Renata said:
This can be true, some of the time, with some women. But men can be just as bad.
Not in such a way. Both sexes have their own ways of driving the other mad.
Women's speciality is to never be clear about anything, and then blame the man for not getting it clearly.
This is garbage, and is the kind of thinking that leads to date rape and the utter destroying of a woman's trust.
Yes. That's why I said a bit later to not take it caricaturaly.
So I repeat : this is to be restricted to what women says about their preferences.
Now, I would be very happy if it was wrong (because NOT taking into accound what others tell me is something I've a lot of trouble to do, especially when I've sweet feelings toward the said other), but I'm afraid that it's what I've witnessed countless times.
He said he did kiss her, and there's nothing wrong with going slow if it makes one or both parties more comfortable. His mistake was overreacting to an innocent question.
Renata
There's nothing wrong with going slow, of course.
I'm just warning him that when a woman says something about how she would like the relationship be going, it's usually garbage and he should just try to :
- Make the relationship go the way he wants.
- Try to
feel how the woman is reacting, and adapt his behaviour accordingly.
BUT, and it's the most important point : do not bother about what she says. Bother about HOW she says it. Women tends to communicate not with the meaning of the spoken words, but with the tone, and the attitude, and so on.
Try to decypher the whole rather than just "read the text".
Yes it's annoying and irritating and uselessly obscure, but hey, it's how women work