Well, trust me, I've had discussions with more than a few of those people. They definitely exist and not in small numbers.
I think they're still a serious, serious minority. I think the number of people that would defend what happpened in that OP is really small.
Anyway, what are your exact thoughts about spanking? Is it only okay if you don't feel any anger when you do it? By the same token, would the abuses described in the OP be okay so long as the abusers don't feel any anger when they do it? Is it a matter of causing physical harm? If so, how much harm is acceptable? Do you draw the line at "a bit of shock and awe is okay, so long as it doesn't hurt"? Or at "pain is okay, but cuts and bruises are not"? How about "visible damage is okay, so long as it's not permanent"? All of these borders are completely arbitrary and equally valid... which, by necessity, means that they're equally invalid
I think small, insignificant amounts of pain are OK, in certain cases. And I think there is a line between "A little over a line" and "You're a child abuser who needs prison time" as well. There are maybe certain cases that cross my personal threshold but should not be legally interfered with. There are certainly times when CPS does need to intervene.
Anger is irrelevant to the law. It would affect my moral view on it, but its irrelevant to the law. You can't legislate emotion.
I generally take the parents side when it comes to they should be allowed to raise their children the way they want, if its a gray area. The OP, however, clearly isn't. Ruining lives is not discipline. Torture is not discipline (I don't pull the crap about waterboarding not technically being torture so I'm not going to do it here either, causing severe pain and suffering over long periods is
torture and the OP fit.
Do you think it's okay for a ten-year-old to drink Coca-Cola? Probably. What if it was the ultra-old-school coke that still had cocaine in it? You'd probably say "no, that's against the rules"... even though cocaine and caffeine have the exact same effects on the brain (the difference being that caffeine lasts much longer). Where do you draw the line?
Cocaine and caffeine have the same effects? What? (I really don't know all that much about drugs.)
I think all drugs should be legal for adults (Even cocaine) but not children. The reason is that children are not adults and so are not yet considered to have sufficient wisdom and knowledge to make decisions that may ruin their lives.
Is eighteen a good age for adulthood? I have no idea. Its as arbitrary as any other line. Which is generally why I think of this as a bit of a curve rather than a hard and fast rule. 17 year olds can make far, far more decisions for themelves than 10 year olds.
I don't have any clear lines in the sand. Sorry.
As soon as you start saying "kids and adults alike have rights ABC, but only adults have rights XYZ", then that's no different from saying "I get to decide what rights another person has", which is, in turn, no different from "another person has no rights, only I do"
So if my 5 year old wants to drive on a public road, all well and good? Really?
I think I'm entitled to running water. It's certainly something that governments should strive to ensure that everyone has. And we pay for it through tax.
Now if this was three hundred years ago, I would be unreasonable to expect clean, piped water. But I live here and now; we have the technology to cheaply and efficiently deliver this service to the vast majority of households.
You don't have a right to anything off the backs of someone else's work.
If you could really "Pay through tax" you could just pay for it on the free market. Otherwise this is code word for "Someone else pays for it for me."