are perants to overprotetive??

are some perants overprotetive??

  • all are

    Votes: 1 4.5%
  • none are

    Votes: 1 4.5%
  • not all, but some are

    Votes: 20 90.9%

  • Total voters
    22

Vietcong

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well, i think some are like my mom..
never once, have i ever done any drug, or have i been high off of any thing. i have only drank alcahole 2 times, once on my b day the other for no resion, all it was was a wine cooler, and my mom was the one who gave them too me. but now i have swarn off alcahole allso, and will never drink a sip agin.
i never cuss, cept for hell and damns some times. my mom cusses worse then me..
but yet, now that im 17 *my b days dec. 10 1986* she sudently is overprotetive....
kinda late isint it??
for ex. i was at the mall shoping for school clothing, i called her and she told me my friends tryed to call me to meet up with them at the cinamart. i told her i didnt think i had enfoe money to see a movei but i whold try. i hapend to have jsut enofe, i got in with my 2 friends and watched the vilage (it sucks). when i came out it was jsut past 9 30, and my mom was surching for me at the mall, and put out a apb with the gards at the mall!!
no to make a long story short, im gronded for 2 weeks....
my sis, who is 9 years of age, was on 3 difrent times disapear for as much as 3-5 hours at a time with our calling. once it was 8 when she left, she left to a friends hose whos just a block or 2 away. my sis was saposed to call when she got the but never did. we called her friends but no awser
after 2 hours we called the police and all our friends and had 30 ppl going around the nabiorhood shoting out her name, finaly around 11 she came back. she whent with her friends to wallmart and didnt call.. but she was just sent to her room and yelled at a lil, but not grounded for a single day! this same thing allmost happend 3 difrent times!! never once was she grounded.
this tho, is the first time this has ever happend to me.. it simply sliped my mind to call her to tell her im going into the movies, i asumed she kknew.. well

i donno what to think, im angery but mad. she treats me as if i was a no good lil 9 year old. and treats my 9 year old sis as if she is a good resposable 17 year old... i have never cused my mom problems, and my sis shows sycopathic *spelling* tendancys *her dad was spyhcotic, sp* so its easy to asume thay whear passed down to her.. *it is from what we know hreadatedry* she lets my 9 year old sis whear Mini skirts!! witch i find repulsive and disgusting!! what pearant lets ther 9 year old girl whear mini skirts and shirts that show off her belly!!
so my question is, what do u think aobut some perants?? and an options on my mom, like how can i start a convo with hear about this?? cus i realy think me and her need to talk...
hope u can read this, but im austistic so sorry every one :(
 
I voted that parents can't be overprotective. They may make mistakes and misjudgments, because they are human, but if they keep their children alive until age 18, they have fulfilled a basic responsibility. Of course there are some parents who do not have their childrens' best interests in mind, and I personally find that repulsive. But I won't blame anyone for being afraid for their childrens' safety, even if it does seem extreme at times. At least you've got a mom that loves you, even if it's a pain. There are too many kids without a mom and dad who care for them.
 
'Ere you go VC:)

Vietcong said:
Well, I think some are like my mom..
Never once have I ever done any drugs, nor have I been high off of any thing. I have only drank alcohol 2 times, once on my birthday and the other for no reason. All it was was a wine cooler, and my mom was the one who gave them too me. But now I have sworn off alcohol also, and will never drink a sip again.
I never curse except for hell and damn sometimes. My mom curses worse then me..
But yet, now that I’m 17 *my birthday is December 10 1986* she sudently is overprotective....
Kind of late isn’t it??
For example, I was at the mall shopping for school clothes, I called her and she told me my friends tried to call me to meet up with them at the cinamart. I told her I didn’t think I had enough money to see a movie, but I would try. I happened to have just enough, I got in with my 2 friends and watched The Village (it sucks). When I came out it was just past 9:30 and my mom was searching for me at the mall, and put out a apb with the guards at the mall!!
Now to make a long story short, I’m grounded for 2 weeks....
My sister, who is 9 years of age, was out 3 different times and disappeared for as much as 3-5 hours at a time without her calling. Once it was 8 when she left, she left to a friends house who is just a block or 2 away. My sister was supposed to call when she got there but never did. We called her friend’s but no answer.
After 2 hours we called the police and all our friends and 30 people going around the neighbourhood shouting out her name, finally around 11 she came back. She went with her friends to wal-mart and didn’t call.. But she was just sent to her room and yelled at a little, but not grounded for a single day! This same thing almost happened 3 different times!! Never once was she grounded.
This though, is the first time this has ever happened to me.. It simply slipped my mind to call her to tell her I’m going into the movies, I assumed she knew.. Well

I don’t know what to think, I’m angry but mad. She treats me as if I was a no good little 9 year old and treats my 9 year old sister as if she is a good responsible 17 year old... I have never caused my mom problems, and my sister shows psychopathic *spelling* tendencies *her dad was psychopathic spelling* so its easy to assume they were passed down to her.. *It is from what we know hereditary* She lets my 9 year old sister wear Mini-skirts!! Which I find repulsive and disgusting!! What parent allows their 9 year old girl to wear mini skirts and shirts that show off her belly!!
So my question is, what do you think about some parents?? And an options on my mom, like how can I start a conversation with her about this?? Because I really think we need to talk...
I hope you can read this, but I’m austistic, so sorry every one.
 
Sanaz said:
I voted that parents can't be overprotective. They may make mistakes and misjudgments, because they are human, but if they keep their children alive until age 18, they have fulfilled a basic responsibility. Of course there are some parents who do not have their childrens' best interests in mind, and I personally find that repulsive. But I won't blame anyone for being afraid for their childrens' safety, even if it does seem extreme at times. At least you've got a mom that loves you, even if it's a pain. There are too many kids without a mom and dad who care for them.
but she is a bit verbuly abusive, she tells me no one will ever love me, no one will ever wana marry me and tells my how much of a lil $*ht i am... even tho i never cuss, and i allways tell her whear i go!! ALLWAYS!! she tells me how repuslive i am and how im a lazy no good!:( she might not know it but it realy hurts me, and i acaly bealve her now!! i do beleave no one loves me, i belave im a complear no good fealeruer at life and every thing i tuch, alot of my problems are cused by her!! shes not the stritast mom, ill admit that and i admit shes cool at times. but y the verbal abuse! i have been beaten by my ex step dad *my mom devorced him* , he whold beat me weekly. and after that in my life, i dont need to be cut donw like that... my self asteats at a new low allmost ever day, i dont even try to make friends cus i dont think any one will like me... maby she dose love me, but what aobut the verbal crap?? i realy wana call cps, but only i see this side, she dosent do it to my sis, or infront of any one but me so no one whold belave me!! :( and then she whold make my life a even more of a liveing hell...
and agin, y dose she treat me like im 9 and my 9 year old sis as if shes 17??
 
Once you are living on your own, you can do as you please. What seems of urgent importance to you now will make you laugh in a few years. Be patient. Be thankful and don't make her cry. You are the first born and your sister the "baby" you will not be treated the same; don't expect it or even want it. Get up right now, go give your mom a hug and telll her you love her. The rest doesn't matter a damn.
 
i whold if she whlodlnt think i was mad..
i jsut want to know y she dose what she dose, it defiese my logic...
i have never realy reased a finger to her, but once.. she was drunk and ranting, i told her to shut up she started pushing me and tryed to smack me, and purly out of reaction, i ..... well i didnt mean to, and one of us ended up with a bloody nose..

out of the years of abuse i have suffered, i choldnt help to take it any more :( and im finly leting it out and telling ppl i dont know, my mom has never realy abused me but verbuly... the abuse came from my ex stepd dad and my dad who i havent seen in 14 years...
 
Vietcong said:
i whold if she whlodlnt think i was mad..
i jsut want to know y she dose what she dose, it defiese my logic...
Unless she drinks alot or does drugs, you probably will never know why. I would guess that somewhere deep inside she is in pain and she releases it against you.
 
yea, she was beat up by my ex step dad too, and i know.. well since she wont know aobut me posting this.. she was raped by her grand dad at 3 years of age, but no one bleaved her, or so she said one time while a bit drunk...
so, maby i shold talk to her aobut her realsing her pent up pain and anger on me?? becus i realy cant take this any more... i realy do think now that u say it that it is this bult up pain.. but i think we need to talk...
allso, i wana thank every one on hear, u guys truly are great careing ppl.
 
Don't forget to give her a hug and tell her you love her.
 
Birdjaguar said:
Don't forget to give her a hug and tell her you love her.
i wont, but how do i start a convo aobut this?? im worried shell get pissed and start yelling at me..
like i was saying, i cant take alot if that stuff any more.. i realy ever get out of the hose or see friends, say aobut once ever 2 months, so im allways hear listing to her constant talking.. witch is allmost enfoe to make me go mad!
 
Choose a time carefully. When she's in a good mood and doesn't have to go somewhere soon. If you and she are at home most of the day together, learn to do some small thing together during which time it is possible to talk. Once you have a history of talking you can steer the conversation to topics of importance. Some possilbe lead ins:
1. Ask her if you can talk to her about somethings that are important to you.
2. Tell her you are sad you are always fighting and you'd like to find a way to make things go smoother.
3. Ask her about your dad or your step dad

Practice listening and not getting angry back if she gets angry at you. It may take several conversations. Don't rush it. If a talk seems to be taking a turn for the worse and might turn out bad, then stop and start again later. Hug her alot and tell her you love her every day.
 
I voted for "some are but some aren't"
My own parents...i can't say very much about them...cause I'm at war with them, I spend so much time away from home as possible...my own parents aren't very overprotective, all they care about me is that I have to do all the jobs in the house :S just pisses me of!!!
 
Parents are fallible, just as you are. Think about it.
 
Sometimes parents can be pretty overprotective, but in time they learn that there little boy/girl really is growing up and becoming an adult, and they deal with it. Well, thats what I tend to find where I live anyways.
 
Parents are just people who choose to give up happiness in order to procreate -

They should be encouraged to live and have fun too.
 
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