It's an intrusive DRM that tramples your rights.
If that's not enough to justify the hate for someone, then he's just another example of short-sighter people who don't look past superficial conviencen, or he's been brainwashed by the industry into believing they have all rights and he's just a peon to be abused.
Both cases aren't really something to be proud of.
That is a patently false argument and you know it. Tell me exactly how Steam violates your rights and maybe I'll actually entertain your argument. Not to mention gamers never had any "rights" to play the games they buy. Read your EULA that has existed in every game since the industry began. You are purchasing the privlege to play the game, a privlige the copyright holder can take away for any reason at any time. So don't pretend like gaming used to be a utopia of freedom that Steam crushed. It's just simply not true.
As for the idea that it's intrusive, I don't see what you're talking about at all. Never once has Steam interfered with my ability to play games. It also never changed anything on my computer without me okaying it. The only monitoring Steam does, is monitoring of what games I purchase through Steam so they can recommend future purchases, which I don't mind because they recommend some games that I might have otherwise missed.
So I should be mad at Paradox because the "offline mode" and "disable automatic updates" in Steam don't work as advertised?
I've compared PC gaming to console gaming as craft beers against your Bud Light/Miller/Coors before. I care little if gamers wanting to play FPS decide to buy them on consoles over PCs, thus swaying a large market share to the consoles. They can have the watered-down tasteless stuff. PC gaming has always been the home of niche markets that simply will not disappear unless personal computers themselves disappear (highly unlikely). Games like those that Paradox or AGEod produces don't work well with console controls--you can't put them on a console and retain the same quality as the PC version. I'd also say you can't put Civ4 on a console. Fake edit: don't bring up Revolutions, it is a pathetic substitute and proves my point.
I also think you underestimate the modding community. A small community may make them, but even mainstream games like (yes, I know I'm reaching back a little here) Rome: Total War or Battlefield 1942 have very successful mods out that a sizable fraction of the community plays.
I'm saying you should be mad at Paradox for releasing their games on Steam and then not implementing an update system that is compatible with Steam. If they want to have their own unique way of updating a game, then they shouldn't release them on Steam.
You do raise valid points on the PC/console issue. I agree with just about every point you raised. My main concern though, is that I don't want to see PC gaming fall behind again like it did a decade ago. Sure, PC gaming will never die, but it can fade into irrelevence in the gaming industry. I remember, as I'm sure you do, those days when almost nobody cared about PC gaming. Yes, there were excellent games made, but their sales weren't anywhere close to what they should have been, because none of the gaming media would cover them. In fact, a lot of PC's signature franchises either died or went on a very long hiatus due to what was perceived as poor sales. Steam changed all that and now PC gaming gets a lot more media coverage (though still not as much as consoles) and those franchises that were put on hold have been revived and we see almost yearly releases for some of them.
PC gaming is mainstream again, and despite some people's reservations about the evils of going mainstream, I think it will save the industry from irrelevence and keep PC gaming a strong and vibrant part of the gaming industry as a whole.