What's wrong with Toku? I like protective leaders. Monty is a nice neighbor, he tends to found a religion and become friend after DOW. Stone and Marble, I never care about them. Oracle is essential a no resource wonder. Is coastal start satisfy your forests requirement? BTW, I do care about Oil and Gold.
I do reload in every winning game I have played!

Because I am not able to finish any game in one session, so I save and reload in ~2 hours. Is that a problem? At least I have played many Game of Month this way.
I saw you complained very often about luck. I have some suggestions for you.
Dealing with deity DOW in any stage is the basic kill to play deity games.
Don't easily question about things that you have never tried. I used pure mount units for war when most of the players were still favoring cannon and artillery. People also felt strange when I mentioned the cavalry and bomber combo. Have you played AW and deity team game in naturally maps? Have you played map full of warmongers? See Dirk's signature? Try the 2nd one if you have interest, that's also a Toku game.