I never said having a sexual interest is a problem, that's your own thought and not mine.
What I say is that having a sexual interest in someone you're in a non-sexual relationship with is harmful to the woman and to your relationship with her. It affects how you think about her, and ultimately how you respect her.
Like imagine if you're a carnivore and animals could talk. Say you're "friends" with a type of animal you eat. If you think of how you one day might want to eat your friend, do you really think you could view them as an equal to yourself? You're fooling yourself.
And please don't say it's because that's what women want, I can assure you that's a lie. That's what you want.
@Manfred Belheim this whole site is basically just banter, and I know we're just joking with each other. I don't believe any of the men I talk to here hold out any real hope that I'd ever have sex with them, we're just having fun. And you can compliment someone without thinking it's going to lead to sex: I very often tell my girlfriends how much I love their new hair, or clothes, etc. And my friends do the same for me, I got quite a lot of compliments last weekend on my new nails for example. I often talk to men I know about how amazing I think they look, maybe with a new suit or after losing some weight, and so on (and I mean it honestly)
I haven't had a lot of male friends IRL. I have my one coworker who I've known for almost ten years, but while we talk and he helps me with things, I'm sure he doesn't have a sexual interest. I've never gotten that vibe from him, and at my company he's one of the few guys who really treats me with full respect for my abilities. I've also known guys who got angry with me when I wasn't sexually interested in them, and I find it tends to get worse the longer you've been "friends" with one of these guys.
I don't believe every man is unable to control himself like Farm Boy thinks, I believe many men really do respect women and don't view all of us as hopeful/potential mates.
Think of this: if your boss is a woman, would you be hoping she'd call you into her office to have sex with her? Now things get
really bad for women when the man has more power (see: Harvey Weinstein, etc)