Gentleman, but a chicken. Does that make me a rooster?
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Xanikk999
History junkie
Why is that? What effort have to do anything with the end result?
LucyDuke
staring at the clock
If every single person you meet tries to sell you a bicycle, aren't you going to get sick of the "no, I would not like to buy a bicycle" conversations? A girl can get cheap sex anywhere, and as far as cheap sex goes, you're probably not special. Be different, be interesting, look at her face rather than her assets, then maybe you won't seem so cheap and she'll actually want to see more of you. (Ahem.) Your drive is irrelevant. Hers is the dealmaker.
Besides, if there is no end result, shouldn't the effort be reconsidered? Has your experience demonstrated otherwise?
Xanikk999
History junkie
Im not a girl, but i really doubt that woman are approached all the time for sex by random strangers.
Doesnt seem to be the case. Its just not in a womans nature to make the first move.
Well thats not going to change until i get some experience, and i cant get any experience if im not special? I hope your actually just one of the shallow exceptions.
How do you know where i look? I actually think the face is the most attractive part.
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WHAT? Im cheap? You just said a woman can get sex anytime she wants, and you also seem to come off as arrogant and controlling. You seem to be cheap not me.
Theres only no end result because some woman are shallow. I guess il have to wait til i get older because woman at this age ARE VERY shallow.
TheBladeRoden
Deity
Or just go for the older women straightaway ;p
Xanikk999
History junkie
LucyDuke
staring at the clock
That's not what I said. And of course it's an exaggeration. But what I'm saying is that a signifigant percentage of the men that approach a woman for whatever reason are interested in taking her to bed, even if they're not overt about it.
She doesn't have to make the first move. That's a really naive thing to say.
As for the rest of your post, please recognize that I was not talking about you personally. I don't know you, Xanikk. The sense of "you" I was using was the sense "one", as in "when you go to the store", like "when one goes to the store". I am not calling you cheap. Every reference to "cheap" in my post was to meaningless casual sex that is not special with anyone, you personally or otherwise. And of course I don't know whether you look at her face or her cleavage, but most guys look at her cleavage. If you are looking at her face, you're doing better than most already in the department that actually matters. I'm sorry that you took offense, Xanikk, I meant absolutely none.
The behavior I'm talking about is not necessarily my own. I don't think it's fair to call me shallow, arrogant, controlling, and cheap just because I am candid about how some women act. When I tell you about my own life, you're welcome to judge me.
Listen to the oracle Xanikk. It'll do you some good.
But Lucy, I don't think that choosing the slut option here guarantees failure. I can be interesting, and yet still be quite open about what I'm looking for in a 'relationship'. The fact that some women ignore what I say and assume I'm looking for their sort of relationship doesn't make me a gentleman (in this definition).
I can talk to a girl and not think solely about going to bed with her, but if things become interesting, I will be thinking solely about going to bed with her, rather than thinking about saving it all for our upcoming wedding day.
But Lucy, I don't think that choosing the slut option here guarantees failure. I can be interesting, and yet still be quite open about what I'm looking for in a 'relationship'. The fact that some women ignore what I say and assume I'm looking for their sort of relationship doesn't make me a gentleman (in this definition).
I can talk to a girl and not think solely about going to bed with her, but if things become interesting, I will be thinking solely about going to bed with her, rather than thinking about saving it all for our upcoming wedding day.
Mise
isle of lucy
I saw "sex" and clicked on it.
LucyDuke
staring at the clock
I think my issue with the slut option here is that it's "deliberate" rather than "random". Even if sex is your goal, it seems to me to be much easier to get there if you're open for whatever rather than going out hell-bent on getting laid. You say it yourself - you can talk to a girl and not think solely about going to bed with her. Based on that alone, I don't think you're deliberate. Nobody has chosen "playboy", as though everybody's going out, picking a target, and taking her home.
But then I reread this...
and I realize I've somewhat misinterpreted deliberate. What I was thinking was a much more focused, intent plan than just a little bit of forethought. These options overlap quite a lot, but if "deliberate" here is that liberal, I stand down.
Ingvina Freyr
wants a Steamfree option
According to the definitions offered I'm currently acting like a mix of slut and playboy although being a gentleman at heart. 
I must admit I'm not to fond of the negative sounding terms "slut" or "playboy".
I must admit I'm not to fond of the negative sounding terms "slut" or "playboy".
Swedishguy
Deity
I think I'm a gentleman (I have never dated).
