Don't Tell the Bride!

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For those of you not in the UK (or don't watch this appallingly bad programme), there is a programme on BBC3 called 'Don't Tell the Bride'. The concept is simple:

- 2 people want to get married
- They get given £12,000
- Man has to organise the whole wedding in 3 weeks, on this budget
- Woman to disappear, have no say in wedding plans and not be in contact with hubbie for 3 weeks

I have, quite sadly, become quite obsessed with this programme. Not only does it make me think what I'd want at my own wedding, but it also makes me question people's sanity as to WHY they want, lets say, a snow themed wedding in the middle of July.

However much I love it, I ALWAYS say I'd never go on the program or do something like that. Not because I don't trust hubbie-to-be to choose every single detail of my wedding, but mostly because a) I don't think £12,000 is enough, b) I want to be able to be involved in the organization and c) I don't want my wedding documented on tv!

BUT - would you do this? I can see the benefits of it if you don't have the money to put on your wedding, but would you be comfortable organising every single detail of your wedding without your wife/husband's say so? And do you even know what kind of thing you'd want at your wedding? If you've already had your wedding, would you have been happy to not be involved in ANY of the planning?

As you can see, I have a lot of time on my hands this weekend! :p
 
a) I don't think £12,000 is enough,
b) I want to be able to be involved in the organization decide everything
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I love you. :love:

Also, that you wouldn't want to be part of a reality TV show is a minimum test of intelligence. I'm glad you passed. ;)

But to also answer your questions:
Of course I wouldn't put my life on display for all to see. And I could plan a whole wedding, but if I'm ever getting married it's because the girl I'm with wants to, so I'm pretty sure she would want to have a say in it run it all (very, very few girls do not take an interest in their own wedding). Since I'd like her to be happy, I'm pretty sure I'd want to let her.

As for how I'd like my wedding to be? That's a bridge to cross when I come to it. The price of it would depend on how much disposable money I have. For now, I'd have to find a girl I'd be willing to marry, and of course I'd have to find a reason to marry. I'm thinking of it though, as per my previous thread.
 
He's already told me the wedding is to be medieval themed :p
 
£12,000...not enough? :eek: I don't understand the concept of expensive weddings (I understand that £12k weddings aren't all that out of the ordinary, but I just don't see why that's the case, other than successful industry building; I also don't understand things like engagement presents). Sure, you want it to be a nice day, but there are plenty of ways to organise a cheaper nice day! Why splash so much cash when you could put it into a better honeymoon (for instance) instead? So putting aside the fact that having it documented for a reality TV show would kinda suck, surely being given such a ridiculously large sum of money to plan one ceremony is a good deal.
 
Boundless said:
He's already told me the wedding is to be medieval themed :p
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Ooooooohhhh. Is it really happening? Congrats ?

My partner and I were invited to be on a forerunner to the reality shows back in the 80s.
A friend was a producer.

We declined.

Haven't seen him much recently, which figures, I guess.

Haven't got married. But would rather get married than appear on a reality show.
 
I don't really see the point in spending so much money on a wedding when if you live in a western country chances are it won't be the - wedding of a lifetime - but one of at least 2.
 
In most Eastern countries divorce is not nearly as common. I'm not arguing that this is necessarily better.
 
12,000 pounds wouldn't buy you a crappy wedding, much less a good one.

This show sounds like another of the many reality shows that appeals to women's vanity. Wedding planning is an industry that only exists to cater to vanity alone, as it is all about the show and certainly not about the marriage itself. Here we have "Say Yes to the Dress", a show about wedding dress shopping. What is also rather amusing is how much money is wasted in the process. For the price of a wedding, a young couple can go on a lavish honeymoon, buy a car, and put a down payment on a house, rather than be set-back for life.
 
Camikaze said:
£12,000...not enough? :eek: I don't understand the concept of expensive weddings (I understand that £12k weddings aren't all that out of the ordinary, but I just don't see why that's the case, other than successful industry building; I also don't understand things like engagement presents). Sure, you want it to be a nice day, but there are plenty of ways to organise a cheaper nice day! Why splash so much cash when you could put it into a better honeymoon (for instance) instead? So putting aside the fact that having it documented for a reality TV show would kinda suck, surely being given such a ridiculously large sum of money to plan one ceremony is a good deal.
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I really can't see myself blowing $20k on a wedding. I know things are expensive b/c it's for a wedding, but where does all that money go!?
 
bathsheba666 said:
Ooooooohhhh. Is it really happening? Congrats ?

My partner and I were invited to be on a forerunner to the reality shows back in the 80s.
A friend was a producer.

We declined.

Haven't seen him much recently, which figures, I guess.

Haven't got married. But would rather get married than appear on a reality show.
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Lol oh Jesus no congratulations are definitely not in order. I should probably clear that one up before rumours start and he thinks I'm secretly planning our engagement. Plus I would never ask someone to marry me :p it is the man's job!

Nanocyborgasm said:
12,000 pounds wouldn't buy you a crappy wedding, much less a good one.

This show sounds like another of the many reality shows that appeals to women's vanity. Wedding planning is an industry that only exists to cater to vanity alone, as it is all about the show and certainly not about the marriage itself. Here we have "Say Yes to the Dress", a show about wedding dress shopping. What is also rather amusing is how much money is wasted in the process. For the price of a wedding, a young couple can go on a lavish honeymoon, buy a car, and put a down payment on a house, rather than be set-back for life.
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I totally agree that I think there are better ways to spend your money than on the wedding day, but I think if you were to have the wedding day that you actually WANTED, the realization is that it would be more than £12,000. A dress alone is £1,000!!!
 
mangxema said:
I really can't see myself blowing $20k on a wedding. I know things are expensive b/c it's for a wedding, but where does all that money go!?
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Well, if you are gonna do it big, you will do it over several days at a hotel place somewhere out in the country. All the overnights will cost you big, so I guess the accomodation will be the biggest budget share. This if of course based on the normal Hollywood wedding ;)

My main reason not to do it would probably be the TV thingy. I really don't want it to be shown to the whole TV nation...
 
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