Bigfoot3814
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Doing something like that over a text message is probably a not a good idea. If you ask me, I see it as casual and impersonal. If you're not good at speaking, do something like write a letter.
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Yeah, first of all, bail on the txt-break up idea, no girl deserves that. Instead send a heart felt email!
And I would definitely do it over winter break, when there won't be so much drama in your face that you will do something you will regret. When you do it, make sure it's done on good terms and for the love of god make sure your friends understand why you broke up with her and don't make it a situation where they end up taking sides.
Thanks for the advice
So it is acceptable to let them know why I broke up with her once i get back from break, since they'd find out anyways within at least a day or so if i didn't say anything?
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Thanks for the advice
Trust me, if they are going to find out you broke up with her, make sure it's directly from you. I would even encourage you to tell your friends before she tells them. Because if she is upset with you in any way, you don't want her telling your friends some exaggerated or biased story about it.
Maybe even tell them you felt bad about breaking up with her, because she was really great, but you just wanted to be honest with her and yourself, because it isn't fair to her if you pretend to be into her when your not, and that she doesn't deserve to be deceived or lied to.
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why is everyone so . .. .. .. .ing crazy about twilight?
Bigfoot3814
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I don't really know, but apparently it has vampires and stuff in it and so girls think it's the greatest thing ever.
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And of course guys who are into those girls, pretend to be into it also.
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I don't know why I didn't think of it at the time.
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about 100% of the girls i know is crazy about it, like "watch it" and that . .. .. .. . but i don't see the point. However all the guys i know say it sucks
salty mud
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Why are brunettes so GOD-DAMN GORGEOUS!? 
Look at that! LOOK AT IT!!!
I'd show a pic of my own, personal favorite girl (who's a brunette
) but obviously it would bode poorly for relations.
Look at that! LOOK AT IT!!!
I'd show a pic of my own, personal favorite girl (who's a brunette
) but obviously it would bode poorly for relations.Well I feel like the letter might be just as bad, because i'd have to do it while we are still at school (and send it to her college mailbox) and so i'd still feel obligated to talk to her about it in person if we're still on campus together when the breakup letter is read.
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Send her an email. Or skip the whole letter/email thing and do it over the phone. What you could do is write the letter, and than just read it to her over the phone, if you aren't good with impromptu break ups
Yeah, I am not going to be able to get out of watching it, myself.
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It's a nice girl but I must say bizarre European carnivals are a bit of a turnoff for me.Why are brunettes so GOD-DAMN GORGEOUS!?
Look at that! LOOK AT IT!!!
I'd show a pic of my own, personal favorite girl (who's a brunette
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Why are brunettes so GOD-DAMN GORGEOUS!?
Look at that! LOOK AT IT!!!
I'd show a pic of my own, personal favorite girl (who's a brunette
I love swedes, especially myself
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The brunette can not be Swedish.
I'm in a relationship, we've been dating for about 2 months or so now, and it started it out like relationships usually do. You feel strongly about the other person, and then you get to know them better, become better friends, hang out, etc. Well she started out early on almost immediately after we became "official" with the "i love you" line. In highschool i made the mistake of using this without having a full grasp of its implications, boldness, and so on. But anyways, I went along with it, and started saying the same thing since she started saying it. I just feel like the "magic" has faded, and i liked her a lot from the start, but i wouldn't call it "love". Now i have recently seriously thought about breaking up with her, and it is tough because im at a small college, and we hang out with the same group of friends, so i'd be living with this decision and everyone elses' judement on it for a while. The thing is, i've been dwelling on it for a while now, and its gotten to the point of me not being able to get much work done because im always worrying, and want to just end it, and at the same time i have to hang out with her and sort of pretend everything is fine.
First of all, any advice would be much appreciated. I originally wanted to break up with her over winter break, which would be by text-message since im no good at speaking, but I could speak my mind truthfully and less painfully (for both of us) than if it was in person. But i've also heard from many this method is cowardly, not honorable, lame, etc. And considering the tightness of our shared friends, this is something i need to consider. Thanks for any advice
If it's two months, all of your options are open. I would lean towards doing it in person. It will be tough, but if you really want out you gotta do what you gotta do. (Don't use text messages, email, or IM, that's weak.) Break-ups are tough to do in general, just tell her the honest truth and why you are doing it. The circle of friends is the toughest part, I've seen it firsthand several times. Plus, it depends on what you want your relationship with this woman to be in the coming years. Friends, peers, non-speaking, etc. You can easily achieve number 3 with a phone call. If you manage this right, you can achieve friends with minimal backlash from the group. If possible, honestly talk with one of the trusted people from this group and see what they would say. It might turn out that someone else agrees that you should end it. It might turn out people are okay with this.
Did she say 'I love you" prematurely because she is young? or because she was taking control?
If the first and if you think there's a chance for this relationship, you may be able to help her to take a half a step back and give you room to let things flow naturally.
Either way if you choose to break up I think the sooner the better for her sake.
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