I just think a public interaction at the borderline would help moderators and the community understand each other a bit more. I see it as more of a discussion than a guessing game. PM interaction between an infractee and he mods is just difficult, because the poster is likely riled up and his arguments are not taken as credible to the extent that a third party's take may be. Perhaps if there is a post that x number of posters want public discussion on and the poster and moderator (if it was infracted) agree, we could discuss it. I do like your suggestions for relaxed moderation upthread, but I do not see that happening.