When someone denies his/hers wife/husband/partner sex for a long time

[Narz]

I don't know whether to vomit or be flattered.

 

[elenar]

Sex as gratification of need, giving in to growing emotion, is actually way of finding escape from it, from what may be considered sort of 'pain' (because it causes of sort of 'frustration'). So it is kinda like finding object to consume to get rid of hunger.
Personally, such a relation doesn't interest me at all..

 

[Narz]

So I assume you don't masturbate.

 

[MobBoss]

do you laugh at women for having dildos?

Women having dildos is one thing. Men? Entirely another.

Is that sexist? Abso-dam-lutely.

 

[Narz]

I never understood the appeal of screwing an inanimate object personally but to each their own.

 

[warpus]

Guys, I don't have a fleshlight. You totally missed an obvious piece of satire there, *somehow*

MobBoss, you dissapoint me. Maybe you're getting old

 

[elenar]

So I assume you don't masturbate.

You may assume whatever comes to your mind (with whatever frequency). But it may not always fit reasonably. When I said about relation, I ment with others, not your hand..

 

[Narz]

Guys, I don't have a fleshlight. You totally missed an obvious piece of satire there, *somehow*

I didn't miss it, I was just playing along.

You may assume whatever comes to your mind (with whatever frequency). But it may not always fit reasonably. When I said about relation, I ment with others, not your hand..

So if you're craving sex for purely physical reasons you'd rather satisfy yourself than risk your sexual encounter with another be too "base"?

 

[elenar]

So if you're craving sex for purely physical reasons you'd rather satisfy yourself than risk your sexual encounter with another be too "base"?

When I want to eat apple I don't need relationship with it. And if I had relationship then it would last very short (and I would have to lie that I don't want to eat it).

So mixing relationship with consumption isn't good idea, out of respect for apple.

And if you engage in relationship based on consumption then you don't really realize that you are just apple, which would make you naturally withdraw (no being likes to be eaten).

 

[holy king]

does this analogy make sense to anyone?

 

[elenar]

You do not crave for sex out of your choice, it just happens because of some reasons (like you do not decide to get hungry). How you decide to satisfy it (or not) is another thing. I did not say I would rather satisfy myself, and I gave you picture of what possible encounter is.

 

[Narz]

When I want to eat apple I don't need relationship with it. And if I had relationship then it would last very short (and I would have to lie that I don't want to eat it).

So mixing relationship with consumption isn't good idea, out of respect for apple.

And if you engage in relationship based on consumption then you don't really realize that you are just apple, which would make you naturally withdraw (no being likes to be eaten).

My girlfriend does.

Jokes aside, technically speaking an apple does "want" to be eaten. That's why a fruiting tree puts out good tasting fruit, so animals (including humans) will eat them & crap out the seeds. It's an evolutionary strategy.

I think I see what you're getting at but you can't ever totally separate desire & need, IME. The best you can do is try to deeply appreciate the apple & savor it, all the while realizing you can never get away from your carnal craving for it. And also recognize that carnal craving itself is not inherently bad in & of itself.

If we had no craving for sex or food or companionship would we even interact with our fellow beings?

You do not crave for sex out of your choice, it just happens because of some reasons (like you do not decide to get hungry). How you decide to satisfy it (or not) is another thing. I did not say I would rather satisfy myself, and I gave you picture of what possible encounter is.

Can you give me an example of when sexual union would be ok in your book?

 

[Earthling]

does this analogy make sense to anyone?

I think, as it was just moved to OT, he missed the discussion on English language skills in these forums. But as far as I can tell, Narz seems to have made a good reply - I would say that various sexual desires are innate and so equating that with hunger isn't entirely stupid, it's not something that just "goes away" for most people. Since this thread has grown expan let's say spiraled out to so many pages I don't know if these opinions are too tangent but it's what's being discussed here. Though I think my general opinion carries over to the overall conclusion to the main question as well - it would be only natural for the "neglected" partner to seek out other interests and would really challenge the relationship if this couldn't be managed (keep in mind I'm also not a fan of institutionalized marriage anyway...)

 

[MobBoss]

Guys, I don't have a fleshlight. You totally missed an obvious piece of satire there, *somehow*

MobBoss, you dissapoint me. Maybe you're getting old

Nah, I picked up on it pretty quick...remember me pointing out your 'wive(s)'?

I'm disappointed you didnt realize I was just helping you play along.

 

[ainwood]

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