Like I can tolerate the fact that I suffered some amount of pain whenever I get up, or whenever I lifted up something, or by the fact that I cannot do the sport that I like and I cannot build muscle as I love to and other things like that that usually makes me happy and healthy, but I can live and happy without all of that.
But I don't know if I can tolerate it if I end up just laying down on my bed unable even to sit down. I think again, if that scenario ever happened, being grateful for what I have, not for what I don't have still able to make me pull through even through that, and it may sound bit egoistical, but looking at someone who suffered worst than you and they can go through it better than you also makes you feel motivated. In this case, it's look like a stressors without relieve, a hardship without ease, or perhaps even behind the lack of basic health and behind the constant suffering from that, there is a relieve? I believe there should be, but I just cannot pointed it out where it's yet.
That's why peace of mind is the ultimate power. Eventually our power & vitality fade away and all we have left is our ability to enjoy whatever we have.
Quality relationships help too, hopefully when we're old & feeble we have people willing to take care of us.
sorry but it seems you don't really understand stress as a phenomenon or what drives it.
Don't stress yourself out bro.
just as an easy example of a physiological misunderstanding: working out does not cause stress. working out causes muscle strain, which is completely different and has nothing to do with stress. working out is empirically proven to be a way to reduce stress.
Working out is stressful on the body, a good workout provides just the right about of physical and mental stress/strain and your body and brain overcompensate to meet it which is why its healthy.
the same goes for your example of challenging work. challenging work does not in itself create stress. in fact, stress only occurs when the person in question thinks the challenge is too much, unsurmountable, when there is a negative psychological backlash. challenge does not inherently cause stress.
Sounds like you don't understand what stress is :
"
Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous.
Stress is your body's reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts,
stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline."
Stress in small amounts is good, in large amounts its bad.
lastly, you misrepresent the psychological phenomenon of flow. flow has absolutely nothing to do with stress and everything to do with challenge, skill, and continuously setting goals to activate the reward center of your brain. read some Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi if you are interested, he coined the phenomenon.
Bro I read that book nearly 20 years ago.
You should reread it. An activity that causes zero stress is unlikely to produce flow.
sex usually does not involve stress
Sexual arousal is form of stress. Without sexual
tension good sex is unlikely.
When I'm on drugs that make it very difficult to experience stress/tension I cannot perform sexually, something about the reward center of the brain probably, when it's already flooded with good chemicals it's hard to seek out pleasure because it is already there. No tension = no motivation for high-reward behavior.
Maybe it's possible to live in that place forever without the need for tension as motivation, maybe someone who's reached full awakening can do it.*
Regardless, being pathologically against stress is a wrong approach. Even if you view it as unequivocally bad you still have to face it and be able to weather it to surpass it.
neither does eating good food.
Eating is fun, not really a peak experience tho. Even with food without the stress of hunger there is no appetite. Eating feels good because you're solving a problem.
yeah, sorry, but your post is kind of bollocks. not scientifically right and not right in any other way, either.
*this guy who I've been hooked on listening to, Gary Weber, talks about how once he reached a state where his default mode network basically quieted for good his sex drive dropped dramatically, so maybe being enlightened is like being on mdma, very equinimitous and you can act but seeking behaviors (for pleasure, status, power, etc) lose much of their pull.
