Marriage

[CaptainF]

I think marriage is kinda outdated.

 

[Till]

Tommyrot! Edwin Odeisseron had it on the cards with plenty of options, and Tanis wasn't in lockstep with Laurana. The noted mix is one of the great combinations.

I know Edwin "Why do i waste my time with you worthless maggots" Odeisseron, but who are Tanis and Laurana?
As for the OP, i think trust and love in this order are most important.

 

[Simon Darkshade]

Dragonlance, Dragonlance, I see Tika's underpants.

 

[Scratcher]

Ideally the major factor should be love.

In reality the major factor is conformity, either religeous or social.

I have been together with my girlfriend for 11 years now. During this time time I have lived a life of a "married" man. I love her dearly, never ever play away, and treat her with the love and respect she deserves. The reason we have never married is that neither of us are at all religeous and have enjoyed our relationship based on our values and respect for each other.

But, unfortunately, as time goes by, not being married makes life more complex. I travel around the world for work. Not all countries are as accepting to cohabitating couples. It is more comlplex for financial reasons (medical insurance, tax, even inheritence).

So, in my opinion, marriage is more of a social/ religeous necessity, but if it is based on true love then you are on the right path.

 

[The Last Conformist]

Money.

I don't care terribly much for tradition, even less for religion, and love hopefully isn't predicated on ink on paper. The financial benefits of formal marriage are, however.

 

[Scratcher]

^ How shallow!

Well, good luck to you sir. I hope you meet the girl of your dream$!

 

[CaptainF]

Money.

I don't care terribly much for tradition, even less for religion, and love hopefully isn't predicated on ink on paper. The financial benefits of formal marriage are, however.

Its totally true.

A government document won't make anyone loved more than they were.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

But the question is, Scratcher, why do you seem unwilling to make a ceremony of formal commitment to each other? Marriage is more than just a piece of paper; it is a way of showing everyone that the two of you intend to be with each other the rest of your lives. Weddings aren't just for the participants but for everyone they know as well.

 

[Yorgos]

Option five. Marriage is useless, unless you want your kids to be legaly recognised. If two people want to live together, be it love, financial reasons, or anything else, they don't have to get married.

 

[Scratcher]

@Eran of Arcadia,

Who said I am (or we are) unwilling to get married. We have just not got married for social (including family pressures, not that they exist in our case) or religeous reasons. We have not married because we did not feel we had to do so to formalise our love for each other. But, as time goes by, it would certainly make our lives easier.

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[Eran of Arcadia]

Well, basically, if it means nothing to you (I don't see why it wouldn't; my brother, an atheist as much as anyone, was happy to be married) it at least has a meaning to others. It may be a purely social convention but I don't see what is outdated about it. Or have humans suddenly stopped being inherently monogamous?

I am not criticizing you, by the way; this is more a general response to those who say that marriage has no meaning at all.

 

[silver 2039]

Marriage is a socio-religous ceremony. It gives you tax benefits. Ideally it should be for love. Often it is not.

Marriage is unessecary, people who love each other do not need this socio-religous ceremenoy to formalies their commitment or wahtever. Its rather pointless unless you're looking for a tax break.

 

[Scratcher]

I think I clearly stated I was monogomous in my relationship. I also have no problems with marriage, and I also stated, it should be ideally based on love. I don't think I said that marriage means nothing to me either! Please re-read my posts.

I am personally not married but live a "fully" married life.

I did not feel critised by your post in any way.

 

[Methos]

@Scratcher: Is there a Common Law type of marriage in your state? I might be saying that wrong.

 

[The Last Conformist]

^ How shallow!

How am I being shallow, exactly? For thinking that love isn't something forged by a brief ceremony and an a signature on a piece of paper?

 

[Methos]

BTW, common law marriage ( I did say it correctly) can be better explained in the Demystifying Common Law Marriages. At the bottom of that page is a list of all states that accept Common Law Marriages. Very interesting read.

 

[Scratcher]

@ Methos,

In my state? What do you mean....State of insanity? Or do you assume I am from the US?

Seriously, I am not from the US and I travel from country to country for my work (I am a construction engineer) and therefore a "Common Law marriage" does not exist. So, in our particular case, being married would be benificial for reasons of travel, finance, insurance, work/residents permits, tax breaks, and a multitude of other obscure issues. I would never consider getting married specifically for any one of these reasons.

 

[Methos]

@ Methos,
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Or do you assume I am from the US?

My apologies for my assumption.

 

[Scratcher]

Originally posted by The non conformist

How am I being shallow, exactly? For thinking that love isn't something forged by a brief ceremony and an a signature on a piece of paper?

You state you primary reason to get married is money. How shallow is that!
If you have ever truely been in love then you would know that a piece of paper, or a wedding ceremony, is not worth a piece of crap. At the end of the day, love is what matters.

 

[GenMarshall]

Love, between a man and a woman is a requierment for marriage.