The many questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread XXI

[GenMarshall]

Of course, to be dangerous you'd have to get hired as an engineer, which you won't without a real degree.

I don't want to get enthralled into another "get a degree to be successful" scam. I was told that lie years ago. I have a useless bachelors degree that hasn't helped me in any slightest way.

Also, you just barely have the basics down of math if you know some algebra. Don't feel bad about that though; just go back to school. I started in pre-Algebra when I went to college.

Then what branch of Math should I look into? Because Calculus looks very intimidating to me.

I feel like a now knowing that I don't know math (or let it atrophy).

 

[Borachio]

I am moving away to never hear from my parent and relatives ever again, but that is a valid point for those that actually have family.

Well, I don't like the sound of this. Are you really sure this is necessary for you?

Cutting yourself off completely, at 18, could be a big mistake, I feel.

Still, if you're sure, then I can only respect your decision and wish you good luck. But I do hope you don't permanently burn your bridges and later come to regret it.

On the other hand, if you have been subject to some serious abuse, of either a physical or emotional nature, then indeed a complete break might be the only option. It just seems so radical.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

@Civ General - I don't know what BA you have, but an engineering BA is anything but a scam. The US doesn't produce enough STEM graduates to feed the demand. This is why unpaid internships don't exist for engineering majors. The demand is so fierce for most of us all the companies have to pay us (and good money too) to come co-op or intern with them on the hopes they can snag us when we graduate. It also helps them try us out, but still demand is very high for engineers in the US.

To learn more about physics, you are going to have to learn Calculus, there is no avoiding it. Even if you don't use it all, the foundations that Calculus will give you will help you. There is a reason it's a requirement for almost all the STEM degrees. The basic path through the field of mathematics goes:
Algebra & Geometry -> Trigonometry (or sometimes called Pre-Cal) -> Calculus (usually 1, 2, 3) -> Differential Equations.

Diff. Eq. can be optional, depending on your major. Some will make you take Linear Algebra, which comes after Calculus(and can be taken at the same time as Diff. Eq). Anyways, it isn't until after Calculus that math really splits into different specialized branches. Calculus, not algebra, is really the foundation of powerful math. Algebra is just the primer.

 

[Borachio]

Calculus is fun! And comparatively straightforward compared with some other parts of Pure Maths.

 

[Synobun]

Well, I don't like the sound of this. Are you really sure this is necessary for you?

Cutting yourself off completely, at 18, could be a big mistake, I feel.

Still, if you're sure, then I can only respect your decision and wish you good luck. But I do hope you don't permanently burn your bridges and later come to regret it.

On the other hand, if you have been subject to some serious abuse, of either a physical or emotional nature, then indeed a complete break might be the only option. It just seems so radical.

People who kept me prisoner, abused me physically and mentally, ignored me, consistently called me a liar, and made it their goal to make me as unable to function in society as possible have no place in my life. No place. None. Not even a letter. Nothing.

Trust me, I would rather not risk such a move as this, but the only thing that kept my sanity throughout life was being numb to the detriment. In the past seven months my goal has been to not be numb, and my ability to not lash out or lose control is lessening. I simply need to get out and as far away as possible from here.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Oh and Civ General -

I hate math. With a burning passion. But if you are willing to do the work, it's bearable and you'll begin to see why it's so useful. And if you just do the work, you'll get through it. You can't approach math with a quitter's mentality, you have to push through.

Edit:
I'm really sorry Synsensa and I hope your move goes well.

 

[GenMarshall]

I'm already working on an associates in Accounting. I don't know if I can ever pick up and I feel too old to tack on another batchellors degree (and too poor). Thats why the option of self-teaching myself came into mind.

 

[Borachio]

People who kept me prisoner, abused me physically and mentally, ignored me, consistently called me a liar, and made it their goal to make me as unable to function in society as possible have no place in my life. No place. None. Not even a letter. Nothing.

Trust me, I would rather not risk such a move as this, but the only thing that kept my sanity throughout life was being numb to the detriment. In the past seven months my goal has been to not be numb, and my ability to not lash out or lose control is lessening. I simply need to get out and as far away as possible from here.

Do they know this how you feel?

Do they know you're moving out?

What sort of institutional help will you have access to? You must have had some sort of income to have been able to save enough to do this. I don't mean to pry, but won't this source of income still be available to you?

Have you talked all this through with anyone?

 

[Synobun]

I'm already working on an associates in Accounting. I don't know if I can ever pick up and I feel too old to tack on another batchellors degree (and too poor). Thats why the option of self-teaching myself came into mind.

Always remember the prospect of scholarships. You can shoot for the stars if you know you're lined up for a lot of tuition help.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

@Civ General - Yeah sorry you can technically self-teach but not really. No one will hire you.

One last thing, I'm 25 and still working on my first BA. It's going to take me 7 years to get a 4 year degree. Don't complain about being too old or it taking to long. If you want to do something, do it brah!

 

[Synobun]

Do they know this how you feel?

Do they know you're moving out?

What sort of institutional help will you have access to?

Have you talked all this through with anyone?

Do they know I hate their very existence? No. I still have eight days here and would rather not spend those eight days in an alleyway.

Do they know that I am departing and leaving forever? No. They think I am moving away for college (which is partially correct), and that I will be back for the winter season. Nope.

I have access to anything I desire, but I am not using it. I hate therapists and they are not helpful whatsoever. They speak to you like you are a small child or play mind games, both of which serve only to make me not respect you or anything you have to say. I have no desire to speak with a therapist, either. Their reassuring degree does not change anything about the past 18 years.

Have I talked with anyone? No. I have no one to speak to and don't wish to. I gain nothing by spreading the story of how awful my family was to me, except to constantly remind myself why I hate them, why I'm several years behind everyone else, and why I'm so utterly depressed. The purpose is to move on and heal, not to keep pushing in the knife.

 

[Borachio]

You have my sympathy. It sounds like you've had a hard time of it.

 

[GenMarshall]

No one will hire you.

Meh, that's the story of my entire four years since getting laid off. I'm used to it.

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Do they know I hate their very existence? No. I still have eight days here and would rather not spend those eight days in an alleyway.

Do they know that I am departing and leaving forever? No. They think I am moving away for college (which is partially correct), and that I will be back for the winter season. Nope.

I have access to anything I desire, but I am not using it. I hate therapists and they are not helpful whatsoever. They speak to you like you are a small child or play mind games, both of which serve only to make me not respect you or anything you have to say. I have no desire to speak with a therapist, either. Their reassuring degree does not change anything about the past 18 years.

Have I talked with anyone? No. I have no one to speak to and don't wish to. I gain nothing by spreading the story of how awful my family was to me, except to constantly remind myself why I hate them, why I'm several years behind everyone else, and why I'm so utterly depressed. The purpose is to move on and heal, not to keep pushing in the knife.

If I lived on the other side of the country and had a couch I'd let you stay on the couch but unfortunately I don't. I mean I don't live on the other side of the country. And my mother wouldn't like people she doesn't know to sleep on the couch we have, plus we're on the wrong side of the country.

 

[shadowplay]

If someone walks up to me, shows me a bag of what looks like yellowish-white powder, and looks like something used for baking or cooking, offers some to me and says that it would make me feel better, is that a bad thing or is it some sort of prank? He told me what it was but I couldn't hear it because I'm hard of hearing and he has a thick accent. Regardless, I declined, but I've no clue what that was about. Anyone know anything about stuff like that? Again, was that a bad thing or some weird prank?

It sounds like the stuff they use to keep the friers from foaming:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calcium_stearate

In which case he was just kidding around at it's resemblence to drugs.

 

[Cutlass]

It is eight days until my life is forever changed and I set upon this world entirely alone, unemployed, no support structure, bad health, and no skills due to bad parents and a bad past.

I have spent the past seven months doing as much as I can to prepare myself. I have enough money to survive for three months, so that gives me three months to find work, which should be more than sufficient (I am hoping). I have read up on concepts, crock pot cooking, signed up to the food bank, etc, but before I depart there is one question I would like to ask those of CFC:

When you moved out, alone, what was the most valuable lesson you had from your childhood or your parents that was useful for being on your own, and what did you find out the hard way in the first couple months?

Anything helps, even if it's just to tell me to make sure I wear clean clothes every day. A lot of it will be things I already know but I thrive off of knowing that something I've determined has indeed been proven to be effective for others in their past or present day.

I don't know all of you story. I respect that you've become willing to take such a big chance. You seem to have changed quite a bit in the past half year. As for how hard it will be, very. But I think you know that. Don't spend a penny on anything you don't really have to. Would you mind saying where you are going to? You say you are going somewhere with a summer tourist season, which is why the place you are going to stay is temporary. That suggests seasonal work, and you could begin looking for those jobs early. But don't get too locked in to that, because you have to look at next winter as well. When you do find work, you're going to have to show your boss that you are the person they want to keep. Which means both doing all that you are asked to do, expected to do, and even anticipating what you should do and then getting it done. The more efficient you are as an employee, the better you'll be set for finding and keeping jobs.

You will need to connect to people. Unfortunately, who you know matters. Make contacts. Those will help you find jobs, housing, and services.

 

[Cutlass]

Meh, that's the story of my entire four years since getting laid off. I'm used to it.

MIT and some other universities have online courses free. But I don't know if you can get the books and other material as well.

 

[Synobun]

I don't know all of you story. I respect that you've become willing to take such a big chance. You seem to have changed quite a bit in the past half year. As for how hard it will be, very. But I think you know that. Don't spend a penny on anything you don't really have to. Would you mind saying where you are going to? You say you are going somewhere with a summer tourist season, which is why the place you are going to stay is temporary. That suggests seasonal work, and you could begin looking for those jobs early. But don't get too locked in to that, because you have to look at next winter as well. When you do find work, you're going to have to show your boss that you are the person they want to keep. Which means both doing all that you are asked to do, expected to do, and even anticipating what you should do and then getting it done. The more efficient you are as an employee, the better you'll be set for finding and keeping jobs.

You will need to connect to people. Unfortunately, who you know matters. Make contacts. Those will help you find jobs, housing, and services.

Niagara Falls, Canadian side. I've already made friends with someone on the town council over there, along with three guys in the motel/hotel business. Finding work should hopefully come naturally once I'm there physically and can talk to these guys face to face.

 

[Cutlass]

Niagara Falls, Canadian side. I've already made friends with someone on the town council over there, along with three guys in the motel/hotel business. Finding work should hopefully come naturally once I'm there physically and can talk to these guys face to face.

It sounds like you're making a good start. So the important thing is to keep your determination up.

You've said you have health problems, can you say how disabled you are or anything about what jobs you may or may not be able to do? A year or so back Whomp was saying that many truck driver jobs were going begging, and the companies would train people. You don't mind spending most of your time alone, so that may suit you if you can get it.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Oh and Civ General -

I hate math. With a burning passion. But if you are willing to do the work, it's bearable and you'll begin to see why it's so useful. And if you just do the work, you'll get through it. You can't approach math with a quitter's mentality, you have to push through.

I used to hate math, especially during my schooling years, but working with Celestia has made me learn to appreciate it and even enjoy it to some extent.