I hadn't posted as I was sulking because of, not failing, but quitting on Monarch. I was doing well, friends with toku (until he turned like a bad dog), memed and ram. I was happily beating up cathy as I don't trust her as far as I can throw her, I was using cav which were dominant. I was about to take her capital then disaster, she gets cossacks. I wasn't paying attention to what tech she had, if I had paid more attention I could probably have cut off her horses or attacked a bit more efficiently. Oh well back to the drawing board.
I'm playing a standard monarch game to regain some confidence, then I will be ready for the next open challange. Good work all who are playing here, and to Guiar for organising.