ironduck said:
All of your points are extreme generalisations that could just as easily be turned around.
Please do.
ironduck said:
They fail to examine the individual situation and instead paints with a broad brush in the direction you want them to.
So, I'm supposed to address the individual situations of every one of the 6.5 billion people on this planet, hmm?
ironduck said:
More than a few, to be sure.
ironduck said:
failed romances may lead to that, most lead to just carrying on with one's life. Similarly, failed marriages lead to the same things you just listed in *some* instances, in most cases they do not.
Actually, those things tend to cause marriages to fail, not stem from the failure of the marriage.
ironduck said:
And no, marriages do not mainly fail due to extramarital affairs,
Of course not...
ironduck said:
but due to communication problems, lack of love in the first place,
...because marriage has been so watered down in its significance that no one sees it as worth working at.
ironduck said:
or people growing apart as they they find new paths important for their well-being and growth as humans.
Case in point. Something hard comes up, and rather than help each other over the hurdle, the couple just goes their seperate ways. Back in the day, "Til death do us part" meant something.
ironduck said:
2) Sure, multiple sex partners means higher risk of stds.
IE my point is valid.
ironduck said:
Any sex at all means higher risk at stds than no sex! So let's just skip sex altogether and never create another child in this world, eh?
Ah, hyperbole, last refuge of a losing argument...
ironduck said:
Making love is one of the most beautiful things in this world, to consider this a sin is so far beyond my understanding that you might as well claim murder to be a virtue.
Correction, making love...to your wife. Fornicating with a willing hole or member is just fornication.
Why? Because doing so with your wife is doing so knowing that if a baby does come about, the two of you are socially ready for the child. Nailing some random bimbo you met in a sleazy bar is done knowing that you'll never see her again, and if she gets knocked up, it's her money going to the abortion clinic.
ironduck said:
Taking care with sex through testing and protection minimizes the risk of disease to a degree that they would be almost eliminated within a generation if anyone did so. The reason for spread of stds has everything to do with carelessness and ignorance like the kind you propose in point 4.
In fact, most diseases between humans spread through direct contact. Your argument could just as well be used for people always needing to stand 10 metres away from each other, and never touching. In fact, they should wear gloves and masks just to be sure. The point is, that diseases spread through all human interaction, and by far the most of them have nothing to do with sex.
But the one guaranteed way to avoid getting an STD is to not have sex, yes?
ironduck said:
3) You know, I thought marriage was based on love, but I see that in your world it's based on terms like penalties and social stigma to keep it together.
Nice, when all else fails, deliberate misinterpretation. 'Penalties' refers to the legal status of marriage. If a spouse abandons their partner, their partner has certain legal rights, like custody of children, ownership of marital assets, etc... 'Stigmata' refers to how divorcees were once perceived, and how adulterers were once perceived. Obviously, these things have fallen away under the relentless assault of the forces of evil and lawlessness, but there's no denying that they used to exist and influence people to behave properly toward their spouses.
ironduck said:
Again, this is the exact opposite of how I see the world. People get together because they love each other, and that is why they stay together.
And to symbolise this, they marry, exchange vows, and wear rings as symbols of that devotion, so everyone will know that they have taken themselves out of the game.
ironduck said:
They should not stay together out of fear of how society might judge them. What kind of relationship is that, one of fear of other's judgement? Terrible. There is no less stability in a serious monogamous relationship regardless of a formal ceremony. Rather, what you suggest causes pain and suffering for so many people in this world that it is heart breaking. I know of a good deal of people who are trapped in marriages with a partner that no longer treats them fairly, yet they feel obligued to stay due to social stigma and judgement. All for nothing, they get no love from that, just pain.
Your own words contradict themselves. Compare the emboldened to the underlined. If a man is mistreating his wife, she should do something about it. No one lives in a vacuum, there are people all around that likely have vested interests in helping a mistreated wife: her parents/family, her husband's parents/family, her (gasp, horrors!) pastor/preacher/reverend/spiritual advisor, the police, her bloody Congressman. Someone out there is willing to help her, I guarantee it.
ironduck said:
Women across the world are mistreated by their husbands and trapped due to various rules of marriage, both legally and socially.
Absolutely true. That doesn't mean marriage is bad. It means some men, and some cultures, are bad.
ironduck said:
4) On the contrary, openness about sex is what is needed. Teaching teenagers about consequences makes them capable of making their own decisions. You cannot take the hormones out of them, they are human beings with desires. Instead, let them know how sex works so they don't make their discoveries in the dark without full knowledge of diseases and pregnancy. Sex becomes no less frequent because you shroud it under a dark veil, it just becomes hidden and secret. Why you would want to hide nature from people is beyond me, once again.
I find it difficult to comprehend how people can make the leap from wanting sex in the media removed or toned down to shutting down sex education (and for that matter, it boggles my mind how some people can confuse sex education with sex-based entertainment). I am a proponent of sex education with a heavy encouragement of abstinence.
Tell them about condoms? Sure, just make sure you remind them that condoms break, leak, and aren't a sure thing. The pill? Absolutely! But make sure they know it won't do a thing about STDs. Not telling children that abstinence is the only guaranteed safe path through teen pregnancy and STDs is lying to them. Telling them they can gamble on birth control and condoms to keep them safe and childless is the height of irresponsible parenting.
How did we get on this anyway? What's it got to do with atheists?