Which Is better?

[warpus]

You might feel horsehockey now about what happened, but in the long run you'll learn from the experience and use your new-found knowledge to better approach your next relationship.

You gotta fail a couple times before you can truly succeed.

 

[Bozo Erectus]

You gotta fail a couple times before you can truly succeed.

Is there really such a thing? What would qualify as 'success' in a long term relationship? I see it as more of a process, with hopefully lots of little successes along the way. Thats the main problem people have with relationships. They dont realize that a mature, long term relationship requires work and dedication. They keep waiting for the 'and they lived happily ever after' part, and it never comes of course.

 

[IglooDame]

Loved and lost is better, unless she turns out to be psychowitch and stalks you until you end up shooting her in self-defense. In that case, the two are about even.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Definitely "loved and lost". I have never loved, but would gladly undergo heartbreak for the experience. After all, in my opinion sorrow is the purest of human emotions. To feel grief for the way something ends, but to still be glad that it happened, is what makes us human.

 

[Elrohir]

I think it's better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all.

Take that with a grain of salt, though, as I've never been in love. Crushes, sure, but they're not quite as serious.

 

[Mulholland]

Once you get over the losing part, you'll be better for it.

 

[BCLG100]

I can see what everyone means and yes im glad i did, right now though i'd have much preferred not too

cept the goldeagle part.

 

[GoldEagle]

I can see what everyone means and yes im glad i did, right now though i'd have much preferred not too

cept the goldeagle part.

I was actually just talking about relationships in general, and I was kind of kidding

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Theres the phrase 'Better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all'.

Anyway dont want this thread to turn into the whole your too young nada nada nada but was genuinly interested.

I'll put a poll in as well for poos and giggles.

I have loved and lost several times, and haven't gained any special enrichment out of it. All I have left are memories, some good, some bad. Had I never loved, I doubt I would've noticed.

I think the above statement is just one of those notions that's part of Western culture. It has no basis in fact, but people unconsciously adhere to it because they're raised in a culture that values love matches, as opposed to arranged matches.

 

[Kal'thzar]

Is there really such a thing? What would qualify as 'success' in a long term relationship? I see it as more of a process, with hopefully lots of little successes along the way. Thats the main problem people have with relationships. They dont realize that a mature, long term relationship requires work and dedication. They keep waiting for the 'and they lived happily ever after' part, and it never comes of course.

I have to agree with the last part here, I saw the rest of the people at school zip through relationships in a matter of months. Because basically when they got right down to it, neither was perfect and they couldn't be bothered to attempt to make it work, to compromise a bit etc.

 

[Moss]

Loved and loss...in the end, whether it be by death or by breakup...every relationship ends in a loss...but that doesn't take away all the years of love, and fun that the couple shared together. And the threat of losing someone usually doesn't stand in the way of people wanting to be in relationships, so I think that answers the question right there.

 

[puglover]

The person who wrote that phrase was obviously delusional after losing his girlfriend.

Actually, losing love probably made me more mature, and taught me what love is, but sometimes I wish I didn't have to feel the pain.

 

[BCLG100]

I was actually just talking about relationships in general, and I was kind of kidding

as was i, i just neglected to put the '' in.

Seem to have resurected some old pains in this thread so sorry folks

I think part of immediatly losing the person is the change in routine, you dont have that person to talk too/be with the majority of the time so theres a void that needs to be filled. Obviously much of it is that it was an imparticular person, lets just hope time really is a healer. Its been a week and its been a series of ups and downs but i head off to uni in the next few months so hopefully i should of forgotton about it then.