That's why I kept my prices lower than most other typists
I understand. But I think this is difference with someone who may openly rate or values themselves high, there's no element of manipulation within that context, but this one is more like "over-smarting" your partner and customer to get the better deal but instead you shot both you and your partner legs in the end.
I'd call that shortsightedness. People who would rather have a bird in the hand than even a hundred in the bush.
And also a bit of malice, some people get off on tricking others even if it's unnecessary.
I also think so, the funny thing is I always try to tell my friend/ex-partner about it by giving examples of others and I was hoping he can catch it and change, and he still doesn't get it and did the same mistake, I guess he is a kind of peoples who always mark-up or take more for himself from here and there and get satisfaction in doing so, so yes there's an element of malice.
But the thing is, we are a good friends in the sense that when I was in trouble he was willing to help and I'll be there to help him tackle a problem that's not completely my job desc as well, but when it come to money there's an element of greed, malice and shortsightedness.
Good thread. I'd recommend the book
Games People Play by Eric Berne. Here's an example of the "Why don't you / Yes But" game from the
official website:
A very interesting book. I really looking for a book like this, if I can't understand this issue clearly, I will have a serious problem with trusting others, and that's tiring.
This kind of irrationality drives me insane.
This has happened quite a lot. For instance, there's a new doner seller near my place, an older man. Once, I ate there and he served a very good Arabian durum (not the Turkish one).
So, I decided to help him. I bought lots of his durum to be eaten with my family, and spread the word to my neighbors by sharing it with them. Unfortunately, the durum he provided had meat that smelled off, indicating that it was days-old meat. Of course, after that, no one wanted to go there. In order to cover his loss he is doing a disservice to his own business by allowing me to distribute his near or already rotten products so everybody know how bad his products are. The last time I passed his store it was still open but the doner machine was empty. He essentially had nothing to grill there and no customers were coming in. It's actually a longer story, but I've shortened it. I mean, shouldn't he have expected that?
We also bought clothes in Turkey from a wholesale vendor. My sister and my wife previously picked the products themselves through a video call/conference, and they sold well. So, for the second time, I asked my in-law to go there to pick up products for us and asked them to give us their best items. However, they gave us products that were hard to sell. These were mostly clothing items with the text "Prada" or "Gucci" written on them, while my customers wanted authentic Turkish clothing, not fake look-alikes. So, yes, we couldn't sell those, and in the end, we also stopped buying from them. I mean, I'm really amazed. You can be a crook and aim only for your own interest and profit, not caring about others, but if they had used their reasoning, they wouldn't have harmed their source of income.
I suspect it's like this, there's a believe that other parties profit cutting your profit, so in order to maximize the profit you should minimize others profits.