Moocher friends....

Bugfatty300

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You know. Most of us have one or two in our life.

This guy is one of the worst I'll probably ever have. Me and this other guy were pretty much his only friends.

When ever we went somewhere with other friends, we were never able to eat because he never had money and I actually paid for his food several times. And its not like he is poor. His dad works for the state is a landlord and owns about 6 or 7 running cars. This one time I paid 8 bucks for him just so we could eat at this Chinese restaurant, after that we went to a Sam Goody's where he purchased a $16 Radiohead CD. And thats only the beginning. :mad: Needless to say I was little angry. A little. ;) I nearly forced to then and there to pay me back. Which he did.

I should have stopped hanging out with him then and there and I probably should have laid the WWF smack-down on his ass for basicly stealing my money but since I'm such a push-over I would just get super p.o.ed and later forget about it.

One time this past March, him, me, my girlfriend and another friend of ours went to see a movie in Boone, NC. He drove us in his dad's car. When we got there we spent nearly $10 each to see the movie. It started at 8:00 and by 8:45 he wanted to go home. :rolleyes: I'm not kidding. He claimed that he had to be home by 9:00 or his dad was going to get mad at him or something. And its not like we persuaded him to take us there. The whole the thing was his idea. We told him off and said he could leave anytime he wanted to and that we would find a ride. He didn't leave. He just sat there and whined the rest of the movie.

His other temper tantrums took place at my or my other friends house. Our stupid weekly tradition is to go to each other's house at dusk and stay up to around 8:00 AM getting high and playing playstation and then passing-out in my living room. More than once did he attend and everything would seem fine until around 2:00 or 3:00 AM, (thats when his dad said he had to be home apparently.) He never told me or anything, he just said this out of the blue. I wouldn't have cared except that he had no ride of his own then and wanted me to take him home. Obviously I would be sleepy and stoned so I’d refused to sneak out and steal my moms car at 3 AM just to take him home. After the second time I never let come over unless I knew he had a ride.

And he stole stuff. You know. He would take stuff that he thought I wouldn't notice. For instance I have a crap load of DVDs and when ever he came over he would take one or two out of the pile and apparently he didn't think I would notice them missing. But I knew because I'm quite a stickler about my DVDs and when I asked him about it he denied it but even when I went house and found them plainly sitting on his coffee table, he would say that I let him barrow it. :mad: He seemed to have thought I was an idiot as well as push-over.

At first it just incredibly annoying since I got the DVD back sooner or later. But then it got serious. He stole $20 out my car ashtray and a few weeks ago my Scarface poster that was rolled up behind my entertainment center disappeared. I never thought he would be so bold to have taken that, and to this day I never knew how he took it.

After that I stopped hanging out with him for good and now we only talk at school but since then I haven’t invited him to my house since. His other friend has since done the same for similar reasons.

That about does my rant for now. I’d just like to know if anybody has ever known someone like this or had the misfortune of having them as a friend? Is there any psychiatrists out there who can explain to me why and how people have the nerve to behave this way?
 
That guy sounds really annoying. But he is nothing compared to my younger brother.

I've had several friends like that btw.
 
i remeber a friend like that, years ago when i was your age probably

the thing was, he stole, from everyone and everywhere, he didnt mooch

all the things he stole from me were worth, less than 5 bucks put together, so he didnt steal big, but it was annoying

one day, i just didnt let him come to my house, i told him to leave at the door
which was hard actually, since besides the stealing, he was a really nice guy, and fun to hang out with
 
He wouldn't have made it friend status. Once, confronted. Twice, gone.

I've been lucky with my friends. In my inner circle we've all gone out of our way to support each other.
 
Almost sounds like he's mentally ill (there's probably a better word for it).

I've had work colleagues blowing me on money. My trainer borrowed £20, and every time I asked for it she just postponed it. After a while she had the guts to tell me off for even asking her for it, and then she just left for another city. I met her again 2 months later, and she still wouldn't give me the money. I've had a few more similar stories as well, so my new rule is to never lend anyone money unless I've got some kind of hold on them...

Dón't know about friends stealing... Not friends anymore I guess.
 
There is a word for it. Kleptomania.

My friends and I operate in a Marxist fashion. From each according to his ability, to each according to his need. When you trust everyone in the system, it works perfectly. If you are able to provide weed or booze or something, do so. If you need a ride home, someone sober will give you one. If they need gas money to do it, give it to them. If, because they are sober they have undrunk booze, they give it up. If someone has forgotten their wallet at the movies, someone else pay for their ticket. No one keeps score of who owes whom what. It doesn't really matter that someone owes you something if you are certain that if you are in need they will help you.
 
Bugfatty300 said:
I’d just like to know if anybody has ever known someone like this or had the misfortune of having them as a friend?
No.
Not for any long, at least.
I mean, if someone steal from me, is a parasite, think I'm an idiot, try to abuse me and is overall a pain in the bottom, I (breaking news) don't hang with him nor call him "friend".
 
Yeah, to consider someone like that a friend means one thing- you don't have enough real friends. Such a wicked wicked person would not last a single night with my clique.
 
I tend to be generous among my friends. I get less generous very quickly when I feel that my generosity is being taken advantage of. It has only happened once, though. If I thought someone had taken a DVD or poster or something I'd probably ask them "hey, do you still have that ____ I lent you?" If they say they do, then I ask them to return it and they become persona non grata. If they say they don't, I keep an eye on things and the next time it happens I ask again they don't get the benefit of the doubt.

No clue about the psychology behind it, though.
 
There's someone that owes me ~$1 Billion from fifth grade... I lent him fifty cents with 5% interest each day... :lol:

I agree with LLXerxes. You need to confront him.
 
Tomoyo said:
There's someone that owes me ~$1 Billion from fifth grade... I lent him fifty cents with 5% interest each day... :lol:

I agree with LLXerxes. You need to confront him.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but even compounding continuously, he would only owe you a little more than 61 cents.
 
All of my friends are like that, I give them gum every other day, or whenever they ask for it, and they won't let me sit at thier table at lunch so I sit there anyway. It's not even like I talk to them or anything, I just eat quietly and mind my own.
Not only that, but this other kid, I loaned him a frickin' 3 dollar pen, still in perfect condition, he never returned it. Then when English class comes along, and we have to write in pen, I realize that I loaned him my only working pen, and I had to borrow a pen from some other kid.
And don't even get me started about this girl on my bus. I give her gum too every time she asks, except one day I forgot to bring some. So I tell her I don't have any, as thanks, she calls me a liar and refuses to talk to me! [pissed]
I don't even know why I'm so nice :shakehead
 
umm. . . you're getting taken advantage of because people know that they can walk all over you, and don't have to do you any favors in return. They're not your friends. And I dont't just meant that in a "you should stop hanging out with them" sense, I mean that those people probably think you are a loser.
 
I have never experienced this. Of course, I live in a richer part of town, and money is never really an issue. For the most part, we are fine for money, and we dun drink, or get stoned.

I do have one friend that perhaps has less then the average person, so we help him out when he needs it, but that is rare. Of course, me and my friends have yet to do anything for awhile, thanks to University, and other such nuisances.

It sounds like he has an illness. Sounds bad, any way you hack it. Obssessive-Compulsive disorder or something.
 
I have a friend that sort of only asks for help on homework and stuff.

in biology class, my usual group to do labs is him, me, and another genius kid. so, you see were this is going. odd thing is, he is smart, but just forgets waaay too much. usually at the day of a test, he would say "we're having a test today?!?!?"

I don't mind much, but simmilar to that case.
 
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