Is Being Gay a Choice, Not a Choice, or both.

No one is born gay, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So gay people can be prevented.
 
Only gays can answer that question... Opinions of others are not valid.
Not sure if you were replying to me, the OP or something else... but, yes, in offering my opinion, I'm saying that based on what EVERY gay person I've ever known has told me.

No one is born gay, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So gay people can be prevented.
lol, your title is wrong.
 
No one is born gay, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So gay people can be prevented.

No one is born black, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So black people can be prevented.
No one is born an epileptic, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So epileptic people can be prevented.
 
Not sure if you were replying to me, the OP or something else... .

I was reply to the OP. That is usually the case when I do not include a quote. Don't know if others here have a different forum participating protocol.
 
Gays are commonplace enough if ancient greek and roman cultures are any guage. It is my understanding that only when christianity became a dominant force in that part of the world that gayness results in "unfortunate accidents in dark alleys"

:p
 
lol, your title is wrong.

In literature, the antagonist is that against which the main character or protagonist contends. An antagonist is often a Villain, but may be a force of nature, set of circumstances, an animal, or other force that is in conflict with the protagonist.

No one is born black, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So black people can be prevented.
No one is born an epileptic, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So epileptic people can be prevented.

People are born black, people are born with ailments. People are not born communist, gay or smart.
 
People are born black, people are born with ailments. People are not born communist, gay or smart.

being gay is not an ideology :lol:
anyway, who are you to tell gay people how they have been feeling their whole lives...
 
being gay is not an ideology :lol:
anyway, who are you to tell gay people how they have been feeling their whole lives...

Gay was an example of things we are not born as. I can tell gay people that they are not born gay and the choice they made will keep them from reproducing, which is the only reason humans are born, thus making them a useless human.

Moderator Action: Not a particularly nice turn of phrase.
 
Gay was an example of things we are not born as. I can tell gay people that they are not born gay and the choice they made will keep them from reproducing, which is the only reason humans are born, thus making them a useless human.

i wont comment on the term "useless human" or else i would be banned...
have a nice day
 
Gay was an example of things we are not born as. I can tell gay people that they are not born gay and the choice they made will keep them from reproducing, which is the only reason humans are born, thus making them a useless human.

If my only purpose is to reproduce, then there are a lot of things I should just stop doing. How can a completely able-bodied person be useless? They can still work and think can't they? And honestly, where are you getting your facts that people aren't born gay? I can't believe that it is simply a result of people being raised a certain way, because gay people don't come out of predictable situations, which is why its a surprise to some people when they find a family member to be gay. I cannot believe it's a choice, if only because every gay person I know or have heard has said its not one. I'd think they would know.
 
Of course it's not a choice. You can't just switch from straight to gay. It doesn't work like that, or most of us would be bisexuals.

No, most of us just don't want to be gay.
 
People are born black, people are born with ailments. People are not born communist, gay or smart.
Uh, intelligence is well known to be heritable.
 
I always loved spinach and brussel sprouts. My sister hated it. We were both served the same meals as kids.

So, when did I decide I was 'attracted' to those dishes? When did my sis decide not to? And when I say decide, I mean a conscious decision. Which is what makes a choice.

I prefer brunettes over blondes. When did this happen?

Maybe some events took place in my youth that caused this preference, but it sure as heck wasn't a choice. I figure sexual orientation works the same way. Since I never made the choice to be heterosexual.
 
gay people chose to be gay about as much as I chose to be straight....

of course, a gay could force himself to live a straight life, but that wouldn't change the fact that he's gay.
 
From the Almighty Wiki

Blanchard and Klassen (1997) reported that each older brother increases the odds of being gay by 33%.[21][22] This is now "one of the most reliable epidemiological variables ever identified in the study of sexual orientation."[23] To explain this finding, it has been proposed that male foetuses provoke a maternal immune reaction that becomes stronger with each successive male foetus. Male foetuses produce HY antigens which are "almost certainly involved in the sexual differentiation of vertebrates." It is this antigen which maternal H-Y antibodies are proposed to both react to and 'remember'. Successive male foetuses are then attacked by H-Y antibodies which somehow decrease the ability of H-Y antigens to perform their usual function in brain masculinisation.[21]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation
Do you mean the 4% chance increases by 33%? Or the chance itself increases first to 33% then by 11%, then by almost 4%, etc.?

Because if the second one is what that study meant, then, well... my grandfather had 7 brothers and 4 sisters. So does that mean that about 4 of the male children were gay? :lol:

No one is born gay, no one is born anything. You are shaped into what you are in youth. So gay people can be prevented.

QFT.
 
Of course it is not a choice. What a totally ridculous idea. 100% of all gay people I know say they did not make a decision to be gay.

That said, one can, of course, choose not to have any sexual contact with people of the same gender, just like one can choose not to conduct any sexual activities at all.

And apart from that, a heterosexual can participate in homosexual activities.

And there ar people in this world who are mentally screwed up. They might suffer form various types of psychich issues. I guess one of them might be that one participates in something one doesn't fancy.
 
I imagine sexuality when you break it down is a mixture between orientation (what turns you on), attraction (who you want to partner with), and action (who you actually partner with). While for many/most all of the above are the same, variations and differentiations do occur.

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Of course it's not a choice. You can't just switch from straight to gay. It doesn't work like that, or most of us would be bisexuals.

Perhaps most of us are.

I think the whole question of gay/straight/bi is actually a relatively modern creation. We like to define things as 'male' or 'female', without simply acknowledging that we all just 'are'. Physically, most of us are mostly either male or female in terms of body parts. Orientation wise... perhaps some of us are more definitively masculine or more feminine, but we all probably fall somewhere along the spectrum, depending on combinations of genetics, social upbringing, friendships and open-mindedness.
 
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