Would You Date A Stripper?

[PlutonianEmpire]

I wouldn't not because i wouldn't want to, but because of the image that strippers have. Like Luiz i have major trust problems at the moment with my current g/f which along with other things is making the relationship a train wreck...

So i wouldn't because i couldn't the image of my g/f giving lap dances to other guys would just piss me off so much.

If i can't trust a 'normal' girl who hasn't got the tendency to show off her private parts to anyone then what chance would i have with a stripper.
Oh oh i know. None

Have you tried the "lets sit down and talk things through" tactic? I suggest all forms of communication. If nothing works, then dump her.

 

[Ancient Grudge]

Have you tried the "lets sit down and talk things through" tactic? I suggest all forms of communication. If nothing works, then dump her.

Yeah man have tried that approach, its just i know the trust issue is all my fault but then theres crap that shes done that i can forgive but can't forget.

Dumping her? If only she would let me so many major problems with her, unstable etc...

I always choose girls with major problems, what the hell is wrong with me?

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Dumping her? If only she would let me so many major problems with her, unstable etc...

She's not letting you dump her?

Just pack up and move out. don't call back, ignore emails, etc...

I always choose girls with major problems, what the hell is wrong with me?

Don't say that! You'll curse yourself! It's something I learned; if you say something negative (or positive, for that matter) about yourself, your mind takes it as truth, then turns it into a truth. Best thing to offset the negative stuff is to keep thinking positively, say positive things about yourself, like "I know I can solve this problem," engage in activities you enjoy, etc. Think of the term "self-fulfilling prophecy."

Also, is she a "gold-digger?" If so that may be part of the problem.

 

[Yoda Power]

No, I believe that you have certain commitments, such as not being naked in front of other men.

 

[MajII]

A better question to ask is, would a stripper date you?

I figure this will solve the problem for most of you

 

[Ancient Grudge]

She's not letting you dump her?

Yeah man exactly that... emotional blackmail and other such bullocks. It's not that i dont like her i really do but the relationship really ain't fun anymore.....

Just pack up and move out. don't call back, ignore emails, etc...

Last time i cut her out of my life to move on she OD'ed and i ended up at the hospital with her, she sent me a text just after she did and i rushed to her house...

Don't say that! You'll curse yourself! It's something I learned; if you say something negative (or positive, for that matter) about yourself, your mind takes it as truth, then turns it into a truth. Best thing to offset the negative stuff is to keep thinking positively, say positive things about yourself, like "I know I can solve this problem," engage in activities you enjoy, etc. Think of the term "self-fulfilling prophecy."

A manic depressive
A compulsive cheater/liar
A girl with anorexia (spelling?)
And a sucicidal one

So i think i've cursed myself for life man......

 

[Immortal]

Pfft, manipulative girls like that are garbage.

SEVER

 

[Ancient Grudge]

Pfft, manipulative girls like that are garbage.

SEVER

Sorry for kinda threadjaking your most brilliant of threads .

First time i've ever really talked about whats going on.....
Hmm sever yes, but i don't know whether i could live with what she could do to herself on my conscience......

 

[Immortal]

Sorry for kinda threadjaking your most brilliant of threads .

Think nothing of it kind friend.

but i don't know whether i could live with what she could do to herself on my conscience......

This is a huge problem with most "Nice Guys" they put everyone else before themselves. When is it YOUR turn to be happy?

There comes a point in a relationship when you know it is doomed, and I can tell you have reached this point. And since this girl sounds like an incredible manipulator, she will use your nice guy attitude to keep herself from feeling badly. In effect, she is using your misery to make herself feel good. Is this really something you want to be stuck in?

Tell her that you cannot live a lie, and neither should she. You cannot stay with her in fear that she will do something stupid.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

This is a huge problem with most "Nice Guys" they put everyone else before themselves. When is it YOUR turn to be happy?

There comes a point in a relationship when you know it is doomed, and I can tell you have reached this point. And since this girl sounds like an incredible manipulator, she will use your nice guy attitude to keep herself from feeling badly. In effect, she is using your misery to make herself feel good. Is this really something you want to be stuck in?

Tell her that you cannot live a lie, and neither should she. You cannot stay with her in fear that she will do something stupid.

I agree.

You could try asking her parents, if they're still alive, for help. They probably have had more experience with her than you have.

Another thing you could try would be to say "lets be just friends," but continue the current type of relationship--but without kissing or sex or romantic dinners. This should be done gradually. When the time is right, move out. If she's still gonna "be herself," then try acting like a jerk to her.

 

[Ancient Grudge]

There comes a point in a relationship when you know it is doomed, and I can tell you have reached this point. And since this girl sounds like an incredible manipulator, she will use your nice guy attitude to keep herself from feeling badly. In effect, she is using your misery to make herself feel good. Is this really something you want to be stuck in?

Tell her that you cannot live a lie, and neither should she. You cannot stay with her in fear that she will do something stupid.

No, not at all.

Thanks for the advice man, im off to bed to think about all of it, yay even less sleep then normal.

I really mean it, Immortal and Pluto thank you .

 

[CIVPhilzilla]

Wouldn't go out searching for a stripper to date, but if I met someone I liked and ten found out she used to be a stripper I wouldn't care.

 

[Cashie]

A better question to ask is, would a stripper date you?

Damn. I'm out!

 

[tjedge1]

Well, strippers would date me because I've been asked out and my sister used to tell me which of her friends wanted some alone time with me. I don't know though, it just always seemed weird to me. I could not watch her work, for sure.

 

[Darkness]

Sure, why not?
If I like the girl, why would I not go out with her?