So there's a guy at my college that wants to get in a fight with me...

[caketastydelish]

It all started Tuesday, in Spanish class. We were playing Jepoardy in Spanish, and I was partnered up in his group, and I sat next to him.

I was telling him something, and he said. "You are yelling at me. Don't you ever do that again." (I wasn't yelling.) Then he went on to cuss me out several times and continue being very angry. I told him I couldn't tell if he was being serious or joking. He told me that he was (explicit) serious.

I told him to piss off. Right after that he was trying to arrange a fight between us, and told me I "better run". I ignored him.

After class was over I waited for everyone else to leave the room, and then I told the teacher about what he said, and she promised to take care of it.

I went to the Spanish club after class (not the same as spanish class) and about 15 minutes after class ended I got a text from a number I've never seen before saying "where you at" which obviously already makes me think it's him, but especially because he talks in terrible English.

Later that day I called my phone company and got his number blocked from being able to call me or text me.

The next day I saw him was Thursday. I was sitting with my friends out of class, when he passed by talking to some other guy, and he pointed at me, saying "I was going to whip that guys (explicit) the other day."

I had already told my friends about this guy and when I pointed him out one of them followed him down the hall and I told him don't start a fight with him.

After Spanish class on Thursday as I was waiting for the bus to pick me up, I stood in front of the book store because it is supervised by employes of the college, and therefore it would be safe. Sure enough I saw him passing by where I normally stand, and he tried to get my attention a few times, although I ignored him.

So I don't see this guy getting out of my life any time soon. I already reported him to the teacher, but apparently whatever she did didn't work. What do you suggest I do?

Serious comments only please. I am aware there are places for jokes on this forum but this thread is not one of them.

 

[kochman]

Completely and totally ignore him, no matter what.
It's like pretending to be dead when (certain types of) bears come after you... they lose interest if you are limp.

If he lays a finger on you, police.

Alternatively, if he directly threatens you, that is "assault", see if the cops are interested? Sometimes they aren't... they have bigger fish to fry, unfortunately.

 

[Joecoolyo]

Maybe talk to a higher up? A consular, principle, dean, etc.

They might have more say than the teacher in getting kids in line.

 

[shadowplay]

Go to the highest authority in your school and ask for a moment to speak with them priviately and explain the situation. If that fails, you may need to get police involved - you can't have someone harassing you and threatening violence.

 

[Whiskey_Lord]

Tell him to go back to the middle school playground where that childish crap belongs.

Serious comment.

 

[shadowplay]

No, that's exactly the sort of thing you don't want to do. You don't want to incite him further - he's already shown himself to be nuts.

Your only perogative at this point in this situation is protecting yourself. Mouthing off does not achieve that end. Do not engage him in any way.

 

[caketastydelish]

Completely and totally ignore him, no matter what.
It's like pretending to be dead when (certain types of) bears come after you... they lose interest if you are limp.

If he lays a finger on you, police.

Alternatively, if he directly threatens you, that is "assault", see if the cops are interested? Sometimes they aren't... they have bigger fish to fry, unfortunately.

He has already threatened me, that was in Spanish on Tuesday. Notifying the police may be a good idea.

Maybe talk to a higher up? A consular, principle, dean, etc.

They might have more say than the teacher in getting kids in line.

I just might do that.

Go to the highest authority in your school and ask for a moment to speak with them priviately and explain the situation. If that fails, you may need to get police involved - you can't have someone harassing you and threatening violence.

Yes, speaking to the dean as well sounds like a plan. I'm only deciding as to go ahead and speak to the dean next Tuesday, or to wait until the next time he gives me any trouble.

edit: @whiskeylord: While you have a valid point that his behavior belongs on the middle school playground, telling him that would not make things any better for me.

 

[Whiskey_Lord]

I'm just gob-smacked by the fact that this is taking place in college. How the hell do people like this even get admitted?

 

[sophie]

Tell him to go back to the middle school playground where that childish crap belongs.

Serious comment.

This. I've never heard of a college kid acting like that (when they aren't drunk of their ass). That kind of crap is so high school. Just blow him off, or remind him that as an adult he can get thrown in jail for that kind of stuff now. No more high school slap on the wrist penalties for fighting.

 

[caketastydelish]

I'm just gob-smacked by the fact that this is taking place in college. How the hell do people like this even get admitted?

I know. Even for a community college, it's a wonder how he got accepted. I'm just glad by the end of this semester I will have my associate's degree and be done with it.

This. I've never heard of a college kid acting like that (when they aren't drunk of their ass). That kind of crap is so high school. Just blow him off, or remind him that as an adult he can get thrown in jail for that kind of stuff now. No more high school slap on the wrist penalties for fighting.

I agree with you that he significantly lacks maturity, but shadow play is correct. Telling him this will only make things worse.

 

[Ayn Rand]

I went to the Spanish club after class (not the same as spanish class) and about 15 minutes after class ended I got a text from a number I've never seen before saying "where you at" which obviously already makes me think it's him, but especially because he talks in terrible English.

I think I know how this guy got in - what a great waste of society's resources.

Well, you are certainly in a losing situation here - under no circumstances whatsoever should you fight this guy. He is destined for a life in prison along with his fellow homies, don't let him drag you down with him.

Your best bet is to initiate the college discipline process immediately - put in a formal complaint of harassment, even go and make up stories - whatever. Remember, he will be making up stories about you and telling the authorities a pack of lies if you do get caught fighting, so get in first and get it on record. Just do anything at all not to let him screw your career up. And in your favour, you have those text messages as well.

 

[caketastydelish]

I think I know how this guy got in - what a great waste of society's resources.

Well, you are certainly in a losing situation here - under no circumstances whatsoever should you fight this guy. He is destined for a life in prison along with his fellow homies, don't let him drag you down with him.

Your best bet is to initiate the college discipline process immediately - put in a formal complaint of harassment, even go and make up stories - whatever. Remember, he will be making up stories about you and telling the authorities a pack of lies if you do get caught fighting, so get in first and get it on record. Just do anything at all not to let him screw your career up. And in your favour, you have those text messages as well.

You say you know how he found my number. I would like to know!

He only texted me once, saying "where you at" I replied (which I shouldn't have) by saying "who are you". This was because 1. There is some small chance that it could have been someone else (although almost certainly not) and 2. I didn't want to give away that he knows my number.

Still, that one text message could help, I suppose. Well yes, as other have suggested I plan on talking to a dean on Tuesday.

 

[ParadigmShifter]

Nice thinly veiled racism from Ayn Rand, for a change

 

[caketastydelish]

Nice thinly veiled racism from Ayn Rand, for a change

I fail to see how his post was racist. And for the record the guy in question is white (although I don't see why that would matter)

 

[Ayn Rand]

You say you know how he found my number. I would like to know!

He only texted me once, saying "where you at" I replied (which I shouldn't have) by saying "who are you". This was because 1. There is some small chance that it could have been someone else (although almost certainly not) and 2. I didn't want to give away that he knows my number.

Still, that one text message could help, I suppose. Well yes, as other have suggested I plan on talking to a dean on Tuesday.

You misread - I don't know how he got your number. But yes, that is the sensible thing to do. Talk to a Dean and that makes you look like the responsible person and gets you on the right side in case this does escalate.

Normally I would tell you to take a tyre-iron to his kneecaps, but with your entire future career on the line it pays to play it by the book in this situation

 

[NetGear]

This sounds like story from hs than college lol. If you don't wanna fight then just tell them you're not interested and don't get trolled. Judging by your story he sounds like he's mad at you so its not like he's trying to bully you. Also its only your story so I can't tell why he would be mad and if its legitimate. You could've unintentionally offended him or so many things I can't know with just your story. Anyway just nip it and avoid him if you can't talk it over. He also seems to be rubbing you the wrong way so id advise agst talking it over and just go with avoidance. Neither of you seem to be capable of clam talk witjout taking verbal pot shots at each other atm

That's alll I can comment just on your pov.

 

[ParadigmShifter]

"I think I know how this guy got in - what a great waste of society's resources."

Yay affirmative action.

"He is destined for a life in prison along with his fellow homies, don't let him drag you down with him."

Homies. I don't think he is referring to homosexuals. I'm guessing poor old Ayn read your post and assumed the antagonist was black.

Good to see he supports lying and cheating as much as possible though - he's destined to be a great leader.

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[caketastydelish]

"I think I know how this guy got in - what a great waste of society's resources."

Yay affirmative action.

"He is destined for a life in prison along with his fellow homies, don't let him drag you down with him."

Homies. I don't think he is referring to homosexuals. I'm guessing poor old Ayn read your post and assumed the antagonist was black.

Good to see he supports lying and cheating as much as possible though - he's destined to be a great leader.

Whether he's racist or not, he's supporting me (as well as most of the people that posted here) and I'm always happy to have people on my side. No the guy is white and not black, and of course that doesn't matter. But I don't want a flame war between you and ayn on this thread. Please take it to PM's with him if you must.

You misread - I don't know how he got your number. But yes, that is the sensible thing to do. Talk to a Dean and that makes you look like the responsible person and gets you on the right side in case this does escalate.

Normally I would tell you to take a tyre-iron to his kneecaps, but with your entire future career on the line it pays to play it by the book in this situation

Oh, I thought you meant you knew how he got my number. Well ok, talking to a dean is my next course of action.

This sounds like story from hs than college lol. If you don't wanna fight then just tell them you're not interested and don't get trolled. Judging by your story he sounds like he's mad at you so its not like he's trying to bully you. Also its only your story so I can't tell why he would be mad and if its legitimate. You could've unintentionally offended him or so many things I can't know with just your story. Anyway just nip it and avoid him if you can't talk it over. He also seems to be rubbing you the wrong way so id advise agst talking it over and just go with avoidance. Neither of you seem to be capable of clam talk witjout taking verbal pot shots at each other atm

That's alll I can comment just on your pov.

You separate "he's mad at you" and "trying to bully you" as if there is a legitimate difference, or even if it matters.

"Mad at me" is not justification for this kind of behavior. The only thing I did to "offend him" (that he told me) was that I was "yelling" at him, which by the way, I wasn't. And if I was "yelling" it was more like talking loudly. The content of what I was saying as well as my voice was not angry. We were playing a game in spanish class and I was talking about the game with him. He was the one that started with the anger, not me.

 

[ParadigmShifter]

I support you as well... People who resort to violence (or threats thereof) haven't got the social skills or intelligence to deal with things in any other way. Maybe he got into college because his Daddy was rich

 

[Pangur Bán]

http://www.michigandaily.com/content/schizophrenia-common-among-college-students
In the USA you have idiosyncratic policies for people with mental disorders, which means there are lots of nut jobs in college classrooms. I'm not BSing but saying this from experience. There were two guys in my dorm with mental disorders, and one of them tried to strangle a girl I knew.


If you contact people further up, or even even whatever student support service you have, that might be how your problem is solved. If there's something wrong with him they might know.

There may of course be nothing wrong with him and he just feels he has to settle a grievance, in which case shadowplay has it well enough.