Zardnaar
Deity
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-57690857
Article is about Australian men. They're allowed to cry.
At a funeral
Winning or losing a grand final.
Various negative consequences, suicide and domestic abuse.
It's very similar here at least with my generation and older. Never saw the ol man or brother cry, neither of us cried at my mother's funeral. Women said "you took that well". Uncle didn't cry at his mother's funeral.
Cried like a baby (in private) before the funeral. Sister and wife gave me space so grieve alone.
Australasia may even carry it to extremes as we generally regard American men as cry babies at least stereotype from American TV. Americans that I've met tend to be more passionate/expressive publically as well though eg happiness.
Our suicide stats are also terrible with young men espicially Maori. Their culture often tends to play up the warrior culture and Rugby is a big thing here and the haka is famous. Which is a war dance.
Very rare to almost unheard of to see men cry in public outside a funeral or a tragedy. Death of pet will do it as well.
So stiff upper lip inherited off England influenced by the Maori and colonial legacy (do it yourself, sort out your own problems). More Scots proportionally espicially where I live and older generations (Welsh, Scottish).
Been three years since mum died still have an occasional nightmare but NZ harden up
Big shortage of shrinks and mental health stats are terrible. Growthing up we didn't even know what a therapist was and had to figure it out via US TV. They existed but never heard about them until later in life.
So probably not the best approach.
Article is about Australian men. They're allowed to cry.
At a funeral
Winning or losing a grand final.
Various negative consequences, suicide and domestic abuse.
It's very similar here at least with my generation and older. Never saw the ol man or brother cry, neither of us cried at my mother's funeral. Women said "you took that well". Uncle didn't cry at his mother's funeral.
Cried like a baby (in private) before the funeral. Sister and wife gave me space so grieve alone.
Australasia may even carry it to extremes as we generally regard American men as cry babies at least stereotype from American TV. Americans that I've met tend to be more passionate/expressive publically as well though eg happiness.
Our suicide stats are also terrible with young men espicially Maori. Their culture often tends to play up the warrior culture and Rugby is a big thing here and the haka is famous. Which is a war dance.
Very rare to almost unheard of to see men cry in public outside a funeral or a tragedy. Death of pet will do it as well.
So stiff upper lip inherited off England influenced by the Maori and colonial legacy (do it yourself, sort out your own problems). More Scots proportionally espicially where I live and older generations (Welsh, Scottish).
Been three years since mum died still have an occasional nightmare but NZ harden up
Big shortage of shrinks and mental health stats are terrible. Growthing up we didn't even know what a therapist was and had to figure it out via US TV. They existed but never heard about them until later in life.
So probably not the best approach.
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