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A Michel de Montaigne saying

aelf

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Somewhere in his labyrinthe essay “On Friendship” Michel de Montaigne proclaimed: "O, my friends there is no friend".

This caused me to think about solitude in a certain sense, that friends can become enemies and vice versa, so we must reconcile ourselves to the possibility that there are no friendships that we can rely on as utterly permanent.

This is a contradiction like the quote in my view, but perhaps it can be logically argued that there is no contradiction because there is an element of time involved, which can change everything.

So there is a double meaning: As Aristotle said, "He who has friends can have no true friend", so the man who can call out to his friends loses the only friend he could ever have; himself. But mostly the meaning is found in the mutability of friendship and all things in life. My political and philosophical work, my numerous pieces of notes and thousands of paragraphs, which presented as a diagram forms a vanishing point and lines that extend from and towards the common point, all originate from and point towards the fact that life is full of uncertainty.

Like the parable of Schrödinger's cat, we can never know whether something will turn out one way or another until time has intervened. Your friend today can become your nemesis tomorrow. Or maybe you will die tomorrow, especially if your friend triggered your ruin.

Of course, some people deny this. I do not like how they think. I am pretty sure that they are just deluding themselves and chasing shadows in the form of other people whom they think are friends. Time changes everything and those who deny that are just slaves to time, waiting in the dark in Plato's cave until the fates destroy them utterly.

So, tl;dr version: If you were in the labyrinth of time, you would feel afraid not just because you run the serious risk of being destroyed at any time, but also due to the labyrinth's essence, the minotaur at the center who you might have been walking nearer to with every step, nearer that destroyer of your soul who will rend it with his teeth. But, converted, this also means that if you walk in the labyrinth outside the common time labyrinth, that is the labyrinth of your own imagination, could you perhaps evade this fear and find your soul mate? Is not the very fact that your friends can also be your betrayers revealing of the Idea that man is perhaps destined to be solitary in his quest of seeking immortality through a noble death? As the poet Dylan Thomas once said, "Do not go gentle into that good night". Should we not resist destruction by not giving others the means to hurt us by getting close to them? After all Dylan Thomas would not have been so talented without alcohol, which set his imagination free and triggered his ruin. Perhaps it can be logically argued that alcohol was his friend and betrayer. But that would not make sense because in alcohol he saw a reflection of himself and his genius. Perhaps man is a betrayer of himself, but only if you betray your own life can you be immortal. So now we have a vanishing point with lines extending to and from it that bend back toward the point: Man is his own betrayer who betrays other people for the sake of himself whom he betrays. At the center of this linear labyrinth is the minotaur Betrayal and his twin Solitude. No matter which line you trace, you always end up at the centre, which is either betrayal or solitude depending on your perspective. This reflects my esoterism as I contemplate the meaning of life and death and ultimately fail, like Antisthenes, to see the difference.

Even more tl;dr: Do you think betrayal is at the center of life? Does one ever really know other people? If you believe so, why? And if you don't believe so, how do you cope with your existence?
 
What I want to know is what happened that inspired you to write this? Sounds like that story could be interesting :)

I don't know if a layman can understand, but I had a very interesting dream.

I dreamt that I was in a 2 meter by 1 meter concrete cell with gray walls and there did not seem to be a door. For a long time I was yelling with all my power until I was utterly out of strength. At first I thought there existed nothing. Then I began to listen: Footsteps. I could hear the sound of footsteps coming closer.

The door opened. I realised then that there was a hidden door in one of the walls. A man wearing a minotaur mask was standing in the doorway.

I was too afraid to move at first, but the man turned and ran. At that moment, I was inspired to follow for reasons I cannot say.

The corridor outside the cell was in utter darkness, but I trusted my instincts and ran. After a while I saw a little light spilling out of a door in front of me. Curious, I stopped and looked for a handle on the door. I turned the handle and door opened easily.

Behind the door was a concrete cell and in the middle of the cell was a skeleton. I was not afraid then but puzzled. What could this mean?

Then I looked down and saw a bull mask on the floor. I had a horrible speculation: I thought that perhaps the minotaur had eaten this prisoner.

I looked at the mask in my hand which I stretched inside towards the macabre body. Should I put it on? And a thought devours me. Perhaps I should disguise myself in the likeness of the minotaur before I proceed.

I put on the mask and looked at the skeleton one more time. Then I closed the door and continued running. As I ran, I could hear the sound of someone yelling with all his power.
 
I didn't get the "seeking immortality through a noble death" - line or how exactly that refers to solitude. But it seems to me like the usual psychological try to justify personel misery (solitude) with some supposed greater good.
When the uncertainty or shall we say impurity of friendship is a reason to seek solitude, isn't the uncertainty of life a reason to seek death? Both sounds quit apologist to me, a try to "philosophical" justify the fear of the undesired possible consequences of friendship or life. While it undoubtedly can be helpful to employ this psychological tactic, I think if viable addressing the fear usually has way more to offer you.
Moreover, I think in this case such a fear is linked to excessive ambitions (which in turn are likely to be linked to insecurity), being expressed in the imperfectness of friendship as an argument against friendship per se. So having a more relaxed relationship to such ambitions can go a long way in smoothing the fear and hence to increase living quality.
Even more tl;dr: Do you think betrayal is at the center of life?
I see absolutely no reason to think so. But of course, it can be the center of one's mind.
Does one ever really know other people? If you believe so, why? And if you don't believe so, how do you cope with your existence?
I think it is possible to know them pretty good. Depends on the people, how willing they are to share their true thoughts, emotions and intentions.
But even if it wasn't possible, I don't think that wouldn't let me cope with my existence. Because I don't have to truly know people to relate to them. Why would you think so?
 
I really don't understand why someone should have any need to justify solitude. People just... are. Those who like solitude, just practice it without any regrets. Those who want friends, go for it. And those still young enough to not feel set in their ways, well, don't waste too much time wondering about existential philosophy - that should be reserved for the mid-life crisis! Exercise the freedom to try out either and check out the results for yourself. And as many times as you want.

Wondering that human relations will not be utterly permanent is pointless. Of course they won't be: life itself is finite. That alone guarantees that all relations end, at best, in some for of involuntary desertion. No one really expects permanence, and so what? It comes with the package, and the only thing to be done about it is to accept it and live with it.
 
I don't know if a layman can understand, but I had a very interesting dream.

I dreamt that I was in a 2 meter by 1 meter concrete cell with gray walls and there did not seem to be a door. For a long time I was yelling with all my power until I was utterly out of strength. At first I thought there existed nothing. Then I began to listen: Footsteps. I could hear the sound of footsteps coming closer.

The door opened. I realised then that there was a hidden door in one of the walls. A man wearing a minotaur mask was standing in the doorway.

I was too afraid to move at first, but the man turned and ran. At that moment, I was inspired to follow for reasons I cannot say.

The corridor outside the cell was in utter darkness, but I trusted my instincts and ran. After a while I saw a little light spilling out of a door in front of me. Curious, I stopped and looked for a handle on the door. I turned the handle and door opened easily.

Behind the door was a concrete cell and in the middle of the cell was a skeleton. I was not afraid then but puzzled. What could this mean?

Then I looked down and saw a bull mask on the floor. I had a horrible speculation: I thought that perhaps the minotaur had eaten this prisoner.

I looked at the mask in my hand which I stretched inside towards the macabre body. Should I put it on? And a thought devours me. Perhaps I should disguise myself in the likeness of the minotaur before I proceed.

I put on the mask and looked at the skeleton one more time. Then I closed the door and continued running. As I ran, I could hear the sound of someone yelling with all his power.

how do you interpret that dream?
 
@innonimatu
I am honestly not sure that it is possible for a human to in general have a better emotional life by solitude unless seriously emotionally damaged or for whatever reason being the victim of discrimination/mobbing in available social circles. Sure, one can get settled in, find new routines and strategies, and be fairly contend and also regularly happy. And in contrast to that one can be involved in the wrong social circles, or maybe one just approaches the matter of socialization in an utterly wrong way which one never came to really realize.
So alright, for some complex chain of interconnected factors, in an instance solitude turns out to be the way of life offering the best emotional net gain. But IMO then only by chance against all odds. So not something one should assume unless one has really good reason to do so.
 
your tl;dr is longer than your original prose and harder to read.
 
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