Male pattern baldness.

[Borachio]

It's a very mild form of body dysmorphia, I think.

If people don't like the look of me generally, should I get wound up about it, then?

 

[warpus]

Those who are balding are simply further up the evolutionary ladder than the rest of us. Why do you need hair on your head anyway? You don't. You used to have hair on your nose too, but now it's gone, because evolution. So next time you see a bald man, tip your hat, because that man is one step closer to being a God.

 

[luiz]

Those who are balding are simply further up the evolutionary ladder than the rest of us. Why do you need hair on your head anyway? You don't. You used to have hair on your nose too, but now it's gone, because evolution. So next time you see a bald man, tip your hat, because that man is one step closer to being a God.

If I lived in Canada I'd not only want a head full of hair, I'd want a head full of long, voluminous, warm hair.

 

[luiz]

If people don't like the look of me generally, should I get wound up about it, then?

I would. I'd rather be poor than ugly. Ugly people have hard time in this world of ours.

 

[Borachio]

Pshaw!

What nonsense is this? My mother was one of the ugliest people you could imagine setting eyes on.

She said it was an advantage. If someone liked her she knew it was for herself and not her looks. And she was by no means unsuccessful.

 

[luiz]

Pshaw!

What nonsense is this? My mother was one of the ugliest people you could imagine setting eyes on.

She said it was an advantage. If someone liked her she knew it was for herself and not her looks. And she was by no means unsuccessful.

Looks are part of yourself. If someone likes for your looks it's just as legitimate as liking you for your intelligence, or great sense of humor. Being born intelligent is an "unearned advantage", just like being born good looking or rich or whatever. This whole delegitimizing of caring about looks is IMO a ploy of ugly people

 

[Borachio]

Right. OK.

Don't mind me if I think your approach is shallow, will you?

I think we live in a society which is over-concerned with appearance (and youthful good looks). And we'd do better to be more interested in content.

 

[luiz]

Right. OK.

Don't mind me if I think your approach is shallow, will you?

I think we live in a society which is over concerned with appearance. And we'd do better to be more interested in content.

I'm not saying my only approach is based on looks, I'm just saying it's as legitimate an approach as any other one. My personal approach is balanced over a number of factors, of which looks of course are one (if I'm talking about dating), but so are intelligence, "attitude towards life", manners, etc.

 

[Borachio]

I don't agree. I don't think it's as legitimate as any other. I think it's the least valid of our considerations. I can't think of anything which matters less.

Which isn't to say it doesn't matter at all. Someone who smells, and looks dirty... smells and looks dirty. And probably represents some kind of health hazard.

 

[luiz]

I don't agree. I don't think it's as legitimate as any other. I think it's the least valid of our considerations. I can't think of anything which matters less.

Which isn't to say it doesn't matter at all. Someone who smells, and looks dirty... smells and looks dirty. And probably represents some kind of health hazard.

Well you can weight your preferences however you want. Some people care very little about looks, others care a lot. Both are entirely legitimate. Why is you personal weighing of qualities any more valid? In short, why are looks necessarily less important than say sense of humor?

 

[warpus]

I wouldn't date a funny bald woman, but I might date a rich funny bald woman.

 

[Farm Boy]

Well you can weight your preferences however you want. Some people care very little about looks, others care a lot. Both are entirely legitimate. Why is you personal weighing of qualities any more valid? In short, why are looks necessarily less important than say sense of humor?

Depending on the type of relationship you are in not all partner traits are created equal. If you're looking for a one night stand, sure, being crazyballs hot might be the primary criteria involved. You know, aside from absence of nasty and highly contagious forms of crotch rot. If you are in a longer term relationship, let's take attempting lifelong marriage as the example, then looks are merely one thing and (generally)pretty damned far down the scale. Kindness, ability to argue productively, willingness to share work and cooperate, sense of good humor, loyalty, honesty, all of these are much more likely to impact overall happiness in the relationship. The novelty of physical attractiveness wears off, just like the novelty of the same old jokes I tell all the time wears off. Long term stable relationships are a different beast that doesn't seem to treat physical attractiveness an important weighting factor very kindly. Plus, inevitably, if you manage not to die young, youthful good looks will fade.

 

[luiz]

Depending on the type of relationship you are in not all partner traits are created equal. If you're looking for a one night stand, sure, being crazyballs hot might be the primary criteria involved. You know, aside from absence of nasty and highly contagious forms of crotch rot. If you are in a longer term relationship, let's take attempting lifelong marriage as the example, then looks are merely one thing and (generally)pretty damned far down the scale. Kindness, ability to argue productively, willingness to share work and cooperate, sense of good humor, loyalty, honesty, all of these are much more likely to impact overall happiness in the relationship. The novelty of physical attractiveness wears off, just like the novelty of the same old jokes I tell all the time wears off. Long term stable relationships are a different beast that doesn't seem to treat physical attractiveness an important weighting factor very kindly. Plus, inevitably, if you manage not to die young, youthful good looks will fade.

It's about personal preferences, really. I do agree that looks matter less the longer the relationship lasts. And after you're really old and essentially sexless they of course don't matter at all. But they will matter to different degrees to different people. I've been in one long term relationship (nearly 4 years) and looks still mattered a lot for me near the end (though obviously not as much as in shorter relationships).

So while looks may not be one of the keys for a successful long term relationship, the fact remains a lot of people will never go into a long term relationship with someone they don't find good looking. So in reality looks are key for long term success, for them. In reality we will only get to know some of the other good traits a partner might have, like honestly, loyalty, etc. after a relatively long relationship which started because of physical attraction (among other things, of course)!

 

[bhsup]

I am frustrated by the slow pace the top of my head is taking to go completely bald. The front half went fast, but the back top is still there. I want the Dick Cheney look. But until the entire top goes, I just buzz my entire head.

(No, Mr. Bond, I expect you to die.)

 

[Farm Boy]

It's about personal preferences, really. I do agree that looks matter less the longer the relationship lasts. And after you're really old and essentially sexless they of course don't matter at all.

Well, sure, it is about personal preferences. I find a couple things unsurprising though. One that as sexual liberation increases the divorce rate increases. That's probably a good function of good things as more people are empowered to get out of the trap of toxic relationships. Two is that as the constant drumbeat of marketing, advertising, media, internet porn, etc etc etc remains deafeningly loud, the divorce rate increases. It's hard to value as a society the things that make youthful good looks so important and not crowd out the things that make loving long term relationships work. They can be cross purpose values. And yet people wind up feeling lonely. This is less good. Not good at all, really.

Though I think the sexless pensioner/elder is a fiction the young sell to themselves so they can avoid sexy sexy flabby flabby mental imagery. I don't know that the aged aren't enjoying themselves capitally. They seem to be at least some of the time.

So while looks may not be one of the keys for a successful long term relationship, the fact remains a lot of people will never go into a long term relationship with someone they don't find good looking.

That's probably true. You have to get through the short relationship before it becomes a long relationship. People seem to either wind up being a happy single, lonely, or they learn to adjust their expectations.

 

[Zack]

Those who are balding are simply further up the evolutionary ladder than the rest of us. Why do you need hair on your head anyway? You don't. You used to have hair on your nose too, but now it's gone, because evolution. So next time you see a bald man, tip your hat, because that man is one step closer to being a God.

So how long have you been bald?

 

[duckstab]

Thankfully baldness comes from the mothers side and that means I will never go bald. Me father is partially bald and he doe s a comb-over. Frankly it looks terrible and if I were to go bald I would just accept the fact and move on.

Male-pattern baldness is to some greater degree influenced by a gene found on the X chromosome, which is why men are usually told to look at their maternal grandfathers to know if they're going to get it. But, unfortunately, it's not the whole story. It can also be influenced by paternal genes and even environmental factors:

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-...s/20050527/blame-male-pattern-baldness-on-mom

 

[AlpsStranger]

My bald spot is the least of my flaws lol

 

[Lefty Scaevola]

Thankfully baldness comes from the mothers side and that means I will never go bald. Me father is partially bald and he doe s a comb-over. Frankly it looks terrible and if I were to go bald I would just accept the fact and move on.

Sorry, I think you have that backwards. IIRC male pattern baldness is carried largely on the X gene, even though is needs the Y gene to be expressed. Females with two Bald X genes develop thin hair overall, but no particular bald spots. Anyway for my baldness, none of the above, do not care, other than the increased propensity for sunburn. I wear a hat in the sun and would do so anyway to protect of areas of the head, neck, and shoulders, regardless of bald or not.

Best Bald Joke:

If you go bald in front first, you are a thinker.
If you go bald in back first you are a lover. *
When you go bald all the way from back to front, you think you are a lover.


If you are actually down about your you baldness try this option; nobody notices you baldness when you are carry a battle axe.

*some biological basis there. The male pattern bald in back first tends to be accelerated by higher testosterone levels.

 

[Borachio]

I thought going bald in front was an evolutionary trend; because it extends the area of the face as it blushes red with anger, enabling the bald one to more easily face off his competitors without having to resort to expensive brute force.