the giant impact theory to explain the moon has some competition, multiple smaller objects struck Earth producing moonlets that eventually coalesced.
I'm a bit skeptical, seems we'd have several moons in different orbits or at least surviving debris trails (rings)
this is based on lunar samples
how do researchers know the rocks and dust they gathered represented the Moon when it was newly born?
If the Moon has been battered I'd expect the original surface to be distorted by impacting material
There are a few techniques that allow dating of the lunar material. One method (and it's used on Earth too) is to chemically analyze the soil/regotlith found under rocks or underground. The amount of time the samples spent in the shadows can be backed out of an analysis of certain chemical reactions that happen in the presence of light. From this, they can begin inferring relative ages.
There are geological features that will weather at a certain rate under certain conditions and this can also tell you the relative age of formations of rock. The fact that the moon is such a stable (relative to the Earth) environment really helps with this age-defining process. There are also other chemical and radioactive methods of backing out the age of materials. Even things like reading the He3 content of a regolith sample can tell you something about its age since the Sun streams out a steady wind He3 that gets deposited at a more or less set rate.
Two huge difference between the Moon and the Earth is the lack of an ongoing tectonic and hydrological cycle (they're intertwined) on the Moon. This means the moon simple doesn't change much in absolute terms or rates. As far as I know there is no evidence that the lunar crust underwent the kind of recycling that Earth's does once it had solidified and the late heavy bombardment (which re-melted large chunks of the moon giving us the
maria) stopped. Thus, we can be reasonably certain that the rocks formed at that time of solidification and haven't since morphed. Also, they don't show signs of geological morphing either, excluding the maria.
Reading through some articles on the 2 NASA astroid missions for the 20s-30s mentioned the probes using quite lot of instuments similar to those used on other missions. How common is it that you can use off the shelf instruments for these kind off missions? I was under the impression most spacecraft built where more akin to prototypes and not serial production runs(however small).
It's becoming more and more common. Spacecraft are often built around the same 'bus' but many of the specifics vary. The bus can be thought of like the frame of a car. You often couldn't tell two different models of cars apart if you only looked at the frame because they are basically identical. But the end products can be very different.
This is how it's been with satellites - the same basic frames will be re-used but fitted out with very different instruments and systems. This is especially true with electronics and software. A propellant tank is always going to be roughly the same because they all have to do the same job. But the electronic guts of a satellite and the software that run them can be wildly different.
In the early space age, scientists were working with such primitive instruments for data gathering that significant R&D (and overall budgets) went into developing new and better instruments for each new satellite. The same was true (to a lesser extent) of commercial satellites shuttling data around the Earth instead of taking science measurements. Each new model was a big step forward over the last and could deliver more data at faster rates.
Recently, electronics and software have advanced to such a state that for many mission profiles, you don't need (or even want) to re-invent the wheel, so to speak. An off the shelf solution can provide what you want, so you go with that instead of hiring a bunch of PhD's to invent a new one. This has the knock-on effect that as certain components and software become more and more common, they begin to drive ancillary commonalities in other components.
So let's say that all of my satellite's sensors run on different voltages. Say you have a thermal camera running at 3.3V, a laser range finder running at 5V and a radar running at 12V. Each instrument needs separate circuits, harnessing and connectors because of these voltage differences.
Now let's say that you find a radar that runs on only 5V and works as good as the old one. Well now you are strongly incentivized to find a thermal camera that also runs at 5V so you can re-use all the same connectors and harnessing and save yourself a ton of money. Designing the overall system is now much simpler and cheaper because of this.
That's what's going on right now. NASA is saving costs (and increasing overall effectiveness) of their missions by common-sourcing as much as they can. The market is reacting to that by heading together in the same direction vis a vis compatibility and commonality.
Things like the CubeSat platform are accelerating this trend dramatically as well since the whole purpose was commonality from the outset. It's an open-source platform and a lot of companies are trying to grab a chunk of that growing market. This means their components will all have to play nice with each other, so to speak, thereby reinforcing the trend.
I could literally show you how to buy and assemble a satellite using information on the internet and buying components from the internet, right now. That's how far the process has come - high school students design and build satellites for science classes in well-funded school districts now. Obviously there is a huge difference between what you and I could put together in a garage versus the Hubble Space Telescope. But if you only want to get something into space to take a simple set of measurements, that is now relatively achievable (if you have $10 million dollars that is

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Awesome questions!