LucyDuke
staring at the clock
As others have said, not necessarily.And while I think I mostly agree with you, I think you underestimate the ability of human being's to shape who, and how, they're sexually attracted to someone. It's not like a light switch that can be turned on and off, but I do think you can restrict, or at least restrain, your sexual attraction to someone, and not just your sexual interaction with them. Have you really never forced yourself to not be attracted to someone that you didn't think you should?
And yes, I realize this is kind of tangential to the actual thread topic. I just find it interesting.
Not necessarily what? Everything you quoted included a "mostly" modifier, which indicates that I meant not necessarily, just mostly, except the last bit, which I'm certain you don't disagree with.
I do think you can repress your desires, absolutely. That's not the same as choosing not to have those desires. Personally I can't think of a single occasion on which I was attracted to someone and was able to erase that attraction. I've been able to overcome it, to set it aside and ignore it, but not make it not so. Perhaps I've just got less willpower or something than y'all, but I can't control what turns me on.
And that's exactly the thread topic, I think. If asexuality is not a choice, it's because we don't pick our sexual desires. If it is a choice, it's because we do pick our sexual desires. (At least, whether to have them.) There's a possibility that asexuality is not a choice and we do pick our sexual desires and an asexual person simply hasn't chosen anything to get hot for, but given that the overwhelming majority of the human population does get hot for something, and that that something is usually pretty mundane, and that none of us remember making that choice, I find that very unlikely.
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Or perhaps get them both from either the mom or the dad? So that can make one think on how the argument about male role models doen't necessarily come in play for shaping the man's libido.
