Dating Advice 2: Electric Boogaloo

[Birdjaguar]

Why would God do such a thing to me?

Because you are 13 and God has devised a plan to keep you frustrated and confused for another decade. Move on and maybe she will notice that you are attractive to other girls.

 

[Caesar of Bread]

Because you are 13 and God has devised a plan to keep you frustrated and confused for another decade. Move on and maybe she will notice that you are attractive to other girls.

Oh nuts! College debt is coming...

 

[Synobun]

All my planning, for months and months, and yet she doesn't like me. Why would God do such a thing to me?

From what I gather, you committed to this idea within a week's time. You waited, what, two days after her breakup to make a move?

Regardless, you built an image of this situation in your head that does not match reality. This does not entitle you to having your fantasy become true. Things don't work out the way you want them to. They rarely do.

 

[bernie14]

I'm not going to let all my work go to waste.

What's the plan going forward?

 

[Zardnaar]

All my planning, for months and months, and yet she doesn't like me. Why would God do such a thing to me?

Problem is in these months and months of planning you built a fantasy and fell in love with that.

Think I was 16 when I asked a girl out. I got shot down the first time.

Not long after acquired female friends and listened to what they said.

First girl friend was friend of a friend. Wife was also friend of friend.

Never really experienced the dating lifestyle. Beyond listening, making her laugh and putting her first I'm kind of clueless.

For future efforts if there's someone else involved in the picture avoid. Even if they break up wait a while listen.

Even if your friend thing works and she picks you over him what happens when she gets another make friend?

Braver than I was you asked got shot down it happens. I didn't even ask to nervous lol.

 

[Narz]

All my planning, for months and months, and yet she doesn't like me. Why would God do such a thing to me?

You're not embarrassed to say this?

Imagine saying that about another dude.

"Oh I really wanted George to do my friend and planned every night how to get him to like me"

Or flip it, imagine George came up to you and gave off energy like "bro I've been fantasizing about you for months and I think we'd could be really close friends if you'd only give me a chance". You'd probably be like "um... sure, uh, maybe next time " just like your girl

Deep down you don't know her, you're pedestalizing her and demeaning yourself w this obsession.

And, as others have noted you're also objectifying her as a prize to be won. And maybe once you won her you wouldn't even want her (or maybe it would be amazing and you guys would be soulmates but statisticly probably not.

Just get over the oneitis and like I said in other thread better yourself for yourself and shoot your shot w the next one.

Or maybe if you chill a bit and stop putting off all the pressure & who knows maybe it can work out w the original girl (altho I wouldn't hold breath)

 

[EvaDK]

Also, at the cast party, I told this to one of the people in my D&D party. She has a crush on the girl's best friend, and I am planning to help her get together with the best friend (who is dating a boy right now) Now what?

how am I supposed to help my friend in the D&D party (who wants to be with the track girls best friend - my friend is lesbian and 1 year younger)?

How about you first accumulate some actual, real life relationship experience for yourself, before contemplating ways - or 'plans' - on how to intervene in other peoples relationships?
Your intentions may be good, but you could easily end up doing or saying things, that can backfire horribly for you - and your female D&D friend as well.

 

[Caesar of Bread]

How about you first accumulate some actual, real life relationship experience for yourself, before contemplating ways - or 'plans' - on how to intervene in other peoples relationships?
Your intentions may be good, but you could easily end up doing or saying things, that can backfire horribly for you - and your female D&D friend as well.

I have read Jane Austen, William Shakespeare, and watched a couple of episodes of Toradora. What could go wrong?

Besides, my time to show my excellence is coming up... an 8th-grade trip to Washington DC!

 

[Gorbles]

I have read Jane Austen, William Shakespeare, and watched a couple of episodes of Toradora. What could go wrong?

Besides, my time to show my excellence is coming up... an 8th-grade trip to Washington DC!

If this isn't a bit, then I've changed my mind. Advice in this thread is far more likely to be useful than your current sources.

 

[EvaDK]

I have read Jane Austen, William Shakespeare, and watched a couple of episodes of Toradora. What could go wrong?

Well, if you read Austen, then you must have at least a minimum of insight into the minds and feelings of young women. Both then and now. And how youth is often interlocked with naivety about life and romance, yes?

As for Shakespeare; how did Hamlet's plan turn out in the end? How did Macbeth and Lady Macbeth's plan turn out in the end? They too thought; what could go wrong?

Have a nice trip to DC.

 

[lymond]

Ha...couldn't help but think of Emma in context. Her meddlin' did not always turn out well .

Enjoy DC! That's my hood...

 

[Narz]

I have read Jane Austen, William Shakespeare, and watched a couple of episodes of Toradora. What could go wrong?

Besides, my time to show my excellence is coming up... an 8th-grade trip to Washington DC!

I can't help but admire your youthful confidence. The way you talk and think reminds me a sitcom where truly nothing can actually go wrong (you won't get your way but it will be funny & harmless)

 

[sophie]

I have read Jane Austen, William Shakespeare, and watched a couple of episodes of Toradora. What could go wrong?

Besides, my time to show my excellence is coming up... an 8th-grade trip to Washington DC!

Have you taken the time to consider that you might not be Darcy or Bingley (or Fitzwilliam!) in this scenario, but Collins or Wickham?

 

[Farm Boy]

Oh, the cleverness of you.

 

[Caesar of Bread]

Ha...couldn't help but think of Emma in context. Her meddlin' did not always turn out well .

Enjoy DC! That's my hood...

I will!

I guess I shall confess to my sins.
I admit I did have hubris and thought of myself as the best. As quoted in Proverbs 16:18, "Pride goeth before a fall."

 

[Zardnaar]

I will!

I guess I shall confess to my sins.
I admit I did have hubris and thought of myself as the best. As quoted in Proverbs 16:18, "Pride goeth before a fall."

Statistically asking women out you're gonna get shot down more often than not without a preexisting relationship.

 

[Joij21]

Statistically asking women out you're gonna get shot down more often than not without a preexisting relationship.

How would the women know you had or didn't have a preexisting relationship? You can always lie or geomax (and then also lie on top of that) and if she's stupid you win!

Always date/marry dumb girls never smart ones you'll be happier and have the upper hand if after marriage she attempts a divorce. Get to keep the kids, make her pay instead!

You call it 'work', which implies that you feel somewhat entitled to a reward for doing that 'work.' That mindset is potentially very toxic and you need to change it, okay?

Yes that's why I hate Marxists they are always so entitled and think they deserve more pay from us Bourgeoisie. They too think they deserve a raise for all their "work".

Get over it he's young, at least he has more confidence then I did at that age.

Besides, my time to show my excellence is coming up... an 8th-grade trip to Washington DC!

Oh see now I'm jealous. I had bad grades in 8th grade so I was never able to go on the D.C. trip, so I guess I have no choice but to bet against you man. For jealousy and envious sake.

See I have a Cronus policy, eat the youths and treat them poorly if they are sexier and better than you were at that age. Then after feasting on their flesh and performing various Satanic rituals I'll live forever and gain immortality after devouring their life force. That way I can be sexier and better after stealing it from their now sacrificed souls.

 

[EvaDK]

Have you taken the time to consider that you might not be Darcy or Bingley (or Fitzwilliam!) in this scenario, but Collins or Wickham?

Casually namedrops Darcy's cousin... you've read or watched P&P a few times, haven't you? Yes, me too.

 

[sophie]

Casually namedrops Darcy's cousin... you've read or watched P&P a few times, haven't you? Yes, me too.

We in this household stan Colonel Fitzwilliam. Absolute king. He and Charlotte (if you buy the “Charlotte told Lady Catherine” theory) are the true unsung heroes of the story.

 

[EvaDK]

We in this household stan Colonel Fitzwilliam. Absolute king. He and Charlotte (if you buy the “Charlotte told Lady Catherine” theory) are the true unsung heroes of the story.

I'll do one better; Charlotte told her insufferable husband about the proposal, counting on the weasel running all the way to Lady C. and telling her everything. She can then wash her hands of this whole affair, if needed. Charlotte Lucas is a peculiar character; she has kind of figured out how to work the system in her own way and to her own benefit.