Lookin for Reality Show Love: A Guy I Know On The Virgin Diaries"

[downtown]

Yeah, I don't buy the stimga. For one, you can be a totally normal person and be a virgin in your 20s or 30s (My wife and I waited, and we're both attractive and well adjusted people). You can also be a total nerd and get laid.

The confidence thing is certainly the keeper. I agree with Wily, there is a big difference between being self-deprecating and turning into the skid (a good thing), and desperation (what we see in the video). Desperation is not attractive.

 

[warpus]

The thing is that you shouldn't even be blaming anyone. I mean, if you want to have sex, go out and try to have it. Sitting at home and complaining about it isn't going to get you laid.

 

[sophie]

Plus, people with high intelligence, or who even slightly look like they have high intelligence (I don't know how intelligent or nerdy the guy in the video actually is), and those who even look nerdy or geeky, are universally shunned, and so forth.

Yeah, this is definitely not true.

 

[capslock]

I respect adults who abstain from sex. It is a very difficult thing to do. I have 2 close friends who did/are doing so until marriage. One has since been married, the other is still a virgin. It is remarkable that he has the will power to do so.

Now, this guy is in the show is a dufus and is obviously not abstaining by choice, but as a Mormon, shouldn't he have been set up and married long ago? All my Mormon friends from high school got Married ricky tick and have nice families now. Maybe its his parents fault for not pushing him out and forcing him to grow up?

 

[Disgustipated]

What about living in your parent's basement? Is that hawt?

It's better than living in the bedroom adjacent to your parents bedroom.

 

[Disgustipated]

When making out with a woman, don't take off her clothes or lead her into the bedroom. Instead, keep making out with her, on your couch, until she drags you into the bedroom.

No, women like men to take the lead. I've never had a woman drag me into the bedroom. My advice is to just rip her clothes off and carry her in the bedroom. If she says no, you should put her down though. I've ripped several clothing items on my gf.

I actually am desperate, but I found a woman who likes my desperation. I think women are flattered that you want to bang them so much, you'll rip their clothes off.

 

[The_J]

After watching that video I feel vastly superior .

Several of my friends think this is beyond stupid...that his desperation is now for the entire world to see, the shtick isn't funny, it makes our church look bad, and the dude is creepy. Others think that it's hillarious, and the perfect person should like him for who he is...a goofball.

For the record, I think this guy is quite funny in real life, but also comes across as creepy.

The modern version of a circus or a freak show.
The people want to watch embarrassement and public humilation, since public decapitation isn't allowed anymore.

What do you think about this? Would you ever go on a reality show?

Confirm to the world that I'm a loser? Hell, no.

Would you go on a date with somebody who had been on a reality show?

I'm pretty sure that the answer here is dependent on the answer to the question before. Because I don't think most people who'd never go there would have the right attitude to date a person who went there.
Or you're dumb. Then maybe.

What if their show was like this? What strategy should this guy use to meet chicks?

Everything else besides going on a reality show. Really.

 

[Formaldehyde]

Personally, I can't imagine staying a virgin until marriage, much less not taking a "try before you buy" approach. I can only imagine that sex simply doesn't mean as much to others as it does to me, and that there are a lot of divorces over simple sexual incompatibility.

I also think not having legalized prostitution adds a lot to the emotional trauma in the US. While getting laid isn't anything like having a relationship with someone, I can't help but think that getting some direct experience with the opposite sex in this regard would drastically help in a lot of these cases. My advice to any male who has not had sex but wishes to do so would be to take a week's vacation in Amsterdam. The only downside is that you might not even want to come back to such a backward sexually repressive country.

 

[wilycoyote]

Personally, I can't imagine staying a virgin until marriage, much less not taking a "try before you buy" approach. I can only imagine that sex simply doesn't mean as much to others as it does to me, and that there are a lot of divorces over simple sexual incompatibility.

I also think not having legalized prostitution adds a lot to the emotional trauma in the US. While getting laid isn't anything like having a relationship with someone, I can't help but think that getting some direct experience with the opposite sex in this regard would drastically help in a lot of these cases. My advice to any male who has not had sex but wishes to do so would be to take a week's vacation in Amsterdam. The only downside is that you might not even want to come back to such a backward sexually repressive country.

Or just go to college. I doubt someone that wanted to have sex could go more than a week without blindly stumbling into someone's bed.

 

[LucyDuke]

What about living in your parent's basement? Is that hawt?

Why do I even know that before I know I want to see you again? It's not hawt, but it doesn't have to be.

No, women like men to take the lead. I've never had a woman drag me into the bedroom. My advice is to just rip her clothes off and carry her in the bedroom. If she says no, you should put her down though. I've ripped several clothing items on my gf.

I actually am desperate, but I found a woman who likes my desperation. I think women are flattered that you want to bang them so much, you'll rip their clothes off.

No, that's creepy. You've never been dragged into the bedroom because nobody's ever been hot enough for you to do it, not because women don't do it. A dude being so horny he breaks things is not flattering, it's embarrassing. Control yourself.

Personally, I can't imagine staying a virgin until marriage, much less not taking a "try before you buy" approach. I can only imagine that sex simply doesn't mean as much to others as it does to me, and that there are a lot of divorces over simple sexual incompatibility.

It has (had?) no appeal to me either but I respect it. Assumptions like "must not care about sex" based on one thing like that are just wrong. It's like you're trying to speak to the institution but all you end up doing is being really rude to people who are doing what they sincerely believe is the right thing for them to do.

 

[Formaldehyde]

I think it clearly dates back to the days of no generally available means of contraception when having sex typically meant a shotgun marriage, a temporary stay in a convent, or an abortion in an alleyway. I'm certainly glad I didn't live in that period. Having the AIDs epidemic essentially ruin the sexual revolution was bad enough.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

No, that's creepy. You've never been dragged into the bedroom because nobody's ever been hot enough for you to do it, not because women don't do it. A dude being so horny he breaks things is not flattering, it's embarrassing. Control yourself.

Plus, the guy doing it will probably (or not, depending on the woman) get accused of rape or attempted rape. This isn't Hollywood.

 

[MjM]

It's better than living in the bedroom adjacent to your parents bedroom.

That's like saying being covered in dog crap is better than being covered in elephant crap.

You smell either way.

 

[LucyDuke]

I think it clearly dates back to the days of no generally available means of contraception when having sex typically meant a shotgun marriage or an abortion in an alleyway. I'm certainly glad I didn't live in that period. Having the AIDs epidemic essentially ruin the sexual revolution was bad enough.

Who cares where it comes from? You don't need to be a jerk because you disagree.

Plus, the guy doing it will probably (or not, depending on the woman) get accused of rape or attempted rape. This isn't Hollywood.

Nor is it a Lifetime Television Movie.

 

[sophie]

No, women like men to take the lead. I've never had a woman drag me into the bedroom.

Really? That's a shame man, you're really missing out. It's pretty great.

 

[JollyRoger]

I've never had a woman drag me into the bedroom.

My secret is to unchain her from the kitchen first.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Having the AIDs epidemic essentially ruin the sexual revolution was bad enough.

That was God's way of enforcing his prudishness on the world.

 

[BvBPL]

No, women like men to take the lead. I've never had a woman drag me into the bedroom. My advice is to just rip her clothes off and carry her in the bedroom. If she says no, you should put her down though. I've ripped several clothing items on my gf.

I actually am desperate, but I found a woman who likes my desperation. I think women are flattered that you want to bang them so much, you'll rip their clothes off.

One problem that may confront guys like Skippy is the guy moving to quickly because he's not familiar with subtle cues. If he relaxes and let's her make the first move he wouldn't get pushed away.

 

[Formaldehyde]

Who cares where it comes from? You don't need to be a jerk because you disagree.

I really don't care what people do in their own private lives just as long as they don't try to force those morals on everybody else. That is what is being a "jerk" to me, not simply stating my own opinions on my own sexuality, and what is actually commonplace for most adults.

BTW I stated they likely don't care as much about sex as I do, not that they didn't care about it. For me, there was no question at all about not waiting until I got married. I had sex with the first girl who was willing to do so, and almost every single one since then. And I can say with great assurance it was essentially the same way with nearly all my friends and acquaintances as well. I feel I was quite fortunate to grow up during the sexual revolution when extremely few decided to be chaste.

If someone wants to wait until they get married it is certainly none of my business. More power to them. But it certainly wouldn't be my choice. I can't even imagine doing so.

 

[wilycoyote]

One problem that may confront guys like Skippy is the guy moving to quickly because he's not familiar with subtle cues. If he relaxes and let's her make the first move he wouldn't get pushed away.

I'm not sure I entirely agree. I mean nothing sexist by this, but in my experience, girls will give you subtle cues that they are interested in you (such as laughing at things you say that aren't particularly funny, finding reasons to brush up against your hands or legs), but will actually require the guy to make the first overt move (stating interest/asking the woman out). If you force her to make the first move, she may think you are not interested or not confident.

Though, clearly, he is too "aggressive." Those shirts are a HORRIBLE idea.