I'm probably quite superficial but a women being elegant/chic/exquisite is something I see within 30 seconds of meeting them, a certain unexplainable exoticness and usually they turn out to be bright and interesting people, rich or poor, fashion couscous or earth mother type, the only way i can explain it is that there is nothing superficial about them, so it could be a case of opposites attract. but there is something else, a sense of who they are, and they are comfortable with themselves,the french have a phrase, that something special... je ne sais quoi