Breakup: what happens next

[GenMarshall]

What did you do to get back on your feet after a breakup?

I'm still in that phase!

 

[Narz]

My ex (we were together for seven years) is getting married, feels weird. The guy's kind of lame. I know I'm a tough act to follow but at least try girl.

 

[Yared]

Perhaps, she was looking for someone who's completely different from you?

 

[downtown]

Absolutely correct, though probably not in the way you imagine. I'm sure that if you're given a harem of twenty concubines to do with as you please, with any replacements you want ordered whenever you order them, you'd be over this break-up in around twenty milliseconds. Such is the nature of the male psyche.

I really don't think so, since the physical aspect isn't what I'm really missing. If I could hookup my way out of this, I'd just go down to Bourbon St and go pick up some tourists. I'm a fairly handsome guy.

Men do not draw their self-esteem or happiness from their thoughts, but from their achievements. After all is said and done, you are a man, and even a small amount of concrete achievement is a much greater source of comfort and strength than any social interaction, wallowing in your emotions, or other such weakening pieces of nonsense.

I've been lucky to have a fair amount of achievement so far...but my relationships (not just romantic)have made me happier than anything I've published, any processional accolade I've been awarded, or any athletic achievement. Those things are great, and they DO make me happy, but it isn't the same.

My greatest creative achievements (the best things I've published, the best songs I've written, etc) have usually come when I was fairly alone....but the other stuff has made me happier.

Perhaps, she was looking for someone who's completely different from you?

The whole thing really had more to do with commitment and distance than anything that I really *did* per se.

 

[Shaihulud]

Well im sorry for your breakup, my personal experience was that I have not gotten over mine in some ways, and that was 5 years ago but we all live and learn. There were others since, but those are not important. I think a good habit after breaking up is to immerse ourself in some positive activities like sports or community work. Friends are very important following a breakup.

 

[Yared]

I really don't think so, since the physical aspect isn't what I'm really missing. If I could hookup my way out of this, I'd just go down to Bourbon St and go pick up some tourists. I'm a fairly handsome guy.

Well, at least your confidence hasn't been shot down.

The whole thing really had more to do with commitment and distance than anything that I really *did* per se.

Oh yeah.