Regrets: What was your most trivial one ?

[civver_764]

I've made mistakes but I regret nothing, knowing that everything that happened in my life was bound to happen and meant to happen. (I know, it's very fatalistic)

Exactly how I feel. I stopped regretting things awhile ago, it's such an unnecessary emotion. Not that I'm perfect at it, but I think generally it's made me much happier.

 

[Terxpahseyton]

Exactly how I feel. I stopped regretting things awhile ago, it's such an unnecessary emotion. Not that I'm perfect at it, but I think generally it's made me much happier.

It seems very unlikely to me that such a prime emotion is useless and does not have its place. To "stop regretting" sounds to me like not having learned to handle this emotion and choosing to run away from it instead. If you are that bad in handling regret, it might be better than continuing to be pulled down by it. But of course, the alternative, learning to handle and use your regret, is preferable. Because just as regret can strip you of vital energy, it can give it you and cause a change which otherwise wouldn't have happened.

I think this is related to the unspoken rule of society, that regrets are a sign of weakness, something bad. It is the opposite to a success story. And we all want - or are supposed - to tell of our success, while in a better world we should tell of our personality, which is success and failure. But I drift off-topic, in the end people shall use their own regret how ever dame they please to do. I just find static rules like "stopping regret" to convey a very wrong impression.

 

[Kennigit]

In like first grade I think I swallowed a tiny bit of sand on the playground/swing area by accident (probably kicked into my mouth from kids running, or I jumped off a swing and fell forward a bit).

Then either soon after or the same time I got that "scratchy" throat feeling you get when you're sick, and I associated that scratchy throat to having sand in my throat. I.e. I thought the scratchy throat was that little bit of sand still "stuck" there (may or may not have actually believed that for a brief time).

And when I'm sick nowadays and throat has that scratchy feeling, I remember that story and think "well, I guess I got sand in my throat!". Makes me wish I didn't swallow that sand.

 

[civver_764]

It seems very unlikely to me that such a prime emotion is useless and does not have its place.

Why? We are, after all, simply products of nature like everything else. We're far from perfect and I don't think its that controversial of an idea to suggest we do some irrational things, even if they're prime factors of our existence.

To "stop regretting" sounds to me like not having learned to handle this emotion and choosing to run away from it instead.

I'm not sure exactly what running away from regret is. Getting over the past seems like the opposite of running away though.

Because just as regret can strip you of vital energy, it can give it you and cause a change which otherwise wouldn't have happened.

You can learn from mistakes without feeling like crap for extended periods of time over them.

 

[Terxpahseyton]

Why? We are, after all, simply products of nature like everything else. We're far from perfect and I don't think its that controversial of an idea to suggest we do some irrational things, even if they're prime factors of our existence.

Such as? Or does it happen to be regret alone? Which would then be surprising.

I'm not sure exactly what running away from regret is. Getting over the past seems like the opposite of running away though.

Well as I see it getting over the past by blinding out the regretfulness of parts is running away from those regretful parts and as those are IMO an essential part of ones past, it to me means running away from one's past.

You can learn from mistakes without feeling like crap for extended periods of time over them.

I don't argue that.