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Nerowannabe
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Ha. It's part of the admissions process in order to be accepted into a school.
madviking
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My best friend in high school is very seriously doing either the Naval Academy or the Coast Guard Academy. I know that going to a military academy is no small decision, and he seems pretty bent on going military. I, his best friend, don't want him to make the wrong decision so I've talked to him about not only the upside, but the downsides as well, especially since he seems too focused on the upsides. I've talked to him about the inevitable mental breakdown he's going to incur in his first year, and if he can't/doesn't take it well, it'll be a year wasted and having to face a messy transfer process.
I know that he has had bouts of depression and the death of one his best friends from cancer last year worsened his condition. So I do not know whether this will cause a worse-than-normal reaction once he gets the mental breakdown. He's also had one VERY messy breakup which probably triggered his depression. At the least, I think he is less mentally stable than the average person, but I don't really want to make a judgement.
There is a teacher at our school who graduated from the USCGA and served a tour in the Pacific whom me and my friend have both had. He's yet to talk to him, but he has talked to grads from our high school currently in West Point. But I feel he may still be rushing the decision too much. I've talked to him about NROTC scholarships and civilian colleges but he is still disillusioned by the (in his words) "awesome" things that the USCGA/USNA does, the benefits and the experience.
Bottom line is that I don't want my best friend to make the wrong decision, especially as big as going military in college. So, if he does go military, what should I expect from him (communication wise, personally and psychologically) and what should my level of concern be?
Thanks in advance.
I know that he has had bouts of depression and the death of one his best friends from cancer last year worsened his condition. So I do not know whether this will cause a worse-than-normal reaction once he gets the mental breakdown. He's also had one VERY messy breakup which probably triggered his depression. At the least, I think he is less mentally stable than the average person, but I don't really want to make a judgement.
There is a teacher at our school who graduated from the USCGA and served a tour in the Pacific whom me and my friend have both had. He's yet to talk to him, but he has talked to grads from our high school currently in West Point. But I feel he may still be rushing the decision too much. I've talked to him about NROTC scholarships and civilian colleges but he is still disillusioned by the (in his words) "awesome" things that the USCGA/USNA does, the benefits and the experience.
Bottom line is that I don't want my best friend to make the wrong decision, especially as big as going military in college. So, if he does go military, what should I expect from him (communication wise, personally and psychologically) and what should my level of concern be?
Thanks in advance.
aimeeandbeatles
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I would refer to a guidence counseler if your school has those.
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madviking
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I'd kinda like to keep it between us...
First of all there's no 'inevitable mental breakdown'. Some people end up with PTSD after facing some pretty horrific combat; nobody will get it during training if the training staff are even close to doing their jobs. Put down your copy of Full Metal Jacket for a minute; Gunny Hartman is a breed generally reserved for the Foot Guards.
Second: Take it from me that almost nobody really rushes the decision like that. People act as if they have to seem less bothered and so more manly, but the fact is by saying that it usually means they've been thinking about it for a long time. It may not be a good plan to try and discourage him from doing it; if he's unsuitable he's going to find out at interview pretty quickly and you're unlikely to change his mind, practically.
Last part: military people tend to pick up habits, like speaking briefly and to the point, not mincing words, drinking heavily, pointing with the whole hand... it goes on. Be prepared for a while of thinking 'what's he going on about?' when he asks to exchance CN (combat Nokia = mobile) to send a sitrep about his RV with Sunray (= to tell you how his meeting with the boss went).
Why is it that my roommate never locks the bathroom door when using it? It has a perfectly functioning lock. I mean maybe its just me but the first thing I do when I enter the bathroom is to lock the door.
Now its been twice that I've almost walked in on my roommate. You'd think the bathroom door would now start being locked when it is in use but apparently not. Perhaps the roommate is a voyeur.
Now its been twice that I've almost walked in on my roommate. You'd think the bathroom door would now start being locked when it is in use but apparently not. Perhaps the roommate is a voyeur.
I don't know what cultural customs girls and their roommates might have, but for guys this actually isn't that uncommon, usually it's something that's obvious though. (light under the door and that type of thing not being possible here is maybe annoying) Knocking is still a fine solution though
I never leave the bathroom door open or the toilet seat up when I'm not in there, but even without a lock on the loo door, I find that a simple "Oi! Get out!" works fine on either side of the door 
Airstrike92
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I like to consider myself emo, but I don't wear skinny jeans, nor do I cut. But my girlfriend is emo and a lot of my friends are emo (and a lot of my friends are in other subcultures as well). I really like the emo lifestyle culture though, including their morals, music, fashion, and various other cultural influences. What do you think? Do you think it's possible to be emo without being a stereotypical emo?
Airstrike92
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Not particularly.
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