A'AbarachAmadan said:
Sorry, wrote too fast. Meant that you could be just one and not the others, but you could also be all three. I don't think they are that related. I know people that are across the spectrum from about 10/10/10 to 90/90/90. I'm 90/20/80.
I don't think they are necessarily related (espeically not in youth) but I do feel like over time a high amount of any one of them (intelligence, wisdom or happiness) should help you grow stronger in one or both of the others.
A'AbarachAmadan said:
I'd say ones' legacy. For example if you unexpectantly have a child, but raising a child doesn't make you happy, then I still think it is more important to meet your responsibilities and raise that child well than abandon the child for a life that makes you happier.
I imagine giving up a child for a temporary feeling of relief would be a rather trite and short lived form of happiness. I definitely think one should be responsible in raising their child no matter how they feel at any particular moment but I do imagine (I can only imagine not yet having kids) that many of the greatest joys in life come from the interactions one can have with one's children. I think nature has pretty much programmed us that way.
A'AbarachAmadan said:
Or alternatively I'm sure most people in the US didn't want to fight in WWII, but many gave up their own personal happiness, and even their lives, for the greater good of the world. I'd say both of those are FAR more important than personal happiness.
Hmm, I won't touch on the necessity of US involvement in WW II. I will note however that you seem to infer that following "the call of duty" and giving up of certain comforts will necessarily lead to unhappiness. Well I don't doubt that being in a war can be perhaps the most miserable of experiences at times I imagine the commradary one feels with one's fellow solidiers as well as the feeling that one is helping the world (freeing oppressed people, whatever) is a pretty magical one that many soliders perhaps have difficulty finding in everyday mundane civilian life.
My point is that I don't think making a sacrifice to others necessitates feeling worse. In fact if people would realize that helping others and giving up a little bit of numbing comfort could actually be a joyous experience (though I don't support war per-se at the optimal way to do this) more people would do it, and more often.
Heretic_Cata said:
I used to be smarter when i was younger. But that (aprox) 5 year depression i had a while ago really couldn't have had any good effects in this area.
Nowadays i have periodic depressions - one day yes, a few days no. But even without a depression i don't succede in having a positive state, i have a neutral or positive-ish state at best.
I'm not saying that i am a genius, i am just saying that negative states certainly won't help you in problems requireing thinking to much. Think that this could happen every single day and what do you get ? ...
Hey man! I feel for you. I suffered with a lot of major depression at worst and discouragement at best thruout my adolesence.
There are a lot of books out there that might be able to help you. Check (or order to your local library) - The Strangest Secret (Earl Nightengale), Happiness is a choice (Barry Neil Kauffman), anythng by Brian Tracy or Anthony Robbins would be good.
PM me if you like or have questions.
taillesskangaru said:
The two conditions may be able to co-exist but if they can't "maintain a positive emotional state", then I would not consider themselves smart.
I consider a smart person to be a person who fits in well in society. Social skills and overall state of mind is much more important than academic achievements. Also, if a person is a genius but have no optimism, no positive emotions then he/she cannot utilise his/her knowledge at its full potential.
Interesting. I would tend to agree. Except perhaps for the "fits into society" bit. I think a person can make a large difference and be happy AND successful without necessarily "fitting in" with the mainstream. And since the mainstream (like any stream) is constantly flowing anyway what does it matter? As long you can find your niche with a few people. Shoot, Gandhi didn't exactally fit with the mainstream, however he did manage to gain it's respect and even alter it's a course a bit. To me that's more impressinve than just fitting in.
Hakim said:
Perhaps it's a cultural difference between US/elsewhere and Europe/elsewhere, but I've always associated happiness with stupidness.
Gotta say that "maintain a positive emotional state" sounds a bit like pretending.
I think the happiness = stupidness is one of the biggest (& perhaps most damaging) cultural myths prevelant in the West. In my experience being happy helps me succeed and achieve more while being depressed or negative leads to less impressive results. It is possible to be a happy realist. May be a challenge but what worthy goal isn't?
Nah, that would be "feigning a positive emotional state". In the end, only you know if you're happy or not so what's the point of pretending?
downwithgravity said:
Of course. The more you know, the more you realize you don't know anything at all, and the more there is to be unhappy about.
Hmm, there's a similar quote by Eienstein I thinkg - "The more I learn, the more I realize I don't know, the more I realize I don't know, the more I want to learn". The spin you put on it seems a bit inaccurate (and a bit demotavating). When you learn something you don't know "nothing at all" you know more than before. The fact that there is still much more to learn can be exciting, not depressing (like in learning to play a complex computer game, you can enjoy it at every step and be glad there is still as yet a deeper appreciation and mastery you could still possess). Life is like a really long story (where you can control much of the outcome), it only sucks if the hero is not progressing anywhere or learning anything. He certainly won't know it all by the end but chances are he will have mastered some of the pertinent and found a method to continue growing and learning indefinitely by the end (seems to me like the only way to truly "live happily ever after").