polygamy?

[Aphex_Twin]

Originally posted by Akka
Well, it has not all to do with Christian pre-conceptions.
There is also the equality thing, and the jealousy stuff. Like it or not, it's natural and human to wish for exclusive relationship

That's why there also needs to be slight change in divorce laws, that will allow one of the spouces to leave without needing the consent of the husband.

But the union should not be seen as Several who are serving One, or One who is divided between Several, but as a kind of equal partenership (which is quite diferent from the polygamy practiced today).

Originally posted by Akka
It's gunè if I remember well

Yes, I do need to brush up on my Greek

 

[Ozz]

People really in these multiple stable relationships don't give
a rat's ass what the Chruch, Government or anyone else thinks.
They don't get married.

Sure let them get married, gays are getting married, why not
multiples.

Serve them right, the lawyers need the work.

 

[Speedo]

Originally posted by Ultraworld
Of course it should be legal. This way the best genes will spread (there men with bad genes won't find a woman)

Where the heck do you get that idea? If nothing else, men with bad genes will migrate towards the women with bad genes. Unless you want to start sterilizing people you aren't going to stop the spread of "bad genes."

No. Aside from my other beliefs on it, the widespread implementation of polygamy would result in utter chaos.

 

[Martacus]

We would all turn into Habsburgs eventually if that sort of thing went on. That is not something one likes to envision....

EDIT: Okay, maybe we wouldn't, but our descendants would. Still not a comforting thought.

 

[Superevie]

I don't think that this should be legal. It's emotionally terrible for the women involved in these relationships. No one can be happy in this arrangment. Plus, any kids that are spawned from these relationships are going grow up warped and confused. No good can come from a crazy man with multiple wives.

 

[RoddyVR]

i think it should be allowed.

i doubt i personaly would ever have more then one wife, but i dont see why those want to be in a multi party relationship shouldnt be allowed to.

what is it with people and thinking that marrige is "sacred" or some bull like that. its just a word, nothing more. especialy with divorce and seperations as common as they are.

the "problems" with current polygamists are mostly so prevalent BECAUSE its illegal.
its the loony's getting into it, and the hyper insecure/cultists, because it is illegal but they see no better way (for whatever reason).

if its leagal, then you'll have normal secure people in these relationships if they wish it, and everything will be fine.

you say "dont want vulnerable women tied to a psyco guy", well then you should outlaw regular marriage too. domestic abuse is MUCH more common the Polygamy.

you say "Its sexist for one guy to have many wives, he gets to pick which one he wants when" - maybe its the wives deciding who will put up with having a husband tonight and the rest get a break. That's not to mention that that argument flies out the window since you've got the "one woman, many men" relationships outlawed too.

you say "its wrong, immoral and against religeon" -
wrong how? if they're happy let them be.
immoral how? would you prefer the guy just cheats on his ONE wife with the other 23? or lives a double/triple life with one wife in each that never meet eachoter?
against religeon? - didnt all the "saints/profets" and so on in the bible have a load of wives? God didnt seem to object to it then.

almost any complaint you can have about polygamy can be said of regular marrige. and i'd say that in MOST cases it would be easier to get out of a multi partner marriage then a one on one. there are just more people around that know what's going on and can help.

i'd like to see an abusive husband try to have 10 wives. they'd beat the living daylights out of him. and if he's abusing just one, i'd love to see him try to hide it from the others. as soon as she works up the nerve (works over the fear) to get away, she'll have support and witnesses, instead of being told by the cops "well, WE didnt see anything so sorry we cant help, come back when you've got a broken arm with his fingerprints around the break."

 

[ZultanofZex]

i'd like to see an abusive husband try to have 10 wives.

 

[Cilpot]

Um, no...

Polygami is not a religious concept, but a tradition. It used to be a huge woman surplus in many societies because of wars, and polygami was a solution. No need for it anymore...

 

[GenMarshall]

Polygamy should be illegal!!! It is not right marrying more than 1 women. To me it is just taking away more women from the population that would give the single men less choices to go around.

 

[Hitro]

Legalize it!

Free adults should have the right to marry whoever and how many they like. Notice the "they like", people being forced into marriages should be illegal anyway, no matter if it is a polygamous or a monogamous marriage.

 

[andrewgprv]

As long as all parties involved are consenting adults then I don't see a problem. Let people do as they may in their private lives as long as it does not impede on the freedoms, rights, or safety of others.

 

[Sims2789]

legalize it, as long as polygomous marraiges recieve the same tax breaks as 2-person marriages.

i am morraly against such a thing, but i do not support laws that limit people's rights based on religous beliefs.

 

[Laughing Gull]

if it is not actually hurting anyone, and it is between consenting adults, then by all means let them do it.

.....but I reserve the right to think they're immoral freaks and make jokes at their expense.

 

[Sims2789]

.....but I reserve the right to think they're immoral freaks and make jokes at their expense.

i also reserve that right.

 

[Double Barrel]

Originally posted by andrewgprv
As long as all parties involved are consenting adults then I don't see a problem. Let people do as they may in their private lives as long as it does not impede on the freedoms, rights, or safety of others.

Once again, andrewgprv, you take the words right out of my mouth. Very well said.

The arguments against polygamy are the same arguments that are being used to deny gays the chance to marry (or civil union, or whatever people want to call it).

We either live in the land of the free or the land of hypocrisy. We can't have both, folks.

 

[Pontiuth Pilate]

People used to think divorce would lead to "utter chaos".

I cannot personally imagine myself in a polygamous relationship, but as long as it is correctly legislated, I see no problem with it.

But any marriage MUST have the consent of ALL parties involved, including the bride, the groom, and any marital relatives they already have I have no right to marry twice if my first wife doesn't want me to/doesn't like the candidate etc.

The biggest problem with polygamy in the Arab world, as I see it, is that they ignore the Koran's instructions: if a man cannot properly care for, or provide for, one woman, he has no right to marry four.

And I think it should go both ways - polygyny and polyandry.

But, to repeat myself, I am viscerally against it. I can't help but imagine being tied to ONE person all my life.

That's culture, folks.

 

[WillJ]

Yes, it should be legal.

But as others have said, everyone would have to agree. For example, if a man and woman get married, then a woman wants to marry another man, the first man has to agree. Etc. etc.

 

[WillJ]

Originally posted by Superevie
It's emotionally terrible for the women involved in these relationships.

Then why did they get married? And if you're imagining polygamy where, say, a man forces his wife to let him marry someone else, yes, that'd be bad, but we are (or should be) assuming that all parties have consent.

Originally posted by Superevie
Plus, any kids that are spawned from these relationships are going grow up warped and confused.

What makes you say that? It may be strange in our world, but where do you get the idea that the kids would be warped? If anything, it would be BETTER for the kids, because there'd be more caretakers. And remember, there's still one mother and one father. To the kid, the other married parties are sorta like aunts and uncles. (Aunts and uncles that love each other very, very much. ) More Christmas presents!

Originally posted by Superevie
I don't think that this should be legal. It's emotionally terrible for the women involved in these relationships. No one can be happy in this arrangment. Plus, any kids that are spawned from these relationships are going grow up warped and confused. No good can come from a crazy man with multiple wives.

And what is it with people (not just you, evie) assuming it's one man and many wives? It can be vice versa, or many men and many wives, or two men and three wives, or whatever.

 

[sysyphus]

Again, I stand by my view on consenting adults and if they want to get into that kind of thing then it's up to them.

Besides, people seem to miss possible bi-sexual combinations that aren't exploiting anybody, two men and two women, sure if that's what they want.

 

[Pontiuth Pilate]

I wonder if Superevie objects to "extended families" living in the same house [aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc] as I know is a tradition in Latino culture.

I fail to see how polygamy would be different from the point of view of the kids.