I am glad you have toned it down. I appreciate that. I always enjoy a good debate. 2 quick points before I get rambling away.
*Wife... not girlfriend. Its different.
*Romanian historians... I take them with a grain of salt on this matter, just as I do Hungarian historians (
amateur or professional).
My point of posting that there was still debate amongst historians was to show that everyone who is going crazy, calling me moron, etc... they are basing it all on their own ideas and beliefs, because it is an unsettled issue (and probably can't be settled, realistically).
I don't doubt that people have move back and forth. I just don't understand why Hungarians seem to take it as an insult that they are a part of Romanian culture. If anything, that is pretty cool. I mean, the Romanian culture hasn't had much impact in Hungary (none that I saw).
I also think that saying a people are "in danger of assimilating" to the country they live it... that's odd. I don't see any danger in it at all. If I moved back to Italy, for example, and was going to stay there... I sure as hell would assimilate. This is how we get along in the world. Not by clinging to lost lands and perceived wrongs.
Anyhow, Transylvania is Romanian now, and it has had a mixed cultural background for a long time. It has been ruled by Romanians, Hungarians, Teutons, Dacians (pre-Romanians), etc... I can't understand how Transylvania being Romanian effects you, other than emotionally.
Not enough, this mistake still affects the Hungarians there (learning hungarian and hungarian history etc).
Are they restricted from learning it on their own? I doubt it. You can maintain your culture/history all you want. For example, I am of Swedish and German heritage, so I have done a lot of studying of the places, history, etc and visiting and living there.
You can also just move out if you don't like to assimilate.
Autonomy would be the best and fairest way to reflect the cultural mixing of Transylvania.
Why? Because you say so, as a hungarian? What percentage of Transylvania wants this? I wasn't aware of any such movement amongst the people in Transylvania.
the only solution I see is returning the Széklersland, which is inhabited by hungarians mostly and make it an autonomous region within Hungary, then make the rest of Transylvania autonomous as well within Romania.
Solution? To what? I don't see a problem. A solution implies there is a problem. What is the problem? Some hurt feelings? So, rip away 1/3 of Romania because
some hungarians want some other solution? I mean, you can't be in the EU if there are border unresolved disputes (see Croatia). Obviously, this is not the case between the Romanian and Hungarian governments. So, if your government is not going to take any action on the issue, don't you think it might be time to let it go in your heart? I guess the government has given up on the Székelys. It would be like Germany asking Poland for Prussia back, or Gdansk.
if Trianon was a mistake and if it still affects us, why shouldn't we correct it?
I still don't see how it effects you. You mentioned the study of hungarian culture/language, which is surely not infringed upon. Do you think this is the first time such a land situation has been resolved like this? I don't hear the Germans complaining about losing Alsace-Lorraine anymore. I just don't clearly see how it is effecting you.
And, if, as your arguments seem to dictate, language defines culture (to me, blood is much more important in the short term), the Transylvania is overwhelmingly Romanian.
In closing, using something from the Hungarian part of Romanian history does not discredit Hungary. If anything, it adds to the prestige of the Hungarian culture and people. Its a compliment. Cultures tend to take the good stuff from other cultures, not the bad. So, if the Romanians, many of whom have Hungarian blood, see good things in and from your culture and people, isn't this a good thing? Does it mean they should lose their land?
@ the Capo... now that it is a intellectual debate, rather than a constant attack, I have no problem with what is happening.
I do think that people should, instead of lashing out, imagine that the person they are talking to were right next to them. I am not always good at this myself. But, I do know, if I had said anything about Hungary and its people like what was said about Romania(ns), these guys would clearly have freaked out!