hang with me
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I am pretty well ok with stuff. I can tell you guys some stories from my life, maybe yous would find them interesting.

December 19 1984
My first words were "WORLD, YOUR EMPEROR HAS ARRIVED!!" which were translated as "WAAA!! WAAA!! WAAA!!"
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December 20 1984
My plot to conquer the world failed when I found out that I couldn't walk, talk, or understand anything that was being said... a minor setback

August 28 1989 to within 1 year
I, after a rather good episode of Care Bears, and receiving a new Stuffed Teddy Bear, created Bear Town, an imaginary land where my 25 bears lived. The leaders were White Bear, Orange Bear, and Teddy. It started on a cloud, moved to a planet in 1991, then to a landmass on the planet in 1994. Key island was created in early 1995.

June 31 1995
I moved from Toronto Ontario {city of 6million} to PEI {rural province of 125,000} a slight change of lifestyle. My First map of Bear Town was of only Key island, which I renamed KEE Island. Bear Town slowly died after this.

August 28 1995
Before I knew it was a girly show, I liked Sailor Moon, this was the premier date, and the day, August 28th has stuck with me ever since. It rules my life, I went even so far as signing that day off from work!

Here is where it starts to get interesting:

August 28 1997 or thereabouts
I was lazing around, as I usually do, thinking about the useless things I usually think about. When a song, Don Henley's "The End of the Innocence" came on the TV/radio. I listened to it and tried to make sense of what it was about. While doing that, I came to a shocking realization... "wouldn't it be amazing to fall in love with 1 person your entire life" I also realized "Heay, how about I revive this 'Bear Town' that I invented when I was 4, and turn it into a rather large Bear Empire, or better yet... KEE Empire!! So I drew up a old looking key, with 2 prongs, and bulge at the end, and diamonded it {look at flag in my sig} and that became the official symbol of the KEE Empire. I also used Blue as the official color since way back in 1989, so I made the flag Dark and Light blue. I added this new sense of Love and what my future will be like to the Empire. Now I had a place where all my thoughts intersected. Teddy became Theodore James Tedofsky, Orange Bear Osmand Ki, and White Bear quickly faded into the background, to be lost forever in the annuls of time. I still today have Teddy and Orange Bear, I may send a pic to anyone that wants them. Eventually, when I wanted to add Dog Town and Cat Town, I turned Beat Town into Ki-Joulie and Cat Town into Tok and Dog Town into Dete'n. Growl Town, which had been dead since 1990 came back as Lappa {I will create another thread with storied from the KEE Empire where you can see these empires in action}

May 1997
The first "fun time" began. During these periods there is a lot of change in my life.

June 1997
Ki-Joule has faltered, and the KEE Empire was collapsing. This was the darkest time of my life

June 25 1997...
School was horrible. Everyone was hustling to get the grade 9 grad stiff ready. I wasn't. My only friend a the time, Ben, had betrayed me one to many times. I made a decision... I was going to take my own life. I sat there for the last hour of class, and eventually a girl, Sarah, asked me "Are you ok Nick?"

Those words stuck with me. When I got home I immediately went to my room, and thought about the fact that Sarah actually cared how I was feeling. I cried myself to sleep, and woke up just in time to go to my grade 9 graduation. I haven't had thoughts like that since that day.

July 1999
Nancy MacKormic and I were kinda girlfriend and boyfriend. I didn't really like her, but we held hands once... the 'farthest' I have ever been.
Another girl, Andrea and I were also kinda girlfriend boyfriend, until I told her off one day and she got pissed at me. Didn't even know what she looked like as our relationship, like the one with Nancy, was through the phone mostly.

July 31 1999
An interesting day... first off, my step-relatives were coming to visit. Due to a miscommunication, it was understood that there was 'special cargo' and it was assumed that it would be a person or people... how right they were in the end
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. I had just downloaded, for free, 'empire of the rising suns' that night, after playing that game a lot, I got a can of Dr.Pepper, my fav, and went to bed. Cans are big, as its illegal to sell pop in cans on PEI {glass bottles instead}. That night I said, to the ceiling/God "I wish I could meet my dream girl, even if only for 1 day..." then a weird feeling came over me... and I went to sleep instantly

August 1 1999
The relatives came over, but it was about 8pm and I was busy playing my new game. They were all there, my 2 aunts, 2 cousins, and a girl I had never seen before {go back and read yesterdays entry again... man, I should have seen it coming} I didn't know who the girl was, but she was blonde, so I immediately thought she was hot. My step-dad tried to convince me she was hot, sayin "she likes Dr.Pepper" and "you know, she's got blonde eyebrows" I had to stop myself from saying "and how would you know?" anyway she was wearing a tank top... my first experience with a tank top I might add... quite refreshing
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August 2 1999
I went over to my mothers {I live at my grandparents by choice} to visit the family. When my grandparents went home, I had to decide weather or weather not I was going to go. I though that it might be cool to stay as I can play that game any other time. so I stayed... what a fateful decision... eventually, I got to thinking about my dream girl. And, as I usually do when I think, I looked to the top right... then at my watch... then at the bottom right... then back at my watch... then I usually shrug. Good that I was sitting where I was at the time. I was trying to think about how to describe my dream girls personality... strong, but weak, lonely, but good company... then I looked at my watch "12:15.43" then to the bottom right... that blonde was sitting there, and looking kinda lonely. I said to myself "yea, there" in reference to an example of my dream girl's personality
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wait a minute... "yea... there???" "OH MY GOD!!!" at this point I began to freak, my first thought was to look back at my watch "12:15.45" then a voice in the back of my head said "DONT JUST SIT THERE, SAY SOMETHING!!!" and I did. My exact words were "well look at Maddy sitting over there looking all lonleylike. You guys are all having fun"
at which point everyone stopped and looked at me... then she responded "no, I'm ok." Then turned to me and smiled... it was a minute before I remembered she lived in Toronto and I in PEI, a distance equal to Boston to Chicago and Amsterdam to Moscow. But for that single moment, I was happy... my only moment of such happiness to this point in my life.

October 1 1999 or thereabouts
New in high-school, but I already had the hot girls picked out. One, the hottest, was Kendra. She was hot, I still think so in fact. Then one day, during History class, the class we were both in, her friend said to me "Nick, Kendra wants to know if you want to go to the movies with her tonight" I was taken aback! Me, the un-coolest person in school... asked out by the hottest girl in school... yea right! But... what if it were true, I couldn't risk it. So I turned around and said "if she has something to ask me, she will ask me herself." Then, about 10 seconds later, she said "Nick, will you go to the movies with me tonight" and I said "Ok." but to insure that she wasn't going to stand me up, I was going to give her my number and tell her to call me. I couldn't get her, so I gave it to her friend. That night no call was ever received, she claimed she went and her friend claimed that she forgot to give me her number. A few days later I did something really stupid and Kendra still hates me for it... I will never know if she really liked me at the time, even if she says she did or didn't... I will never know for sure.

December 19 1999
Maddy, picked this day to tell me, over the net, she didn't like me anymore. It was also the day that I found a prediction "if I haven't kissed a girl by 1-1-2000 then I NEVER will" I had written it back on August 28 1997.

December 31/January 1 2000
At exactly midnight in Halifax {same time zone as where I live} I realized that I had never been kissed... this was also the end of the first "fun time"

December 19 2000
I turned 16... also the beginning of the second "fun time" it was also this day that I decided that it was time to change my life

December 21 2000
I killed the KEE Empire
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January 15 2001
The "republic" took over for the KEE Empire

March 15 2001
After a friend warned me to "beware the ides of march" I thought he was joking. But it was when the republic ended and the empire returned, and my life changed a lot. Just a few days after this, I went on vacation to Halifax, and got so sick I missed work, which made them almost so mad they almost fired me!

April 12 2001
I found the Civ II Fanatics forum

April 20 2001
And here I am. Still in the second "fun time" where anything can happen. Hope this allows you guys to understand my life a little more. still never been kissed... but theres always tomarrow
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I just read your disertation, WR. Your a normal teenager, so don't worry about it.
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Originally posted by weimar_republic:
I am 16. I have never had a girlfriend,

This can be a very large advantage when it comes to school work, both my teenagers drop by nearly a grade point whenever they have a boyfriend.
I hardly dated at all until I was a junior in college and I was perfectly satisfied with my social life. There can be real advantages to waiting on social relationships closer than good friends.
 
If life were easy, it wouldn't be worth living. It takes time to discover your potential and longer to fulfill it.

I'm reminded of ancient English lore. They used to hate the Spring hailstorms because they stripped the leaves off their newly growing crops. But after the storm what was left standing was the strong stuff, and the hail turned to water to help it grow. The trials of youth will eventually strengthen you and be to your ulimate benefit.

And GenghisK - yeah you're right, and about friends in general, not just girlfriends. Don't go for just anyone that doesn't scoff at you. Instead, hold out for the best, and know that you deserve it.

I've been married three times. Screwed up the first two times. Third time got it right. Took me long years, but got there in the end. I should've been more selective in the first place, but eventually I learned to hold out for the best, and eventually the best found me.
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If it seems as though everyone around you is perfectly well-adjusted don't believe it. I would dare say that about every teenager goes through angst in their lives - it is by nature a time of change and growth and that can always be scary.

I'm 33 and going to be married in June - if you want to know scary try that one on
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As I look back on my teen years, I tend to look at the good parts. I had some good friends (several of whom will be in my wedding), I played soccer and ran track for my school, and even had a girlfriend or two. Yet, I had my moments when I thought I didn't have a friend in the world and that life was just too damn complicated to deal with. Urgh, that was a difficult time, but now I can see it helped to shape me as well.

I know that in the future you'll look back on your teen years and have very nice memories that you will cherish and know that the tough times were challenges that helped you to overcome future ones.

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Hmmm, delicate subject. Never had a girlfriend, but I wouldn't say there's something wrong with my personal life or anything. I'm having quite some fun whilst going out with my (male) friends.
If you start out yelling you're having a problem, then you'll think you're having a problem. If you stop worrying then you'll have a girlfriend before you can say "have we met before?"
 
this mightnot matter to you, seeing how I am 3 years younger, but I never had a girlfriend nad have had a friend ditch me. I still haven't seen him since last year. But, though my shool social life has most likely been ruined), I still have other places where I can get a social life and have some very good female friend(not girl friends, but friends who are girls) that I can talk to
 
Jesus christ, what's wrong with you lot? All you have to do to get a girl is be nice to her and make her feel special. They are as lonely as we are. Stop sulking around feeling sorry for yourself and just go talk to them.

If you can't get a girl in your school, don't worry. Schools are weird, because they have this stupid hierarchy thing. Hang out a bit and try to meet some older women, they will love giving you some attention if you genuinely care about them.

Reading this thread is breaking my heart. Is this really what life is like for some people? Just smile, and people will be interested in you, I guarantee it.

Oh Yeah, and stop thinking badly about yourself - you are not uncool, you are not unpopular; you are a normal, decent human being like everybody else, and you've got as much chance -and as much right to - a happy life as anyone else.

If it helps you mate, I'll be your friend. I was always cool at school, because I used to make everyone laugh, but I never bothered trying to make anyone else feel inferior for it, I was friends with anyone who wanted to be friends with me.

And don't do anything stupid, life might seem crap now, but if you are thinking of suicide or something like that, remember that there are lots of lonely women out there who feel just the same as you, and one day you'll meet one (SERIOUSLY) and things will get better.

And leave the care bears stories at home on your next date.

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Hey Pedro, are you gay?
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Just one thing Weimar. Don't pretend to be cool. If you aren't cool, then be yourself! Don't try to act cool and pretend to be something you're not. You'll just make a fool of yourself. Hang out with people who have the same interests as you. You'll be popular, just in a different group.

For example:

In Middleschool, I hung out with the "cool group" but then they started doing pot and they were high half the time, so I switched to the "Sports group". But all they did was play football, so I again switched groups to a general group. That fit me the best.

So don't stick to one group or no group at all. Go out and meet some people, and find out where you belong.
 
Why you....!! I'll get you for this!


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