Yeah I'm not going to defend my feelings or those of my friends based on rationality. It's 100% personal preference which is all over the place and inconsistent.
I do know that for one friend in particular, they identify strongly with feminism and saw him as a major ally. His humor was funny because it was so absurd but then we found out it wasn't all absurd, that he was doing some really creepy, demeaning stuff and directly contributed to the sexism that my friend hates. Then with his comeback he went hard in on SJW's of all stripes, further aggravating the grievance. Basically it's entirely personal for my friend and somewhat so for me. Though to be honest he was never my favorite comedian, I did have a lot of respect for him as a person.
I don't think your feelings need to be defended at all. Context and messenger matters.
It's why black rappers can call each other «******» in their music with no one having a problem with it, but it would still be unacceptable if they spoke like that in church. Not to mention a white person using it as an insult. Everyone knows the first instance isn't about trying to put down black people, but everyone knows it's not language one uses at church, and everyone knows how loaded the word is when used by white people.
It's why I can make jokes about Jews and Hitler among my friends — or how I've gotten away with mansplaining things to two of my friends for hours now. My friends know I'm not an anti-semite or a Nazi or a jerk who looks down on women, so it's absurd and funny. None of us would laugh if Richard Spencer made a joke about Jews. We know he's not joking.
It's why it was perfectly fine for Louis CK to make the jokes he did. Everyone knew he didn't actually mean it, so it was all absurd and we could laugh about the stupidness of it all.
Those jokes by Louis CK aren't funny anymore. We don't trust that he doesn't mean it anymore. That makes it insulting and threatening, not absurd and funny.
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In general, I think I can — and I consider it acceptable to (maybe those are related?) — appreciate works or actions done by bad men
as long as those works are still good with the knowledge of the context and the messenger.
Louis needs to start making humour that doesn't kick downwards like he used to, for we can no longer appreciate the humour he used to do.
R Kelly's «I believe I can fly» is still a good song, but all the songs he's been involved with with sexual lyrics are deeply problematic now, and I personally I don't think it's right to enjoy those anymore. Not to mention Aaliyah's «Age Ain't Nothing But a Number»...
We have a rolling #metoo case going in Norway, cause one of our big politicians who was a second-in-command in the Labour party has been acting «inappropriately» for decades, and still seem poised to end up in the leadership anyway. Last weekend he was at a nightclub and ended up dancing with some twenty-year olds (he is fifty-something). Everything that happened that night was actually totally fine,
except for the fact that it was him doing it. He of course feels unfairly treated now, but to me and many others it just shows a lack of judgement, and a failure to understand that what he has done earlier was wrong.
Someone also referenced the famous picture of the victory-kiss in NYC:
That there is sexual assault.
But it could have been innocent, and it is also an image that celebrates the end of the war.
Once I learned the truth behind it, my appreciation for it really dropped, but it still feels like a decent picture to illustrate the happiness of winning the war. Or?
And I could take the whole question of the thread further:
Is it right to enjoy your electronics, when some of the materials for them necessarily comes from environmentally disastrous and dangerous slave labour work?
Is it right to go on vacation to the Emirates, knowing that much of the infrastructure one uses is built and maintained on slave labour? Is it moral to participate in the World Cup there?