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Hello. I'm nearly 19, and I've never been on an actual "date"! Ever! This isn't to say that I've never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend) or anything like that sort, it's just I've never done the whole, movie and dinner crap. Generally I end up seeing people at shows/parties and becoming friends and then later more, but nothing much generally changes except in alone time. I definitly don't ask someone out to dinner alone because A) It's expensive and I'm broke B) I don't ever go out to dinner anyway unless my parents take me out. C) Those types of one on one formal sorta things are always too stuffy and irritable to me.

So give me your experiences on "dates"! I want to hear what they're like!
 
I have been out of the dating scene for about 5 years now (not that I was every really IN it), but i will be getting back into it shortly - any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!
 
Me too. I have a girlfriend but we don't go on "dates." In fact, the last time I saw a movie with her and then went and got a drink someplace we were still friends. I think its better. I see no reason I have to spend money to prove we're together.
 
Dates don't have to cost money. Try taking a girl to an battery farm, or a military firing range. Think of it as a challenge. :D

In all seriousness though, I've found (in my limited experience) that girls tend to prefer the unique dates (eg walking to St. Ives along the rocks) to the standard spend and sit dates (cinema, restuarant, pub etc).
 
Other than prom, I didn't go on a date until I was 22. I haven't been on a date since I was 22 either - I dated the girl for 6 months and haven't been on a date since breaking up, over a year ago. I didn't have a girlfriend before then either. In fact, I am useless for dating advice so I should just shut up.
 
Scratcher said:
If you walk from Truro to St Ives on a date then you must be desperate!
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Needed to wear down her resistances ;)

(I used to live a lot nearer St. Ives :))
 
Eran of Arcadia said:
Other than prom, I didn't go on a date until I was 22. I haven't been on a date since I was 22 either - I dated the girl for 6 months and haven't been on a date since breaking up, over a year ago. I didn't have a girlfriend before then either. In fact, I am useless for dating advice so I should just shut up.
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Technically speaking I never went on a date 'til I was 24, I had pseudo dates before then, but they weren't anything I could of said was a date, just agreeing to meet up with mutual friends. I think Dating is typically American and it's something we try and fit into our lifestyles over here, but it's not really that clear cut, we don't have to arrange dates as such to have relationships. A movie and dinner for example is not something I'm familliar with and I've never actually found need to use the word date, I guess I'm trying to say it's more grey over here, from my experience.
 
Truro is right. Uniqueness is the key but without looking cheap.

My view on dating is it's a momentum builder and high participation events....
First get the phone number.
Then a short meet up for drinks. If that works...
Then a walk along the lake. If that works then it will probably work for awhile so....
Then it's time for a participatory type dinner out like shabu shabu or fondue or a couples cooking class.

Movies don't work until she's your girlfriend.
 
Sidhe said:
Technically speaking I never went on a date 'til I was 24, I had pseudo dates before then, but they weren't anything I could of said was a date, just agreeing to meet up with mutual friends. I think Dating is typically American and it's something we try and fit into our lifestyles over here, but it's not really that clear cut, we don't have to arrange dates as such to have relationships. A movie and dinner for example is not something I'm familliar with and I've never actually found need to use the word date, I guess I'm trying to say it's more grey over here, from my experience.
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I didn't even really have pseudo-dates. I went to my junior prom with a fellow member of the track team, and my sister's senior prom with her best friend as an emergency, as well as one dance in college. None of them were really dates, it was just sort of a school activity. I have never even really "hung out" with female friends, which is sometimes used as a dateing substitute (especially in LDS culture, where they are trying to encourage exclusive dating among people my age). In fact, I have never really had any female friends.
 
I classify a date as anytime me and my girlfriend get together and do something. Be it just cuddling up on the couch watching tv or a movie together or going out for dinner. If you need advice then I guess you just talk to a girl and find out what she likes and play on that till she falls for you. Don't get real attached until you're together though. That might lead to some trouble down the road.
 
Forget "dating", just go out and do something both of you enjoy.. if it's dinner and a couple drinks @ a restaurant or pub, so be it.

If you actually enjoy spending time with the girl and she actually enjoys spending time with you - it won't really matter what you do. Just go out and do something fun - and be a gentleman. (unless she likes it rough;))
 
you guys spend wayyyy tooo much time worrying about dates.

Just go out, have fun. If a girl keeps sticking around, woohoo!

Otherwise, go have more fun

Then again, I'm practically married. But I don't act like it. I act like I'm single.
 
I go to the movies put my arm around her and typically make out in the back row within about 5 minutes of the movie. I usually pick movies that have been out for a while to ensure there will be less people. Then we go out to dinner somewhere and eat. Then make out in the car for a while. Then I take her home:lol:. though i probably wouldn't recomend trying that on the first date but if she lets you then my hats off to you:hatsoff:
 
Dates are crap. A waste of money personally. If I want to get to know a girl I'll invite her to place and we'll watch a movie on my laptop or walk on the beach. Hanging out with someone or even doing errands with them is much more fun than dating. I'd rather do laundry with a girl I like than play the "getting to know you" game at some pretentious restaurant.

In other words, you're not missing out. :)
 
Dates are great! I love dates! They are so tasty! I keep a bowl of them on my table!......Not realy

I've never done the traditional date thing. It always seemed silly.
 
skadistic said:
Dates are great! I love dates! They are so tasty! I keep a bowl of them on my table!......Not realy
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Dates are pretty good. The other day I got theis variety grown in Arizona called Black Spnix dates. They were quite good. :)
 
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