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Virote_Considon

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Here's something I need to get off my chest, and I think Valentine's day is the ideal day to talk about this.

It all started about three months ago. I was walking along - all casual like - and what do I see standing before me, but the most attractive female I had ever seen :love:. We got talking - well, as close to talking as we could, because she has a speech impediment which makes her talk kind of garbled - and had a good time. She liked my jokes, I could tell, and things were hitting off great. However, there was a problem even at this stage. She had a boyfriend. Still, we exchanged phone numbers and email addresses and the like, and off I was on my merry little way.

So I didn't really hear anything from her for a couple of months until about a month ago, when she phoned me out of the blue. Apparently, her and the aforementioned boyfriend had split up a few weeks beforehand, and she wanted to meet up with me. "This is my chance" I thought to myself. However, there was one stipulation; because it was so soon after the break up with her boyfriend, she wanted to keep it on the hush - she didn't want everyone to think she was some kind of floozy.

So we spent the next couple of weeks meeting in secret and going to the cinema together, candle lit dinners, all that sort of stuff which I can't stand personally. After about two weeks of seeing each other, it was decided that we should tell other people, our close friends and our parents and such. My parents wanted to talk to me about something anyway, so I figured that would be the perfect time to tell them.

Now, here's where it gets complicated. I'm from a fairly strict Indian family, and they like things to be, how do you say... "traditional". So anyway, I decided to break the news to them that I was seeing someone alone - I figured if they found out about my girlfriend before meeting her, they'd take to her more kindly. I did however bring a photo of my lass so they could at least see her first. However, they spoke first, and revealed the reason why they summoned me - they had already arranged my marriage to another woman!:sad: Frantically, I told them about the girl who I had been seeing the past few weeks, and what she meant to me. At first, they were sympathetic to my story, surprisingly insisting that true love is worth more than the cotton fields they had received as a dowry! However, things took a turn for the worse when I showed them the picture of my girlfriend... You see, the problem is, my girlfriend is a reverse mermaid, and apparently it just isn't acceptable or something like that for me to be seeing her...

My dad's already threatened me not to go back to the house unless I've left my girlfriend, and my entire family has turned their back on me. :sad:

So, wat do?

tl;dr: Do I stick with the girl but alienate myself from society, or do I dump the girl and go through with the arranged marriage to this chick I've never even met, but have society's support?
 
I'd defer the matter to some of those several more knowledgable UK posters here who I think are ideally suited to answer the question of whether you should stay in the UK with your love or move back to India where you came from for your arranged marriage.
 
However, things took a turn for the worse when I showed them the picture of my girlfriend... You see, the problem is, my girlfriend is a reverse mermaid, and apparently it just isn't acceptable or something like that for me to be seeing her...
So your parents want you to only have relationships with ugly girls?
 
There's something fishy about your story Virote Considon. Your girlfriends physical disposition suggests no talk but lots of action, but it seems you've spent countless of hours on end with her enjoying the communication(!?). I feel I need to tail this thread closely, it's clearly a love story that has legs.
 
Do what you wanna do. Stop being a sissy about it and take the woman by the hair and bring her with you to tell your folks that she is your ho.
 
How big is the cotton field? Maybe you can request a few cows also. I hear in India they also give away cars and houses as dowry.

Milk your in-laws for all they're worth man.
 
Reverse mermaid? Is that some kind of euphemism for "she's not all that good-looking to most people"?

As for what to do: do what you want.
 
Be with her man.

Indian culture, as well as it may be, you live in the United Kingdom. You grew up (likely) around different cultures and different values. It is ultimately your choice and if your family chooses to shun you, in the end, it is their loss, because they aren't open to difference.
 
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